Former Boston College student charged in boyfriend's suicide

  
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By:   Erik Ortiz

Former Boston College student charged in boyfriend's suicide
Prosecutors allege that Inyoung You of South Korea told Alexander Urtula hundreds of times to kill himself and sent him more than 40,000 texts in the months before he died.

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A grand jury indicted a former Boston College student this month in the death of her boyfriend, who attended the same school and took his own life less than two hours before his graduation ceremony, prosecutors said Monday.


Inyoung You, 21, who is from South Korea, faces a charge of involuntary manslaughter in the death of Alexander Urtula, 22, Suffolk County District Attorney Rachael Rollins said at a news conference.

You is currently in South Korea, Rollins said, but authorities are "cautiously optimistic" that she will voluntarily return to the United States.

"If she does not, we will utilize the power we have to get her back," Rollins added.

Prosecutors allege that during the 18 months that Urtula and You dated, she exerted control over him, tracking his movement via his cellphone and sending thousands of texts in the run-up to his death.

"She was aware of his suicidal thoughts," Rollins said, "and she encouraged him to take his own life."

Urtula, a biology major originally from Cedar Grove, New Jersey, and a member of the Philippine Society of Boston College, died after authorities say he jumped from a parking garage on   May 20 — the same day   he was supposed to walk in his commencement at Boston College.

Prosecutors said in the two months before he took his own life, he and You exchanged 75,000 text messages, with more than half coming from her.

Rollins said the texts appeared to become "more frequent, powerful and demeaning," even though You knew of Urtula's "spiraling depression." The texts allegedly included repeated messages for Urtula to kill himself and to "go die," and that the world would be better off without him.

The situation echoes another case in Massachusetts in which a young woman, Michelle Carter, was   convicted of involuntary manslaughter   in 2017 for the death of her boyfriend, Conrad Roy III. The case drew national attention and   was the subject of an HBO documentary   this year,   "I Love You, Now Die: The Commonwealth vs. Michelle Carter. "

The case against Carter hinged on text messages in which she appeared to prod Roy to "take action." Both Carter and Roy suffered from depression, attorneys said at the trial.

Carter began serving her 15-month sentence earlier this year; her most recent   request for parole was rejected   last month.

Roy's death has inspired a state bill known as Conrad's Law, which would make it a crime, punishable by up to five years in prison, for anyone who "intentionally coerces or encourages" a suicide or a suicide attempt.

Rollins acknowledged the bill and the Carter case Monday in announcing the charge against You.

"The culprits are both the girlfriends in those circumstances, but where I would distinguish, and I think the facts will show, in Carter there was very limited physical contact prior and some very egregious language in the moments leading up to the death," Rollins said.

"We have, quite frankly, the opposite of that," Rollins said regarding Urtula's and You's tumultuous relationship. "We have a barrage, a complete and utter attack on this man's very will and conscious and psyche by an individual to the tune of 40,000 text messages in the two months leading up."

Prosecutors added that You instructed Urtula hundreds of times to kill himself, and that she tracked him through his cellphone to the parking garage where he would take his own life.

"You was aware of his location and was present on the roof of the parking structure at the time that he did jump," Suffolk County Assistant District Attorney Caitlin Grasso said.

Investigators also found Urtula's journal entries and conducted interviews with family and classmates who said they witnessed the abuse he suffered.

Neither You nor a representative for her could be reached for comment.

"A perpetrator is not limited by their gender or the gender of their partner," Rollins said. "Domestic violence may not always look the same, but it is always about power and control."

If you or someone you know is in crisis, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at   800-273-8255 , text HOME to 741741 or visit   SpeakingOfSuicide.com/resources   for additional resources.

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JohnRussell
1  JohnRussell    3 weeks ago
40,000 text messages in the two months leading up.

40,000/60 = 666 text messages a day.    

A 16 hour waking day has 960 minutes.   So she was texting him appx every minute and a half, during every hour she was awake, every day for two months.   And he was texting back almost as much. 

 
 
 
Trout Giggles
1.1  Trout Giggles  replied to  JohnRussell @1    3 weeks ago

I think she has a serious mental health issue, too

 
 
 
Freefaller
1.1.1  Freefaller  replied to  Trout Giggles @1.1    3 weeks ago
I think she has a serious mental health issue, too

I agree but also believe she was not the only one with issues in that relationship

 
 
 
Ed-NavDoc
1.2  Ed-NavDoc  replied to  JohnRussell @1    3 weeks ago

That gal is one sick puppy!

 
 
 
Kathleen
1.3  Kathleen  replied to  JohnRussell @1    3 weeks ago

Yes, I was thinking the same thing.  Sounds unreal. 

 
 
 
JohnRussell
1.3.1  JohnRussell  replied to  Kathleen @1.3    3 weeks ago

If you are texting to someone 650 or 700 times a day, over the course of months, I dont think there is a court in the world that wouldnt say you are mentally ill. Even in these times. 

 
 
 
Kathleen
1.3.2  Kathleen  replied to  JohnRussell @1.3.1    3 weeks ago

Some kind of OCD.

 
 
 
Buzz of the Orient
1.3.3  Buzz of the Orient  replied to  Kathleen @1.3.2    3 weeks ago

Yes, I've seen examples of that - even on NT.

 
 
 
Ed-NavDoc
1.3.4  Ed-NavDoc  replied to  Buzz of the Orient @1.3.3    3 weeks ago

Quite frequently as a matter of fact.

 
 
 
Paula Bartholomew
1.4  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  JohnRussell @1    3 weeks ago

666..perfect number for this she devil.

 
 
 
Freefaller
2  Freefaller    3 weeks ago

You gotta love texting, now perpetrators spell out their guilt in writing

 
 
 
MrFrost
3  MrFrost    3 weeks ago

Some statistics on texting.

On average, American adults sent and received 32 texts per day, totaling 18 billion texts every day, 541 billion texts every month, and 6.5 trillion texts every year.May 18, 2016

And that's from 2016. 

To the story... 

She is one sick puppy. 

 
 
 
Freefaller
3.1  Freefaller  replied to  MrFrost @3    3 weeks ago
On average, American adults sent and received 32 texts per day,

This is one of those times I am glad to be doing something in a below average manner

 
 
 
Trout Giggles
3.1.1  Trout Giggles  replied to  Freefaller @3.1    3 weeks ago

You, too? I might text twice a week

 
 
 
JohnRussell
3.1.2  JohnRussell  replied to  Trout Giggles @3.1.1    3 weeks ago

The most texts I have ever made in a day is somewhere around 15. 

On most days it is zero or one or two. 

 
 
 
Paula Bartholomew
3.1.3  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  Trout Giggles @3.1.1    3 weeks ago

I have never sent a text and never will.

 
 
 
JohnRussell
3.1.4  JohnRussell  replied to  Paula Bartholomew @3.1.3    3 weeks ago

There are actually people, mostly young people but could be older also, that only want to text, and dont want to actually talk on the phone.  More like that then you might think. 

 
 
 
1stwarrior
3.1.5  1stwarrior  replied to  JohnRussell @3.1.4    3 weeks ago

So true - when texting got to be the big fad, our daughter was texting between 7,500 and 10,000 a month.  The most hilarious thing was when she and her girlfriend were in her bedroom, three feet from each other, laughing at the texting they were sending to each other.

Now, she's only down to 4,000 a month.

 
 
 
1stwarrior
3.1.6  1stwarrior  replied to  JohnRussell @3.1.2    3 weeks ago

I might get up to four a day and usually it's to answer my wife's question 'bout something.

 
 
 
Paula Bartholomew
3.1.7  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  1stwarrior @3.1.5    3 weeks ago

When I was at my doctors, a mother and daughter (age 12 or so) sitting next to each other were texting each other.

 
 
 
Buzz of the Orient
3.1.8  Buzz of the Orient  replied to  Freefaller @3.1    3 weeks ago

Me too.  On average I text about one text every two weeks, and receive about one a week including unanswered ones from my cellphone's server updating me on how much deposit I have left.  My phone is for phone calls, and it does not have email or internet access.  No way am I a slave to my cellphone.

 
 
 
Freefaller
3.1.9  Freefaller  replied to  Buzz of the Orient @3.1.8    3 weeks ago
My phone is for phone calls, and it does not have email or internet access.

Buzz same here (it's actually a 15 yr old flip phone).  Like Paula I don't actually send texts ever, but like you I receive one every now and then.

 
 
 
Paula Bartholomew
3.1.10  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  1stwarrior @3.1.5    3 weeks ago

Does she realize that she could develop Texting Thumb?

  • Texting Thumb is a repetitive stress injury that affects the thumb and wrist. Pain and sometimes a popping sound are present on the outside of the thumb at or near the wrist. There can also be a decrease in grip strength or range of motion.
 
 
 
Kavika
4  Kavika     3 weeks ago

Sad, but she seems to have as many mental health issues as the guy.

 
 
 
Buzz of the Orient
4.1  Buzz of the Orient  replied to  Kavika @4    3 weeks ago

Maybe when she's in jail, and if not allowed her cellphone, she might get cured cold turkey.  I wonder what the withdrawal symptoms of cellphone deprivation would be.

 
 
 
al Jizzerror
5  al Jizzerror    3 weeks ago
You instructed Urtula hundreds of times to kill himself

She put it in writing (texts).

Lock her up!

 
 
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