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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2017-04-21
Dear Sarah, I will just spell this out. I am 29 and am deeply in love with a man who is 32 years older. He is brilliant, about to retire from a career that I am familiar with through my work in a similar field. We adore each other. We never fight, and give each other plenty of reasons to stay together. I love his excitability and he loves my calmness. We can get through the comments of being 'father and son', but people are so stuck on age that they cannot help themselves from rudely insulting us in many other ways. I will not allow myself to write them here, giving them credence. It suffices to say that people can be disgusting and cruel, which is nothing new to us. We intend to get married, no matter what others think, or what happens to either of us in the future. Love is...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2017-03-31
Dear Sarah,   Over a year ago I purchased a glassed in bookcase, very lovely and old, in dark oak. There were a couple of old books in it and the elderly lady(landlady)who sold it to me said to take it all from her basement. I paid her cash, it was only $ 200, and I was able to bring it up the stairs with help from my son. A few months later she called me and said that her nephew wanted it returned. He told her that she should not have sold it, that it was part of his family heritage and he wanted it back. She was very upset, and I think her nephew was speaking to her in an abusing way. I told her not to worry, there was nothing to do about it now as I had purchased it fair and square but to get back to me if there was future disagreement with her nephew. She never did call...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2017-03-21
Dear Sarah,   I am one of three children, the middle child. Our parents are both gone now. When mom died three years ago and more we saw that she quit deeded the house to me, and when it was to be sold the proceeds to be split evenly among all three of us. I let my younger brother live in it free until recently when I asked him to find another place to live because it needs to be sold. He got all mad and left it filthy for me and my husband to repair and clean up because he was angry with me, but so far I am the only one who pays the taxes on it. My older sister lives in town with her boyfriend and is anxious for her portion of the sale as well. The thing is, I want my paid taxes to come out of the sale of the house before the spilt but the other two say no to this. This is not...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2017-03-02
Dear Sarah, There are so many ways to look at the issue I bring to you that I am not certain that you can give me a pat answer. I will try to relate my story as I saw it unfold. About 7 months ago I was dining with my cousin at a restaurant about 30 minutes out of my town. It is a cozy place where people can talk in shadowed corners without necessarily being overheard or maybe even seen. I hadn't seen my cousin Edward for years so we were catching up on so much stuff that it took us forever to look at our menus and then to order dinner. So we were deep into each other's news. When our plates came I looked up to thank the waiter and who do I see but my girlfriend's husband with somebody other than her. They were acting very intimate over the table, holding hands, she was gazing...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2017-02-18
Dear Sarah,   My sister Jane is on Army PTSD disability. Recently our father died and left us a little money, and now Jane now has gotten herself involved in what I believe to be a scam. She called me yesterday to confess this to me, and said that she has known these people for quite some time. She has already given these people $ 38,000 from her small inheritance and has not told her husband about this. She never contacted her lawyer either. These people claim they will teach her how to find investors for house flipping, and offer her support by giving her names and phone numbers to contact. She says she will get it back and more when the deals are done. Isn't this just a come on to bilk people out of their money? Why would they need to get her money if they have investor names...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2017-02-06
Dear Sarah,   My husband and I are having this ongoing conflict about our 15 year old daughter. We pay over 35K for her to attend a private academy and so far this has not been a good investment. She doesn't study, her grades are very poor, she smokes pot, and she has had gotten her only warning (first and last) about using that substance on school grounds. I think we should forget about sending her there next year, and her father disagrees. He feels she needs to "cut the crap" and study harder, which means that I have to come home from work and play the heavy with lots of yelling and aggravation while he comes home later and makes nice with her. I work primarily to pay for her education and I feel that this is not fair to me. She could go to public highschool, still give us...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2017-01-17
Dear Sarah, I own and operate a growing hobby/card shop. I like the business a lot, get to meet a few people who are regulars, and a couple have become friends. I have been in a romantic relationship for 4 years. We are both in our early thirties. It has been everything I needed and wanted and my girlfriend Michelle I know felt the same way about us. In our relaxed life style everything kind of fit.  We liked the same foods, the same neighborhood. She often would help me in the store at night when we are open for various card swaps and show and tell for the younger groups. We have friends in common, love our hiking vacations, and totally enjoy our two black cats Boris and Tink who hang with me in the store. Within the last year a few problems have arisen. Ever since Michelle...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-12-30
Dear Sarah, I worry about my parents. Mom is 79 and Daddy is 81. My sister and I met at LAX the week before Christmas and visited with them in Brighton Mass. and noticed a sharp decline in ways that are not healthy for them. Mom doesn't want to cook and clean any more and Daddy has very little desire to pick up the slack. So, the house is not clean, and they eat what we used to call TV dinners, canned soup, and Entenmann's coffee cakes. They are both thinner than they were last April, but told us that they get checkups regularly. They do have good doctors and adequate medical coverage so that is a godsend. It's just that they both have changed so much in less than a year and it scares us both. We know that independence is very important to them. We talked about it after we left...
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By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-12-22
Sarah wishes every one of you a peaceful and blessed holiday! $(document).ready(function() { var id = $('#ytplayerEVju9W'); var tw = id.width(); var th = Math.round(tw / 1.778); if (th < 300) { th = 300; } id.height(th); });
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-12-15
Dear Sarah,     How does a person socialize without getting 'matched' at every social event?  I like being single, am good at it, and now at the age of 44 I am good with remaining a bachelor forever. The problem is everyone I know seems to know a woman who I would supposedly love to meet, it is getting ridiculous. I am not shy and can make my own arrangements. My sister is the worst offender because she works in an office with hordes of women and is always trying to blind date me. When I tell her and others no thanks they get hostile, ask me if I am gay, or insist I tell them what is wrong with me. I have told many people that I am not a person who wishes to have a mate of any gender. What the hell, I like the simplicity of bachelorhood, am not...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-12-03
Dear Sarah,   I am an only child who has been married to a man (Bud E.) for 24 years, he has 2 younger sisters who are still unmarried and we have one daughter who is a special needs young adult. Until recently my husband Bud was always saying that he wished he had a brother to spend s ome at home time with, to be with to go fishing and hunting in the Fall. It was always especially hard at holiday time as he was always the only man. He has long been est ranged  from h is mother and his father died of pancreatic cancer five years ago. So it has been hard on him. He works very hard on the third shift at IBM (12 hour shifts). About five years ago around the time his father died we got a phone call from an unknown caller who started the...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-11-14
Dear Sarah,   I am so glad that I can write this letter anonymously because I wou ld never accuse anyone of wrong doing without proof. It is worrisome to me that my good friend and neighbor about a block away has been sort of missing. When I say missing I mean that the person I   walk with every afternoon is unreachable. I have been to her house twice in three weeks knocking on her door,  call her cell phone. No answer with a 'full message' recording. W hen I see her husband with the dog he tells me that she has digestive problems but it isn’t serious. I am definitely not a nosey person, but I am concerned for her. We have been walking together with our dogs for more than 4 years, and in that time we have confided...
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Dear Sarah In Recess


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-09-04
Dear Sarah will be taking a break. I look forward to hearing you soon, date to be announced. 
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-08-29
Dear Sarah, I live in an apartment in NYC with my elderly parents. We are on the 5th floor, a walkup. Our neighbor Mr. P. recently passed away, he was old but would climb the stairs twice a day, just like my parents and I do. He lived alone, but every morning a middle aged man would come upstairs and knock on his door, then he would leave for the day with this man and come back for a while in the afternoon then go out for his dinner. A different  man would wait for him in the evening in the inner lobby. He came home shortly after nine every night, this was his daily schedule. The thing is I do not believe that he had a heart attack. His apartment is still filled with his belongings, nobody has come for his things, or cleaned and re rented the apartment. I would like to have this...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-08-12
Dear Sarah,   I was a 51 year old married woman, living all my life in the Midwest. I was unhappy with my marriage and after my daughter left home and married life became dreary. I started visiting a chat room for people over 50. That did not go all that well because most of the men were looking for women younger than I, and there were other issues as well that turned me off. So, I drifted into a chat room for people over 60. I met a man who lived in central New York, educated, retired, congenial and very amusing. We got along extremely well for about a year, exchanged photos and personal information, and then decided to meet. I left my husband and flew to meet him in New York. He was very handsome! We had a terrific time, went on a cruise together, and then I moved into his...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-07-28
Dear Sarah, I have two sons, one is a math teacher at a private school and the other, the other is having a really hard time finding himself and getting off his addictions. They are both in their forties. I try to keep us together as their father is deceased, but it is becoming more and more impossible to do this. I try to have a functioning family, but it is so hard. I invested in a business for them both but it ended up being a disaster due to infighting over one son using a lot of the money for drug deals. The latest problem was at my elder son Nick's home where he lives happily with his wife and two beautiful young boys. It was a birthday party for my younger son Adam who had just gotten out of rehab. Nick discovered him later in the evening in his bedroom, strutting in front...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-07-06
Dear Sarah, I am a mechanic who works in a large car dealership with 27 bays. I have a lot of certifications, I mind my own business, and am very good at what I do which is everything. I keep to myself, work every other Saturday with a smaller crew and have seen things on those days I would rather not know. I am arguing with my girlfriend about what to do about theft of other peoples tools. A mechanic needs his tools, unfortunately some people are too stupid to remember to lock up. I say that person should learn from this mistake and my girlfriend says to report the person who is stealing which I am not going to do. What do you think? Signed, No snitch   __________________________ Dear No snitch, Nobody wants to be a snitch. Your co worker owes it to himself to...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-06-30
Dear Sarah, Every summer our family has a wonderful reunion at my brother's farm. A few do not make the trip, but there must be at least 150 people who come from all over for a huge potluck, with games for the kids and adults, lots of live music, and plenty of beer and soda to last all day and night. For the most part it is always a positive trip to see family again, let the kids just "go" and play on the water slide or run around while the parents play horseshoes, softball, or chat and catch up with family and friends. Everybody watches out for them no matter who they belong to. There is another one coming up at the end of July that I really am looking forward to. There is a problem for me with my father's brother in law (married to his sister). He molested me just once when I was...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-06-22
Dear Sarah, What does a good neighbor do when his neighbor is not a good one? Since my neighbor's wife died years ago the situation has become hard to take. Her has fouled the creek that we share by dumping an old gas stove on a hillside that overlooks it, thrown a legged bathtub on his side that I can easily see. He sprays pesticides on the trees that overhang it ( there are laws against this), and his front porch is covered with stuff that never sold at his tag sales - to the point that he has to use the garage to get into the house. I have brought this all to his attention twice and he says he will clean it all up, but what about the creek water and all it feeds and irrigates?  I already got in touch with EPA, they have been by to water test but the damage is all down stream...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-05-31
Dear Sarah, I have a friend who I have known and worked with for over 15 years. I have watched her descend into alcoholism, helped her family with work and meals, helped her through breast cancer, listened to her husband and her children worry and cry over her self destruction, I even went to Alanon meetings to try to understand and cope with her problem. Those meetings never helped me. She has been jailed and rehabbed many times, and I don't see the old friend there anymore. The children and her husband put my name on CPS paperwork as the support person without my permission. When I mentioned this she tells me now that she no longer trusts me, I can't believe it. When is it okay to give up on a person, when can I just walk away, because it is killing me. I feel guilty because she...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-05-14
Dear Sarah, I am an older man, 78, a widower, my wife passed away three years ago. She suffered terribly and bravely with lung cancer, died at home with hospice with our daughters there every minute. I met a slightly younger widow lady on the golfcourse, she seems very personable and attractive. I would like to ask her out for a dinner date, maybe after that a little dancing, and get to know her better. But. My daughters. I need to tell them that I need my private space now, but don't want any drama. They visit quite often, bring me food I do not need, fuss around about the house, and are forever snooping into my private business. It is as if they consider me some kind of project. I try to be nice to them. I know they are trying to help, but do not feel I can trust them to be...
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dear sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-05-08
Dear Sarah, I have a serious problem. My wife and I became friendly with our next door neighbors about 4 years ago, we did a lot of things together, and last summer went on a vacation to Rockport, Mass. together. On that vacation we stayed at an inn. It was a romantic place on the water, and one night after dinner, then drugs and booze we decided that since we liked one another so much we would switch partners. Well, that didn't go very well so we decided to all go to bed together the next night. It was weird. To make a long story short Vern and I ended up watching our wives go at it. It went so well for the women that when we came home nothing was the same. Our wives have moved out and now live together. The thing is, I want my wife back. What we did was stupid, fired by too...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-04-23
Dear Sarah,        Several years ago I met a fellow worker that I became friendly with who seemed to be a decent good and hard working guy. He got another job and we lost contact with each other. In the past we talked at least once a day via cell phone and on two occasions I loaned him some money which he paid me back the following week. I heard from him the other day and was glad to hear from him again, however he needed money again, he lost his license and needed a small amount to tide him over, I said I would do what I could to help him out.        I forgot to get his address so my wife looked him up and found out he is a registered sex offender, now this blew us both out of the water as we got to like this guy and considered him a friend. This happened 16 years ago but...
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dear sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-04-18
Dear Sarah,   I live in the Northeastern part of the US, in a college town, and I don't know if what happens here is happening everywhere, but the way young women dress is terrible. I see young could be attractive women come into my store wearing combat type boots, men's t shirts and manly looking jackets with jeans all the time. The t shirts sleeve holes are down by their elbows - can't they buy a shirt that is made for a woman?  As a man I wish I could see women around here actually look like women. Do they feel they need to look like boys and men to be anonymous or something? I don't get it.   Signed,   Perplexed   -----------------------------------------------   Dear Perplexed,   Perhaps women where you are do not feel the need to dress up just...
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dear sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-04-13
Dear Sarah,   I went to NYC a while ago and ended up in an indoor market type place with some really nice women's fashions and other things as well. I bought a terrific unlined mohair coat there and exchanged business cards with the designer who sold it to me. She called me (instead of emailing me) to let me know of other venues and products. So, my husband and I went back to the city, took a friend to lunch, then stopped in to this market to check it out. The odd thing was that when I introduced this woman to my husband she snubbed him, openly. I thought that was really strange. Now she is literally stalking me, leaving messages on my email since I asked her not to call. "When will I be coming back to the city, would I like to meet her in Aruba, she knows of a few great getaway...
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dear sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-04-03
Dear Sarah, I worked in the restaurant industry, and commercial kitchens are notorious for all kinds of horrible behavior from the cooks to the wait staff. Couple this with rampant alcohol and substance abuse and it pretty much describes the environment I worked in. Not that I was an angel. In the last 12 years I have made a lot of contacts with a lot of different people, but the ones that stick like glue are the alcoholics. I cannot seem to figure it out, but drunks love me. Unfortunately it has become a huge annoyance even though I have moved away and started a new life with a family. 3 people call me and talk while loaded, making no sense generally. Why do they pick me? Is it because I was raised by 2 alcoholics and remain calm, and seem non judgmental? Because believe me...
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dear sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-03-30
Thank you to all who take the time here for thoughtful commentary. The letter writers have found the commentary to be helpful advice. You all rock! I will be taking a short holiday, see you April 2nd.
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dear sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-03-21
Dear Sarah,        After twenty five years of marriage, I fear my husband has gone off me. He will not talk to me and I have tried many times to bring up the subject, gently, to have him shut down. I know he loves me, but I miss the physical part of our relationship. Should I keep trying to get him interested again? Should I accept what seems inevitable and try to move forward? I feel he should have the decency to talk to me about what is going on, if he really does love me. This has built quite a wall between us and anything I say seems to make it worse. I have tried seduction which leads to nothing but rejection and my feelings being hurt. Sleeping on the couch seems less lonely than sleeping together but alone. Please help.   Signed, Lonely Heart....
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dear sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-03-09
Dear Sarah,   We have a fourteen year old son, no other children. He is a B+ student, skis and snowboards. He is also involved in acting and takes lessons in dance and singing. We love to go as a family or with friends to the youth summer stock plays in the area and encourage him in this activity, and they are actually very well done. The children work hard and learn a lot. Seeing him and his friends on stage is a huge pleasure.   The thing is, I think he is exhausted. He has temper outbursts at times, has had a hard time for a while now with a broken wrist in a snowboarding accident. Then he picked up some kind of long lasting flu, now a cough. The doctor says he is okay, to keep him home from school if necessary, and we have done that once or twice so that he could sleep as...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-02-26
Dear Sarah, I started a small baking business last year and sell my goods in farmers markets. I truly enjoy the baking and meeting people, love the open air in the warmer weather, and also being indoors now, with one exception. There is a man who sells his Italian sauce to all the markets. He is a stalker who loves to stand at my tables and hawk his sauce to whomever shows up to purchase my cookies. He is basically obnoxious and pushy and obviously annoys people. He even follows potential customers around at the other tables, accosts them, and tries to pull them away to his table so that they will buy his stuff. He is literally chasing people away from the open markets, and we as a group do not know what to do about it. We have complained first to him and he just laughs it off, and...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-02-18
Dear Sarah,   Mom died suddenly seven weeks ago. She was only 69 and we thought healthy, but her friend came to get her for their weekly grocery shopping trip and found her in bed and too weak to go anywhere. She called 911 and my sister and I met them as soon as we could in the hospital. We also have a brother who came to join us after she died that night. She had three strokes. Honestly it was a blessing that she passed away because the second stroke left her in a very bad way. It was terrible. It is hard enough to bury your mother, but now we have the added complication of the fact that she died without a will. My mom didn't own a whole lot but her house was paid for. It was assessed by the town for $169,000 two years ago. Our brother keeps telling us that Mom wanted...
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dear sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-02-09
Dear Sarah,   I am a field rep for an electronics firm and usually three times a year I help out at the trade shows, setting up, hosting, demonstrating, and supervise the breaking down. I became acquainted with a few other field reps throughout the years and we generally close up after the show and meet in somebody's room, unwind, gab and drink, some a lot. This last time I came in a little later than usual and walked into one heck of a conversation. If you can call it a conversation. The women were trashing their husbands, it was unbelievable. The stuff they talked about was truly not stuff to put out there. I left. I had nothing to 'share' because my wonderful husband died of leukemia three years ago so the whole ugly situation made me very sad.   I went to my room and...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-02-04
Dear Sarah, I am sorry to write this letter to a stranger, but it is best. I cannot accuse somebody of theft without proof, but we do have a thief in our place of worship and I am fairly certain of who it is. We have two daughters who have grown up with the daughter of friends of ours, they went to Sunday School together and also to the same school. Every time this child came to play or visit something of theirs would come up missing. First it was a goodly sum of money that one daughter had earned babysitting, then it was various pieces of jewelry and a sweater, then a sweatshirt. Who knows what else has gone missing and from other families as well? Most times the discovery wasn't made until a little later. Now there are items missing from the coat closet at church where we all...
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dear sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-01-27
Dear Sarah,   I am not good at writing and do not remember that last time I wrote a letter to anyone. I will try to say the things I feel.   I have a girlfriend for now 3 years but we do not live together. We are out of school and have pretty good paying jobs, I make more than she does. Kelly and I met at a coffee shop where she would run in and out after buying her coffee. I always stay and read the paper before work. She is so beautiful to me. More than I ever thought a woman could be for me. Being with her is like heaven. Let me just say it. We made a mistake and she got pregnant and even though I wanted her to keep the baby she got an abortion. Just like that she got rid of our baby, my baby. I had something to say about it and we could have worked it out but she said...
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dear sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-01-18
Dear Sarah,   My husband and I intend to drive north to visit family and one friend in two weeks, something we look forward to every year. This friend does not seem to have any pressing issues, nor is she particularly ill or financially hurting. The problem is her constant complaining. We cannot seem to get her to talk about anything other than what pertains to her past and future illnesses, her trials with her husband and children, her long dead mother's abandonment, her annoying new neighbors, etc. No matter what the subject starts out to be she will turn it around to her and her troubles, and that conversation will go on and on, morph into yet another issue of hers and eventually it will be time to say goodnight or goodbye. I am already getting myself worked up tight about...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-01-11
  Dear Sarah,   I am so pissed! When   my father in law was living with us we got into it over me having my own bank account which my husband knew about. I told him it was none of his business. I work and have a job that pays well.   I put a small portion of my paycheck into this account and it pays for my therapy and my manicure, and a few odds and ends for the house during the week.   Now I just found out that he convinced my husband to open his own account,   went to the bank with him and opened one. This was done out of spite -   why can't he just mind his own business?       Signed,   Feeling betrayed   ----------------------------------------------------------------------------    Dear Betrayed,...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2016-01-04
Dear Sarah It is New Year's eve and I have the greatest pleasure by staying in my home and celebrate the New Year eve with my dear family instead of attending 2 different parties that I was invited too. So why did I choose to go to neither one of them? Do I dislike the company, is it too far away or do I simply don't be able to enjoy myself since I would have to be the designated driver? None of the above reasons hit the mark. It is the fact that both parties are potluck( as always lately) and I am tired and annoyed by it. Being a very good cook myself, I have no problem of making something fabulous and sharing it with a larger group, but it has now become the norm. People expect something fabulous, but themselves bring the normal, hummus, cracker bowl, veggie crudites or dry...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2015-12-31
Dear Sarah,   Recently, I was contacted by a person I used to be friends with. They apologized to me for all the things they did wrong. The apology sounded true enough and I was tempted to write back, but stopped short of doing so. I have to say, that looking back on our friendship, I am not sure how I feel. While it was true we had some great times, there were other aspects to our friendship that I didn't enjoy. I know this is going to sound nuts, but our friendship felt more like an abusive lover. Get closer, but not that close kind of thing. Would suddenly not call me back for no reason, etc.    Anyway, they said that they were aware of this, and promised that they had gotten help and is doing better. Should I forgive and forget, or should I listen to the warning...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2015-12-17
Dear Sarah, Yet another holiday gathering with my crazy mixed up family to NOT look forward to... We have atheists who come to the house to tear down the Christians and tell them they are idiots to believe what they do, we have Christians who are more than willing to sermonize on the evils of homosexuality and abortion, and to pontificate on the evils of the world. We have conservatives and liberals who cannot wait to get to our home and bear down on one another, flinging policies and economics around like bombs across the dinner table. I think I will put a LOT of rum in my eggnog and let somebody else worry about the row this year. Do you have any ideas how to deal with this opinionated and yes, very rude family? Signed, The tired cook...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2015-12-07
Dear Sarah, My kids are not baptized. My grandfather is a deacon at a Catholic Church in my town which I guess is a fairly important thing in his church. Today he sent me a Christmas card and instead of Merry Christmas he said when can I baptize my great grand babies. I have 6 children ages 17-2 and my husband and I are not into organized religion. My grandfather is getting up there in age and I feel badly that I haven't allowed him to do it yet. I know it's something he holds near to his heart and he doesn't have much time left. Should I have the baptisms done even though my husband and I do not believe?  Signed,  Torn                                   ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dear Torn,  It is really all about...
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2015-11-30
Dear Sarah, I have a friend who is home bound and recently sent me a nasty message about what a poor excuse I am for a friend. I spoke to her last in September. She is bi polar, diabetic, has had a stroke and a heart attack and refuses to realize she needs some sort of assisted living. She has had services come in and each time she sends them away with a F off because she doesn't like them. She has alienated all her friends and family and has no one but me. I have been trying to pull away recently. I can not be all things to her. In October she was supposed to have more services come in, she no doubt sent them away and was waiting for me. I am not a perfect friend but I believe I am a good friend. Not hearing from her, I assumed she was getting what she needed. Why didn't she just...
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Thankfulness


By sarah reasoner grey, 2015-11-23
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Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2015-11-17
Dear Sarah,   My wife and I love to entertain. During the holidays we usually host four or five gatherings. My problem comes from within my extended family. My brother in law is an unacknowledged alcoholic, my cousin has been an AA member for over 20 years, and there will be teenagers present. I am a bit of a wine connoisseur and my wife a marvelous cook. We are like the dynamic duo when it comes entertaining. Most of my family members do not have an alcohol problem but things get tense when they see my brother in law downing our fine wines like cheap plonk. Further, my cousin starts his diatribe with the BIL right before dessert and liqueurs- every year. I wouldn't dream of not inviting these people,

Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2015-11-11
Dear Sarah,   I am an older gentleman, a widower. My wife passed after many years with stroke. I cared for her myself until that sad day. We never had a lot of money, but managed to raise two lovely daughters. One lived within driving distance and we spent nearly every-week end with her and our two grandchildren and her husband. Our grandson became a doctor. I saved whatever I could, and put that money and a small inheritance from my sister into a portfolio and had that managed by my bank. This was meant for my daughters upon my death but I recently allowed my son in law to take it over when he convinced me it made more money with his financial institution. I found out that he put all my holdings into his account! He has stolen all my money! I don't know what to do now. He...

Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2015-11-04
Dear Sarah,   I work in a tight knit company. For the most part we get along, socialize after hours, and pull together during our working days. The business is a seasonal one, with periods of intense work when we have little time for lunch and slower periods when we all share potluck.  I have a problem that is making me boiling mad. All the employees keep their lunches in the one refrigerator provided. On more than one occasion my lunch has been stolen. The first time I thought it was accidental. My expensive deli sandwich disappeared on a Friday, the day the fridge is generally cleaned out. However, my lunch has disappeared on three more occasions. I am a bit of a foodie and pride myself on my cooking. I am also a single guy in my early thirties. I am not happy when I get...

Dear Sarah


By sarah reasoner grey, 2015-10-30
Dear Sarah,  My husband and I live in a condominium community. In the past most every one of our neighbors tried hard to be considerate and to get along, socialized together and helped one another.  We did not mind the business of others even though it is at times difficult to avoid hearing through floors and walls. Recently there was a lot of gossip going around about two of the married women in the complex. At first the one neighbor was assisting the other with her paralyzed husband, helping to lift him, helping with cooking and laundry etc.  As time went on it became obvious that the two women had become intimate. A small group of neighbors insisted on "talking" with the husbands, but I believe that infidelities need to iron themselves out privately, and I said so vehemently....