Emma Watson says she's 'self-partnered'. Here's what that means — and why it's not a bad idea

  
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By:   Danielle Page

 Emma Watson says she's 'self-partnered'. Here's what that means — and why it's not a bad idea
Celebrities like Emma Watson and Gwyneth Paltrow are re-framing traditionally negative relationship statuses and helping remove the stigma. Here's how to go from 'single' to 'self partnered.'

Maybe it's me and I am far too serious, but when I hear terms like "self-partnered" or "conscious uncoupling", it sounds to me like these people are trying to make the mundane into something more worthy of their high and mighty selves. Am I wrong? And what is worse, is it's now being sold to us by some pop psychology. Maybe everyone should just grow up and not have to put a tag on the mundane.

What do you think?


S E E D E D   C O N T E N T


Approaching a milestone birthday inevitably forces us to evaluate what we've achieved and where we feel we've fallen short — both personally and professionally. In a recent interview with   British Vogue , actress Emma Watson said one thing she's made peace with as she nears her 30th birthday is her current relationship status. "It took me a long time, but I'm very happy [being single]. I call it being self-partnered," she said.

What does that mean, exactly?   Carla Marie Manly , a clinical psychologist based in California sees merit the idea. Manly describes the relationship status this way: "self-partnering focuses on the ideal of being happy and complete as a solo individual. A self-partnered person would feel whole and fulfilled within the self and does not feel compelled to seek fulfillment through having another person as a partner." That doesn't necessarily mean a self-partnered person doesn't date or never hopes to get married someday. It's that they're taking the time to know themselves first. "To be truly self-partnered, one must often invest a great deal of time and energy on personal development," says Manly.

Why re-framing relationship status is trending now


Watson isn't the first celebrity to shift what's normally viewed as a negative relationship status into a positive. In 2014,   Gwyneth Paltrow used the term "conscious uncoupling" to describe her divorce   from Coldplay singer Chris Martin. Why has reclaiming these terms become a trend now? "There’s a big shift in renaming the terms of relationships because there’s also a huge shift towards individuality in younger generations who are no longer wanting to be defined by the standards of traditional generations," explains   Travis McNulty , a therapist practicing in Florida.

"People form opinions based off of labels traditionally used to define a person’s relationship status, but when Emma Watson and Gwyneth Paltrow come out and use phrases like 'self-partnered' and 'conscious uncoupling', it challenges the psychological implications and narratives behind the phrases being 'single' and ' getting a divorce '," McNulty continues. "These terms remove the stigma associated with someone who may identify as either of these and ultimately lets people know, 'I’m OK.'"

How to truly be 'self-partnered'


Greater focus on personal goals, more emotional energy for friends and family and being free of the social burden of "needing" to find a partner are just a few benefits Manly says come with being self-partnered. However, you'll only reap these if you do the work to get there. And that goes for folks in relationships, too. "The work involved in being self-partnered is helpful for every individual — whether they are in a relationship or not," says Manly. And as long as your partner is supportive in your pursuit, Manly says some of the best self-work can be done within a conscious, loving relationship.



  • Strive to love your own company.   "Although it’s normal and healthy to want to be with others, it’s important to also nurture feeling at ease without others — and   loving your time alone ," says Manly. "Whether it’s eating out solo, going to a movie alone,   reading books   or volunteering on your own, your self-esteem grows when you consciously learn to love your own company."


  • Start journaling.   "You can learn so much about yourself — your strengths and weaknesses — by devoting quiet time each morning or evening to write a few, unfiltered paragraphs in a private journal," says Manly. "Different from motivational or   to-do lists , this journaling is all about learning more about who you are without judgment."


  • Evaluate the types of people you're drawn to.   "If you find that your relationships have had a certain unhealthy theme (e.g., codependency, emotional abuse, etc.), take the time to engage in psychotherapy or bibliotherapy to determine why you are drawn into such patterns," says Manly. "By using the dynamics of former, failed relationships to learn more about yourself — your own part in unhealthy patterns — you will learn a great deal about yourself." For those who are in relationships, Manly says to explore the role vulnerability and interdependency play in your partnership. "These factors are often left somewhat unaddressed in self-partner work given that it does take two people — two partners — to experience the deep fears and resulting growth that can occur as vulnerability and interdependency are explored." If these conversations feel too difficult to navigate, Manly says working with a relationship therapist can help.


  • Join a confidential group.   "Particularly if   you can’t afford personal psychotherapy , confidential groups can be an amazing source of support and an excellent forum for self-work," says Manly. In the group Manly runs, many women have noted that this kind of support has helped them achieve   self-improvement   by sharing with others in a safe space. "Such groups allow participants to learn from others and become more confident,   self-aware   and empowered. All of these elements are key to feeling (and being) self-partnered."

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Buzz of the Orient
1  Buzz of the Orient    one month ago

Thanks for posting text as an alternative to video.  I agree with your opinion.

Emma Watson is known to be somewhat of an odd-ball, a person who follows the road less travelled.  One can change the language describing obvious situations probably for the purpose of disguising the reality of them, either to comfort themselves and/or to impress others.  Manly uses the gobeldegook of her profession to confound others and make a living by doing so.  Maybe Watson is happy in loneliness, but that changes when one gets more mature, because companionship is rewarding, eventually desired, and IMO leading down the more travelled road to necessity. 

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
1.1  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  Buzz of the Orient @1    one month ago

At 30 years old, declaring yourself anything is just a youthful endeavor. What bothers me more, is that it is given such credence. Maybe your right that this over the top language is used to hide her feelings, but why do we have to embrace this silliness?

I agree with you that companionship is rewarding. Sad that a 30 year old can't see that. 

 
 
 
MrFrost
1.2  MrFrost  replied to  Buzz of the Orient @1    one month ago

Buzz... Not everyone else's problem that you live in a country that doesn't allow videos. ALso, I see a LOT of video's coming out of China on Youtube..... How is that possible? 

If you do not like the laws in China, perhaps you should move and stop blasting others for posting things you cannot watch because you live in an oppressive country. I agree with you 99% of the time, but it really isn't our problem you can't watch videos we post. 

 
 
 
Buzz of the Orient
1.2.1  Buzz of the Orient  replied to  MrFrost @1.2    one month ago

I do not "blast" people if I cannot see their video - I tell them I cannot comment on it, and if it is on a seed/article I post that I am required to moderate, I do ask that it be described or I will ask a moderator to do so.  If it makes you happy, I simply won't comment on others' articles that have a video I cannot open and I will no longer ask them for the courtesy of describing it. 

I am not the LEAST BIT oppressed here, nor is anyone in my wife's family, nor is anyone I have ever known here and I have known many and taught hundreds.  Maybe if people are oppressed here they deserve it.  I don't tell you what you SHOULD do, so don't tell me what I SHOULD do.  You can add that to the 1% you don't agree with me on.

 
 
 
MUVA
2  MUVA    one month ago

It means she can't keep a man.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
2.1  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  MUVA @2    one month ago

Without knowing her life, we don't know that. Maybe her expectations are too high? Or she just hasn't met the guy for her. 

 
 
 
Paula Bartholomew
2.2  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  MUVA @2    one month ago

In Paltrow's case, I agree.  She is flakier than my grandmother's biscuits.

 
 
 
MUVA
2.2.1  MUVA  replied to  Paula Bartholomew @2.2    one month ago

That is really funny everyone at the shop got a kick out of that have a great day.

 
 
 
†hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh
2.2.2  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh  replied to  Paula Bartholomew @2.2    one month ago
She is flakier than my grandmother's biscuits.

Speaking of saber-tooth cougars, is grandma single?

 
 
 
MUVA
2.2.3  MUVA  replied to  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh @2.2.2    one month ago

Thanks for laugh raining here not much work getting done.

 
 
 
Paula Bartholomew
2.2.4  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  MUVA @2.2.1    one month ago

You too and a shout out to the shop from me.

 
 
 
Buzz of the Orient
2.2.5  Buzz of the Orient  replied to  Paula Bartholomew @2.2    one month ago
”...flakier than my grandmother's biscuits.

LOL.  What a great expression - never heard it before.

 
 
 
sandy-2021492
2.2.6  sandy-2021492  replied to  Paula Bartholomew @2.2    one month ago
She is flakier than my grandmother's biscuits.

Hadn't heard that one.  Gonna have to steal it.

 
 
 
Paula Bartholomew
2.2.7  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  Buzz of the Orient @2.2.5    one month ago

I've been using it for years.  My grandmother used it herself when she thought a person was nuts.  She would say (insert name) is flakier than my biscuits.  I just changed it up a little.

 
 
 
Jack_TX
2.3  Jack_TX  replied to  MUVA @2    one month ago
It means she can't keep a man.

She's a Millennial, which means there are very few actual "men" her age.... only boys in grown bodies.  Why on earth would she want to keep one of those?

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
2.3.1  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  Jack_TX @2.3    one month ago

Jack,

You do realize that our parents said that about our generation, right? LOL! 

My daughters are dating men, not boys. They are out there, if one looks. 

 
 
 
Jack_TX
2.3.2  Jack_TX  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @2.3.1    one month ago
You do realize that our parents said that about our generation, right? LOL!  My daughters are dating men, not boys. They are out there, if one looks. 

I'm a Gen Xer.  I was paying my own bills at 22.   

My daughter is 25.  She will tell you quickly that finding a young man that age with aven 5% of his shit together is exceedingly difficult.

 
 
 
Paula Bartholomew
2.3.3  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  Jack_TX @2.3.2    4 weeks ago

Even the experts say before considering a mate, look at two things....finances and health coverage. 

 
 
 
MUVA
2.3.4  MUVA  replied to  Paula Bartholomew @2.3.3    4 weeks ago

I looked at two other indicators they were easy to see. 

 
 
 
Trout Giggles
2.3.5  Trout Giggles  replied to  Jack_TX @2.3    4 weeks ago

I'm with you on that, Jack. Fortunately my own two children are doing well despite being millenials.

 
 
 
It Is ME
3  It Is ME    one month ago

Rewording "I'm alone" is the most stupid thing I've heard today !

An hour from now, there will be another "Stupid Thing" too.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
3.1  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  It Is ME @3    one month ago

LOL, I think you are right. 

 
 
 
It Is ME
3.1.1  It Is ME  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @3.1    one month ago
LOL, I think you are right.

Why do folks these days, go out of their way to say things like this.

It's like "Pansexual". WTF ?

Does that mean their name is "Peter", and they like little kids ?

 
 
 
The Magic Eight Ball
4  The Magic Eight Ball    one month ago
Celebrities like Emma Watson and Gwyneth Paltrow are re-framing traditionally negative relationship.

they are not re-framing anything except their stupidity.

entertainers are not influential.

no one listens to the court jesters, we just laugh at them.

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
4.1  igknorantzrulz  replied to  The Magic Eight Ball @4    one month ago

no one listens to the court jesters, we just laugh at them.

says a defender of the Presidential Joke, that is not funny.

 
 
 
It Is ME
4.1.1  It Is ME  replied to  igknorantzrulz @4.1    one month ago
says a defender of the Presidential Joke, that is not funny.

I think he can be funny ! jrSmiley_13_smiley_image.gif

just look at his "Joke" on Democrats ! jrSmiley_10_smiley_image.gif

Tweet, Tweet, Tweet.....and Democrats fall for it every time. jrSmiley_86_smiley_image.gif

What do you get when you cross a pig and a tortoise? 

A slow-Democrat. 

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
4.1.2  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  igknorantzrulz @4.1    one month ago

Guys,

No politics, please. 

 
 
 
Paula Bartholomew
4.1.3  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @4.1.2    one month ago

Awww, I had the perfect rebuttal joke too.

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
4.1.4  igknorantzrulz  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @4.1.2    one month ago

I wasn't talking Politics, i was referring to the Presidential Physical Fitness Award for those unfit to laugh at jokes i punch

a clock           cause i rish i had an O' for ever X i spelled before Y i asked it to be spelled after a W, spelled    UU  more us,     with a non presidential joke for ones i witness to suit my ice cubed gin. A tonic elixir to a magical fixer i broke out in

a sweater while taking a prison break,

as i can't take coffee 

for what keeps one up during Knights jousting with those horsing around stripper polls taken to spin a fan of the ceiling fan into the ground wire i have no beef with you

or Wendy when ordered,  a Frosty, 

as i'm off to grab me one, and when you're infamous like me, they just let me  pay for all the beer i get for free, 

unless,

you're not buying. It for me

got tagged when    i'm out, you fine posters have a Special Day now and then

again.

i'm off to discuss such off topic subjects where i go every Sunday, and separate Church from state and politics.

for when reprimanded at the watering hole for discussing Religion, i pray to g od and we discuss how Poly, sweet and Purebread, ticks me off she mite, but i never let them bug me till i'm sprayed with, and now, i'm

OFF             didn't mean to B a pest, as i'm beside myself...

a pesticide my self is where i like to be adjacent   away

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
4.2  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  The Magic Eight Ball @4    one month ago
entertainers are not influential. no one listens to the court jesters, we just laugh at them.

That might be you, but there is proof over and over that they very much influence people's beliefs .

 
 
 
The Magic Eight Ball
4.2.1  The Magic Eight Ball  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @4.2    one month ago
there is proof over and over that they very much influence people's beliefs

they only "influence" people who were already inclined to be that stupid in the first place.

result: non-event, nothing is re-framed.

proof ya say? if celebrities had any influence at all hillary would be president right now.

cheers )

 
 
 
Jack_TX
4.2.2  Jack_TX  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @4.2    one month ago
but there is proof over and over that they very much influence people's beliefs .

Of all the things you've said "bother" you, this should be atop your list.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
4.2.3  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  Jack_TX @4.2.2    one month ago

It is. 

 
 
 
Freefaller
5  Freefaller    one month ago

It's no skin off my nose so more power to her but I'll stick with the term single, after all this time I'm kinda used to it. 

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
5.1  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  Freefaller @5    one month ago

Fair enough. 

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
6  igknorantzrulz    one month ago

"To be truly self-partnered, one must often invest a great deal of time and energy on personal development," says Manly

.

but what does that say for us who feel threatened by partners they just new would get old real quick due to the usage of fully and particularly pieced and placed peas, placed on pods often non parallel & partially  in conjunction with an elimination function swimming incongruent seas all dreamy and wet when Trumpps are primarily produced  via professionally portrayed pleasers of Johns pleasures and peculiar pet peeves pre-leaking waste fluids in solid accordance to properties of physically addictive pseudo psychological attributions amateurly coerced to Go Pro while impressionable put in input is put to the test

a cull Ling fish herd threw out the net

gained into bonds of stockings stoked with fire burning thoroughly through thrown out on their own throne cushioning throw pillows thrown in the mix to conjure and piss

off, pissed upon buy bought a bout  priss's brought process's of  self-partnered,  prosthetically enhanced appendages  providing  pp , Russian to the denied climatic change, Trumpps' tranny can't move cause parked in the rear, yet, professionally by valets in mountainous regions off his/her community chest keeping all abreast of those chicken

super     long brewed

foregone conclusions of collusions by low frequency sound  when   Dog Whistles blowing air through dogs knows, and their rabid rodent reluctance to accept cash for a while bouncing  foamy surf off bored in an uncomfortable closest  closet for coming out of the finest sign signalling , a course correction collaboration of  a

Transmission Driving Trump right,

however wrong,    " one might think "

then again, that was PRE Trumpp,

so now

one might not

.

But, don't you think...

no, really,

don't you ....?

 Peeoples still defending Trumppy ?

Cause some of us, can't see many,                                   

thinking

,

.

but, i don't want to think about the thought    less

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
6.1  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  igknorantzrulz @6    one month ago

Ummm.. yes I think... except for the political comment. Please, no politics. 

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
6.1.1  igknorantzrulz  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @6.1    one month ago

all apologies,

i sometimes lose focus on my meandering thoughtless than 

i'm out   n joy

ps, i appreciate you not erasing what i can never duplicate, so if i were ever to write a shipload of fertilizer, as how ridiculous would that be, please preserve, and through it in reserve where you book me for having reservations    never made 

 
 
 
Dean Moriarty
7  Dean Moriarty    one month ago

Reminds me of an article I saw recently about a woman that married herself and then got caught cheating on herself. 

https://www.her.ie/life/woman-married-cheated-371576

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
7.1  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  Dean Moriarty @7    one month ago

Good one Dean! Thanks for sharing!

 
 
 
SteevieGee
8  SteevieGee    one month ago

Is it bad that I don't know who Emma Watson is?  Even the picture doesn't help.

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
8.1  igknorantzrulz  replied to  SteevieGee @8    one month ago

i only recognized it to be an actress ,  but i could'nt wouldn't recognize her, or any film she's been in.

so i'd have to go with, yes, yes it is bad.

 
 
 
sandy-2021492
8.2  sandy-2021492  replied to  SteevieGee @8    one month ago

She played Hermione in the Harry Potter films.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
8.3  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  SteevieGee @8    one month ago

Steve,

When was the last time you went to the movies?

 
 
 
Paula Bartholomew
8.4  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  SteevieGee @8    one month ago

When she was in the Potter movies, she had thick wavy long hair.  When went short and stylish, many didn't recognize her at first as it was such a drastic change.

 
 
 
Jack_TX
8.5  Jack_TX  replied to  SteevieGee @8    one month ago
Is it bad that I don't know who Emma Watson is?  Even the picture doesn't help.

Yes.  It's bad.

 
 
 
TᵢG
9  TᵢG    one month ago

What is the point of this trend?   After all, if you discuss your marital/relationship situation with a new acquaintance (business or social) and you reveal your partner is yourself, your new acquaintance might just start slowly backing away.

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
9.1  igknorantzrulz  replied to  TᵢG @9    one month ago
your new acquaintance might just start slowly backing away

an d if you were happy,

they might think your'e gay,

in a Happy Way,

but a little stuck up, on and upon yourself, as if no one else was good enough, for one so stuck on you, i mean me, or oneself 

righteous or wrongous right to write their own bill of rights about who is Mr. or Mrs. Right for they,

as for me, i choose to remain married to the fact i've been divorced from reality, for as long as i can't forget,

i can't remember,    neither.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
9.1.1  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  igknorantzrulz @9.1    one month ago

Well, you can be divorced from reality, but still, be married. 

It might make your marriage more interesting. 

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
9.1.2  igknorantzrulz  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @9.1.1    one month ago

It might make your marriage more interesting. 

that's the single thing i'm not "interesting" in.

 
 
 
jungkonservativ111
9.2  jungkonservativ111  replied to  TᵢG @9    one month ago

It's weird to call it self partnered but I get the jist of what they are getting at. Single does have a negative stereotype as if there is nobody who wants you or can stand you. For some people it is the exact opposite. I'm currently single even though I don't have to be. It's just the buffet of options available to me are not palatable. Desirable girls expect way too much, non-desirable girls have baggage like children from another relationship or a boyfriend/husband they are not faithful too, or are just unattractive and desperate. As a male I have noted that desirable women place far too high of a value on themselves and expect to exercise complete control over their men. I see it all the time. They are with less desirable guys usually so they can boss them around like puppy dogs. I would prefer to be with a desirable woman who treats me with equal respect that I give her. Unfortunately society is shaping women with a mentality that men should do anything for them while they can do anything they want. Until I find a girl who hasn't been corrupted by liberal society, I will remain happily single.

 
 
 
TᵢG
9.2.1  TᵢG  replied to  jungkonservativ111 @9.2    one month ago

Understood, but there really is no escaping the reality that a single person is single no matter what label.   And making up a rather ridiculous label (self-partnered) does not change the reality nor disguise it.   To me, it makes the person look silly.

There is also, as you note, nothing wrong with being single.   It does not mean nobody wants you, it simply means that you are currently not in a relationship (for whatever reason).

 
 
 
1stwarrior
9.3  1stwarrior  replied to  TᵢG @9    one month ago

It's based on the Millennial's need to stay in their closet of denial and learning how to react/work with the rest of society.  Sadly, the Millennial's faults/failures at developing stronger self-esteem is really starting to scare me.  These folks are going to be the leaders of tomorrow - a tomorrow I'm not sure I wanna look at. 

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
9.3.1  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  1stwarrior @9.3    one month ago

I'm not sure about that 1st. I have twin Millennials and both have long term relationships, and one is getting married this June (fingers crossed). I think that some people who have the publics' ear are finding excuses for their lack of happiness and the press is legitimizing this. 

 
 
 
1stwarrior
9.3.2  1stwarrior  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @9.3.1    one month ago

To an extent, I concur.  

But . . . . . our daughter is 21 and, when not in school or working, she's in her room texting, Netflixing, Amazoning or texting.   The few friends of hers that we've met have absolutely no idea what they're gonna do when/if they graduate and they spend most of their time texting, Netflixing, Amazoning or texting.

I've "tried" to have conversations with them 'bout weather, golfing, working on the house, politics, religion, Native Americans, military and, more than likely, receive the "Deer in the headlights" look, or the ol' "deadpan" look and receive the very affirmative "Uhh - I don't know" - and these are kids in their mid to late 20's.

Leaders????  Nope - not even gonna attempt to rationalize that one.

 
 
 
r.t..b...
9.3.3  r.t..b...  replied to  1stwarrior @9.3    one month ago
These folks are going to be the leaders of tomorrow - a tomorrow I'm not sure I wanna look at. 

My two, their partners, and their circle of friends are much more engaged at their age then I ever was. They are aware of the dilemmas this country and this world face; are aware of the need to call out the ugly elements and untruths that pervade the dialogue; and are aware that socio-economic, racial, and religious labels are just labels. They have a greater sense that we are making decision that effect actual people, not demographics. I have greater hope than many...and am damn sure they could not leave it any worse than how they found it. 

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
9.4  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  TᵢG @9    one month ago
After all, if you discuss your marital/relationship situation with a new acquaintance (business or social) and you reveal your partner is yourself, your new acquaintance might just start slowly backing away.

I have to agree with you. I have found very few men want to hear about past experiences with other men. It can even be daunting and intimidating. 

I think she might be judging men as women. Women like to know a man's past, but men and women have different emotional needs, (gee that's a shocker, LOL).

 
 
 
sandy-2021492
10  sandy-2021492    one month ago

Generally speaking, I think Emma Watson is an intelligent, lovely young woman who has always exhibited poise beyond her years.

But I'd still say she's single.  "Single" does not need to have a negative connotation.

 
 
 
TᵢG
10.1  TᵢG  replied to  sandy-2021492 @10    one month ago

Agreed.   What value is there in recasting being single as a partner relationship with oneself?   Do we have too much time on our hands?

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
10.1.1  igknorantzrulz  replied to  TᵢG @10.1    one month ago
o we have too much time on our hands?

depends on the digits,

and if your clock has the right to bare arms while wearing long sleeveless shirts

 
 
 
Paula Bartholomew
10.2  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  sandy-2021492 @10    one month ago

When single men get older they are called happy bachelors.  When women do, we are called old maids.  I like the simple title....single.

 
 
 
Kathleen
10.2.1  Kathleen  replied to  Paula Bartholomew @10.2    one month ago

A spinster too, I think I like single or even no label.

 
 
 
†hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh
10.2.2  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh  replied to  Paula Bartholomew @10.2    one month ago
we are called old maids

I call them Saber-tooth Cougars and they are the most sexually interesting cat one can encounter in the wild. Not to mention they pay for dinner as long as you tame the kitty.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
10.2.3  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  Kathleen @10.2.1    one month ago

I have to agree with you, ladies. Single just does me fine.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
10.2.4  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh @10.2.2    one month ago
I call them Saber-tooth Cougars and they are the most sexually interesting cat one can encounter in the wild. Not to mention they pay for dinner as long as you tame the kitty.

And you know how, LOL?

 
 
 
†hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh
10.2.5  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @10.2.4    one month ago

If the only way to tell the cougar's real age is to cut down the trunk and count rings, there is a solid chance she appreciates being watered more than the sapling.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
10.3  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  sandy-2021492 @10    one month ago
But I'd still say she's single.  "Single" does not need to have a negative connotation.

I have to totally agree. Single can even be good, when trying to reevaluate one's life.

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
10.3.1  igknorantzrulz  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @10.3    one month ago

i think there is only a single meaning ,

but of course,

it is very ambiguous 

 
 
 
†hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh
11  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh    one month ago

Rewording for the usual Hollywood break up lexicon?  Let's keep it simple for them:

He dumped me because I cheated

I dumped Him because he cheated

We parted ways because we cheated

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
11.1  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh @11    one month ago

LMAO!

That is probably more true in Hollywood than most would like to admit.

 
 
 
†hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh
11.1.1  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @11.1    one month ago

None of the people in Hollywood really have much to offer us in the way of advice on any subject. There is probably someone living in the woods somewhere who has never had their 15 minutes of fame who has more insight and depth on this particular subject.

 
 
 
r.t..b...
12  r.t..b...    one month ago

..it's complicated.

 
 
 
†hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh
12.1  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh  replied to  r.t..b... @12    one month ago

These people usually struggle to make it 2 weeks without a new relationship. I'm going to pass on fawning over their advice on how to be single and self improve. 

So during the 2 weeks of being single, share with us your knowledgeable journey in self partnership. How ever did you survive. Weren't you lonely for those two weeks? What self improvements did you make in those 14 days?

Can I buy the book that shares the secrets of those intense 20,160 minutes?

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
12.1.1  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh @12.1    one month ago

LMAO, I have to agree with you on that. 

I feel a bit mean since I do like her, and she is still young, but what makes this an issue to me, is how the press hooked on to this and is making it a thing. 

 
 
 
It Is ME
12.1.2  It Is ME  replied to  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh @12.1    one month ago
These people usually struggle to make it 2 weeks without a new relationship.

(2) of the Kardashians come to mind. jrSmiley_99_smiley_image.jpg

They're GREAT ! jrSmiley_84_smiley_image.gif

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
12.1.3  igknorantzrulz  replied to  It Is ME @12.1.2    one month ago

They're GREAT !

Frosted Flakes ?

 
 
 
It Is ME
12.1.4  It Is ME  replied to  igknorantzrulz @12.1.3    one month ago
Frosted Flakes ?

"Fruit" Loops !

 
 
 
†hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh
12.1.5  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh  replied to  It Is ME @12.1.4    one month ago

I dated Special K for awhile. She was a midget with really small hands. When she held it, it looked huge.

She left me for a bigger box, Count Chocula.

 
 
 
It Is ME
12.1.6  It Is ME  replied to  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh @12.1.5    one month ago
I dated Special K for awhile.

Hobbit ?

 
 
 
Kathleen
12.1.7  Kathleen  replied to  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh @12.1.5    one month ago

LOL!

 
 
 
Paula Bartholomew
12.1.8  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  It Is ME @12.1.2    one month ago

Two?  Try most of them.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
12.2  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  r.t..b... @12    one month ago

LOLOLOLOLOL!

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
12.3  igknorantzrulz  replied to  r.t..b... @12    one month ago

..it's complicated.

Sounds like a single answer,

too many questions.

 
 
 
Kathleen
13  Kathleen    one month ago

I think she can be whatever she wants. You have to do what makes you happy.

 
 
 
Texan1211
14  Texan1211    one month ago

I liken this to being "gender fluid".

It means nothing, really.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
14.1  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  Texan1211 @14    one month ago
I liken this to being "gender fluid".

Well, we could go on about that topic for days... 

 
 
 
Texan1211
14.1.1  Texan1211  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @14.1    one month ago
Well, we could go on about that topic for days... 

true, as people can now "identify" as whatever they wish--no matter what they actually are!
I suppose it does no harm to allow people to live in their own little fantasy world if that is what it takes to get them through the day.

 
 
 
It Is ME
14.1.2  It Is ME  replied to  Texan1211 @14.1.1    one month ago
people can now "identify" as whatever they wish

"Panbihomoheterosinglesexualindividual". jrSmiley_13_smiley_image.gif

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
14.2  igknorantzrulz  replied to  Texan1211 @14    one month ago

is that, dry humor ?

 
 
 
†hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh
14.3  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh  replied to  Texan1211 @14    one month ago

Gender Fluid is another way of saying I am not ready to declare a major.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
14.3.1  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh @14.3    one month ago

I have to agree with that. 

 
 
 
†hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh
14.3.2  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @14.3.1    one month ago

Some people declare a double major but that doesn't mean they are good at both subjects.

 
 
 
JaneDoe
14.3.3  JaneDoe  replied to  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh @14.3.2    one month ago

True, maybe major in one minor in the other? 🤔

 
 
 
MUVA
15  MUVA    one month ago

I feel sorry for people that never find true love I was lucky I have been with my wife for 35 years I’m only 54.

 
 
 
Kathleen
15.1  Kathleen  replied to  MUVA @15    one month ago

It is nice to share your life with someone. I like being married myself.  

She can always change her mind later in life, there will probably be some guy that will fall for her. 

 
 
 
MUVA
15.1.1  MUVA  replied to  Kathleen @15.1    one month ago

I hope you don’t mean my wife lol.

 
 
 
Kathleen
15.1.2  Kathleen  replied to  MUVA @15.1.1    one month ago

Ha! 

I was talking about the article.

 
 
 
MUVA
15.1.3  MUVA  replied to  Kathleen @15.1.2    one month ago

Sometimes I’m not sure her to favorite words directed at me are fucking and idiot.

 
 
 
Just Jim NC TttH
15.1.4  Just Jim NC TttH  replied to  MUVA @15.1.3    one month ago

Oh no. Sorry to hear that you have passed "dumbass" as have I. It used to be an endearing term in the beginning but after 25 years, she took it to a whole new level.jrSmiley_15_smiley_image.gif

 
 
 
Kathleen
15.1.5  Kathleen  replied to  MUVA @15.1.3    one month ago

: )

 
 
 
Paula Bartholomew
15.2  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  MUVA @15    one month ago

I also was with my husband for 35 years before he passed.  Some years were rocky but most of them good.  As Miley Cyrus said in a song....Life is a climb but the view is great.

 
 
 
Jasper2529
16  Jasper2529    one month ago
Celebrities like Emma Watson and Gwyneth Paltrow are re-framing traditionally negative relationship statuses and helping remove the stigma. Here's how to go from 'single' to 'self partnered.'
If they ever tire of being 'self partnered' but still don't want a human relationship, they can always hook up with inanimate objects like these people have done ...
 
 
 
katrix
16.1  katrix  replied to  Jasper2529 @16    one month ago

Honestly, the very term "self partnered" makes me think of inanimate objects ... the kind that make buzzing noises.

 
 
 
†hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh
16.1.1  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh  replied to  katrix @16.1    one month ago
makes me think of inanimate objects ... the kind that make buzzing noises.

Like a sonicare toothbrush?

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
16.1.2  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  katrix @16.1    one month ago

LOL.. now that is one idea! 

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
16.1.3  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh @16.1.1    one month ago
Like a sonicare toothbrush?

Well you would come out satisfied and minty fresh. 

 
 
 
†hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh
16.1.4  †hε pε⊕pレε'š ƒïšh  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @16.1.3    one month ago

Like I always say, "Be true to your teeth and they will never be false to you."

 
 
 
r.t..b...
16.1.5  r.t..b...  replied to  katrix @16.1    one month ago
... the kind that make buzzing noises.

BOB's away. Takes a lot of pressure off both parties. 

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
16.2  seeder  Perrie Halpern R.A.  replied to  Jasper2529 @16    one month ago

How does one find a person to marry you to your inanimate object of choice?

 
 
 
Dismayed Patriot
16.2.1  Dismayed Patriot  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @16.2    one month ago
How does one find a person to marry you to your inanimate object of choice?

I suppose they could just stand in front of a church and say "I do."...

 
 
 
MUVA
16.2.2  MUVA  replied to  Dismayed Patriot @16.2.1    one month ago

When I was in my early teens I self partnered a lot then I got a girl friend I’m lucky not to have hair on my palms. 

 
 
 
JaneDoe
16.2.3  JaneDoe  replied to  MUVA @16.2.2    one month ago

How is your sight? I thought that could make you go blind. 😂

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
16.2.4  igknorantzrulz  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @16.2    one month ago

possibly a surgeon, to adjoin one and, "it's special friend" at the hip so to speak, but in a un hip manner to some

possibly, but not out dating one self, except you are, all of the time, so as the pleasure wood be "all mine", as inanimate objects are like an old hippie exclaiming "right on", in reference to something that would no longer turn you, right on, as you would always be off, or getting there, till the desire is diminished, cause i could no longer satisfy an inanimate object of my no desire, and donate it to a Nitrous Fueled Funny Car, oxidized, and then caught fire,

till it finished,

the one way race, that requires team work, and two me, that means too...

but who's counting...for Fish, possibly Count Chocula,IMG_3823.jpg or Al FrankenBerry saying Boo to Mayor Marion  Berry washing, three sheets to the wind ,  blowing clothes right off the front line smoked like crack, out of his glass bowl,

that possibly stiffened that witch dwells above his upper lip,

Count Chocula's that is, 

nose..?

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
16.2.5  igknorantzrulz  replied to  JaneDoe @16.2.3    one month ago

How is your sight? I thought that could make you go blind. 😂

He didn't see that question coming.

 
 
 
igknorantzrulz
16.2.6  igknorantzrulz  replied to  Dismayed Patriot @16.2.1    one month ago

I suppose they could just stand in front of a church and say "I do."...

i know i often do, but i'm required to forge the pre nup signature i didn't write 

 
 
 
Just Jim NC TttH
16.2.7  Just Jim NC TttH  replied to  JaneDoe @16.2.3    one month ago
How is your sight? I thought that could make you go blind

Yeah my mom and dad told me that too. Sooooo, I stopped............but not before needing glasses.

jrSmiley_9_smiley_image.gif

 
 
 
JaneDoe
16.2.8  JaneDoe  replied to  Just Jim NC TttH @16.2.7    one month ago

I’m sorry to hear that. At least you quit in time to still have some sight left. 😉

 
 
 
Jasper2529
16.2.9  Jasper2529  replied to  Perrie Halpern R.A. @16.2    one month ago
How does one find a person to marry you to your inanimate object of choice?

Beats me, but Universal Life Church marries anyone and believes that "we are all children of the same universe". I guess that includes inanimate objects. 

 
 
 
Sunshine
17  Sunshine    one month ago

I have been single for a long time, and I don't really mind it. I would rather be in a relationship but I doubt I would remarry again.  Maybe someone will make me change my mind but I doubt it.  Kind of set in my ways now.

I would rather be single though than divorced 3 or 4 times like many do.

She just needs to own it till her next love comes along.

 
 
 
Just Jim NC TttH
17.1  Just Jim NC TttH  replied to  Sunshine @17    one month ago
She just needs to own it till her next love comes along.

That may be why she's proclaiming it. Makes it sound like she needs no one and it makes it a challenge for the next "lover" to win her over and we all know the chase is the most exciting.......but then...............ya get the trophy. Take that any way you want.

jrSmiley_9_smiley_image.gif

 
 
 
Sunshine
18  Sunshine    one month ago
Take that any way you want.

HA! I don't believe she is in a good place or anyone else who needs to use a ridiculous term as "self-partnering" to say they are single.

She is just as messed up as the rest of us, but doesn't want to admit it. jrSmiley_4_smiley_image.png

 
 
 
Trout Giggles
19  Trout Giggles    4 weeks ago

After being married for 30 years, self-partnering doesn't sound like a bad idea. If anything happens to Mr Giggles, I think I will stay happily single for the rest of my days.

But...I think people really should give relationships a chance before deciding that they want to stay single.

 
 
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