I Didn’t Have an Abortion When I Got Pregnant at 17, but My Clinic Helped Me Understand My Options

  

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Via:  tessylo  •  5 months ago  •  57 comments

By:   As told to Julie Mazziotta, People

I Didn’t Have an Abortion When I Got Pregnant at 17, but My Clinic Helped Me Understand My Options

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I Didn’t Have an Abortion When I Got Pregnant at 17, but My Clinic Helped Me Understand My Options





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People March 4, 2020, 7:00 PM EST









I was 17 when I learned that I was pregnant. I actually went to a local clinic, the Druid Clinic, with a friend who thought she was pregnant, and I took the test with her for emotional support because she didn’t want to pee alone. So, I peed with her, and that’s when I found out.

My immediate reaction was, “I’m 17!” I didn’t know what I was going to do, and I didn’t want to tell my mother. Luckily, the woman at the clinic was the sweetest. I think the color had drained from my face, so she sat me down and held my hand. She had this good vibe that was comforting and made me relax. She told me what I could do, and how to sign up for hospital visits if I kept the baby and what to do if I wanted to terminate the pregnancy.

I decided to keep my child — she’s now 18, and for me, it was the best decision I ever made. My family was able to help me and I was able to still get an education.

But during my pregnancy, I didn’t have health insurance and the clinic helped me with check-ups and everything I needed. They take you in whether you have insurance or not. Now the government is trying to take away funding for clinics and I don’t think it makes sense at all. They need to give women a place to go, whether it be for annual check-ups, abortions or just birth control. We need health care, so women like me have somewhere to go.

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Even though abortion wasn’t right for me, the option needs to be there. Some people cannot take care of a child, and the right to an abortion needs to be on the table.

I’ve started sharing my story because I want everyone, including my two girls — my younger daughter is 17 — to know that not everybody is perfect, and even if you’re in a tough situation there’s always a light at the end of it. We need people to speak out for others who aren’t strong enough to speak for themselves.

  • As told to Julie Mazziotta





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Tessylo
1  seeder  Tessylo    5 months ago

I'm just waiting for those to claim that Planned Parenthood is nothing but an obscene profit making abortuary business and that they have a quota at Planned Parenthood where women are coerced into terminating their pregnancies.  

 
 
 
squiggy
2  squiggy    5 months ago

“Now the government is trying to take away funding for clinics and I don’t think it makes sense at all. ”

Is this about access to abortion, or free abortion?

 
 
 
Tessylo
2.1  seeder  Tessylo  replied to  squiggy @2    5 months ago

It's about access to all the services Planned Parenthood provides.  

 
 
 
Tessylo
2.1.2  seeder  Tessylo  replied to    5 months ago

It's about access to all the services Planned Parenthood provides.  

 
 
 
Gordy327
2.2  Gordy327  replied to  squiggy @2    5 months ago

It sounds like it's about public health.

 
 
 
squiggy
2.2.1  squiggy  replied to  Gordy327 @2.2    5 months ago

"But during my pregnancy, I didn’t have health insurance..."

Well, have another reference to health care at the expense of others.

 
 
 
Gordy327
2.2.2  Gordy327  replied to  squiggy @2.2.1    5 months ago

Are you suggesting all healthcare be denied to those without insurance? 

 
 
 
zuksam
2.2.3  zuksam  replied to  Gordy327 @2.2.2    5 months ago

If it's an Elective Health Procedure then yes.

 
 
 
Gordy327
2.2.4  Gordy327  replied to  zuksam @2.2.3    5 months ago

Some insurances might cover elective procedures. But that's for an insurance company to decide. Abortions are generally paid for out of pocket.

 
 
 
squiggy
2.2.5  squiggy  replied to  Gordy327 @2.2.4    5 months ago

This isn’t generally. I presented two anecdotal references for the expectation of care without a major contribution.

 
 
 
Dean Moriarty
3  Dean Moriarty    5 months ago

Geez I didn't know blacks get abortions at almost three times the rate whites do. 

 
 
 
bbl-1
3.1  bbl-1  replied to  Dean Moriarty @3    5 months ago

There are some (many) who realize that for them personally, to have a child at specific times in their lives will have a negative prospect on their financial or personal futures. 

 
 
 
MAGA
3.2  MAGA  replied to  Dean Moriarty @3    5 months ago

That was the whole point of Planned Parenthood existence.  Part of founder Sangers eugenics plan

 
 
 
Gordy327
3.2.1  Gordy327  replied to  MAGA @3.2    5 months ago
That was the whole point of Planned Parenthood existence.  Part of founder Sangers eugenics plan

Wrong! Ms. Sanger wanted better health conditions for women, whom she saw dying as a result of unsafe procedures and unsanitary conditions.

 
 
 
MrFrost
3.2.2  MrFrost  replied to  MAGA @3.2    5 months ago

She has been dead for 53 years, how is she relevant? 

 
 
 
Gordy327
3.2.3  Gordy327  replied to  MrFrost @3.2.2    5 months ago
She has been dead for 53 years, how is she relevant? 

She's not. But anti-abortionists typically don't have any valid talking points and will resort to citing Ms. Sanger as a last or desperate resort.

 
 
 
Snuffy
4  Snuffy    5 months ago

I'm not a fan of abortion so I will never get one. It helps that I'm an elderly man so the odd's of my ever needing one is rather low.

But just like the quest for drugs, aborting pregancies is never going to go away. I would much rather that the abortion be performed in a clean legal fashion rather than in a dirty motel room or out-of-the-way office to keep it hidden. I don't want to go back to a time when having an abortion put one at elevated risk of infection and death.

If aborting a fetus is truly murder they will eventually have to answer for it when they face God. I trust in His will and abide in His love but I will not wish to put another person in harm over this.

 
 
 
charger 383
4.1  charger 383  replied to  Snuffy @4    5 months ago
eventually have to answer for it when they face God

Why won't those who are against abortion for religious reasons just let the Lord handle it at the Day of Reckoning?   

 
 
 
KDMichigan
4.1.1  KDMichigan  replied to  charger 383 @4.1    5 months ago

I guess they are just doing the 'Lords work' for him. 

I kept getting Jehovah witnesses at my house when I 1st moved here, It took me threatening them with physical harm to get rid of them....

 
 
 
Gordy327
4.1.2  Gordy327  replied to  charger 383 @4.1    5 months ago

Or better yet, why doesn't god himself deal with it? 

 
 
 
Dismayed Patriot
4.1.3  Dismayed Patriot  replied to  Gordy327 @4.1.2    5 months ago
Or better yet, why doesn't god himself deal with it? 

He's too busy miscarrying nearly 50% of all pregnancies...

 
 
 
Gordy327
4.1.4  Gordy327  replied to  Dismayed Patriot @4.1.3    5 months ago

Well then, God should be thanking us for picking up the slack with abortion.

 
 
 
zuksam
4.1.5  zuksam  replied to  charger 383 @4.1    5 months ago
Why won't those who are against abortion for religious reasons just let the Lord handle it at the Day of Reckoning?   

Most do, they don't stone Abortionists or anything like that. The Problem comes when Politicians make an issue out of it, if you're against abortion (for what ever reason) you can't in good conscience vote for a politician who is pro choice so you vote for the pro life politician. The thing that gets me is how many pro choice people act like pro life people are bad people when in truth they're just people who (for what ever reason) believe abortion is killing babies and they're against it. If they are Pro Life for religious reasons then many feel it is their duty to a least try to prevent these mostly young naïve girls from murdering their babies. You can believe what you want but you should at least be able to respect what it's like to believe what these pro lifers believe. If you can't relate just imagine your distaste and horror if you found out some group believed it was OK to kill a toddler if it became an inconvenience and they were actually doing it, would you speak out against it, would you write your Congressman, would you be pro life or pro choice ? How would you feel about Planned Parenthood using your Tax dollars to kill these Toddlers ? That's how many Pro Lifers feel about abortion.

 
 
 
Gordy327
4.1.6  Gordy327  replied to  zuksam @4.1.5    5 months ago
they don't stone Abortionists or anything like that.

Given the chance, I'm sure some anti-abortionists would like to. Some have already shot abortion doctors or bomb clinics (yes, extremists, I know).

The Problem comes when Politicians make an issue out of it,

Indeed. And there are certain states where this issue just keeps repeating itself.

If they are Pro Life for religious reasons then many feel it is their duty to a least try to prevent these mostly young naïve girls from murdering their babies. 

I call that sanctimonious arrogance! 

You can believe what you want but you should at least be able to respect what it's like to believe what these pro lifers believe. 

They can believe whatever they want. But their belief ends where another's rights begin. If they attempt to prevent or prohibit a woman's right to choose, then they deserve whatever scorn they get and should not be surprised when they get pushback.

If you can't relate just imagine your distaste and horror if you found out some group believed it was OK to kill a toddler if it became an inconvenience and they were actually doing it, would you speak out against it, would you write your Congressman, would you be pro life or pro choice ?

A false equivalency. There are already laws against that. Neither is anyone advocating such a thing. Abortion is legal and it is not murder. It's also no one else's business as to what a woman chooses to do regarding her body and pregnancy.

 
 
 
zuksam
4.1.7  zuksam  replied to  Gordy327 @4.1.6    5 months ago
A false equivalency.

Not to many who are Pro Life, they see absolutely no difference. Abortion wasn't always Legal. 

 
 
 
Gordy327
4.1.8  Gordy327  replied to  zuksam @4.1.7    5 months ago
Not to many who are Pro Life, they see absolutely no difference. 

Of course they don't. But they are wrong.

Abortion wasn't always Legal. 

It was in the 19th & early 20th centuries. Then it wasn't until the Roe ruling, as there was no legitimate or legal reason to keep abortion illegal.

 
 
 
Trout Giggles
4.1.9  Trout Giggles  replied to  zuksam @4.1.5    5 months ago
if you're against abortion (for what ever reason) you can't in good conscience vote for a politician who is pro choice so you vote for the pro life politician.

That is the definition of a one issue voter. I can overlook someone's abortion stance if their other stances are close to my own

 
 
 
Gordy327
4.1.10  Gordy327  replied to  Trout Giggles @4.1.9    5 months ago

I tend to think many people vote according to only 1 issue. 

 
 
 
MrFrost
4.1.11  MrFrost  replied to  Gordy327 @4.1.10    5 months ago

512

 
 
 
CB
4.1.12  CB   replied to  Gordy327 @4.1.6    5 months ago
A false equivalency. There are already laws against that. Neither is anyone advocating such a thing. Abortion is legal and it is not murder. It's also no one else's business as to what a woman chooses to do regarding her body and pregnancy.

Emphatically. And I am so glad you clocked that language trying to embed and hide itself in plain sight. Murder is a crime. Judges, especially of the supreme type, do not indulge in a conspiracy of murder. Moreover, Justice Blackmun who wrote the first opinion on legalized abortion was acting in the interest of compromise for the privacy of American girls and women and for the preservation of American lives. As orphaned and abandoned children were 'littering' the American landscape.

 
 
 
Gordy327
4.1.13  Gordy327  replied to  CB @4.1.12    5 months ago
As orphaned and abandoned children were 'littering' the American landscape.

Indeed. Another and more extreme real world example of this is Romania under Nicolae Ceauşescu, who enacted abortion and contraception bans. Children were born (the "forgotten generation") and then neglected, abused, lived in poverty, ect.. Perhaps without realizing it, that is what anti-abortionists advocate when they try to limit or prohibit abortion. Not to mention women who were maimed or died as a result of back alley or unsafe abortion conditions or due to complications associated with pregnancy. 

 
 
 
CB
4.1.14  CB   replied to  Gordy327 @4.1.13    5 months ago

What's sad is there are college and professionally staffed industries which have sprang up around a woman's right to choose and support for the life of an unborn child. This most unfortunate and private affair is 'outed' everyday in subtle and grotesque conduct of its participants.

Just today, as I pulled into shopping lot parking, I watched a couple of well-suited male volunteers "manning" an abortion lookout station just off a public sidewalk. As I returned to my car to leave I observed a shift change had occurred for now two women volunteers were seated where the men were stationed. Such people do not bother me. They are quiet, decent, and barely imposing themselves on the street and their surroundings.

Then there are the professionals, who have a 'product' to save the life of the unborn which is packaged and marketed to politicians, think tanks, and once up and running institutions resist and fight to survive at any cost. Ironically, the unborn are a business in this world, and accordingly have fed many generations of living children into adulthood, given them a career, and retirement into old age. There are the purveyors, who ply their trade in courts, legislation, and every local, state, and federal halls of power.

For the right-wing evangelical churches, abortion is not so much being carried away with the idea of saving the life of unborn children, for these churches know the courts and judges have well-reasoned their opinions balancing the acts themselves against the negative outcomes. Offering up a compromise - as a form of "splitting" the babies to quiet the issue.

For right-wing evangelicals this is about self-righteousness, nevertheless They want to win over the top of abortionist supporters. They are intensely fighting the 'war' they can't release themselves from now that it is ongoing.

 
 
 
MAGA
4.1.15  MAGA  replied to  Gordy327 @4.1.13    5 months ago

why are pro abortion feminists and their male Schumer like allies so angry 😡?  

 
 
 
Gordy327
4.1.16  Gordy327  replied to  MAGA @4.1.15    5 months ago

That doesn't address my post, not to mention it is also disingenuous.

 
 
 
MAGA
4.2  MAGA  replied to  Snuffy @4    5 months ago

it is and they will indeed

 
 
 
Gordy327
4.2.1  Gordy327  replied to  MAGA @4.2    5 months ago

That's nice. Prove it!

 
 
 
bbl-1
5  bbl-1    5 months ago

The issue is Choice.  Or whether 'we' want the government to take that decision away from 'us'. 

 
 
 
evilgenius
5.1  evilgenius  replied to  bbl-1 @5    5 months ago
The issue is Choice.

And Privacy. The anti-choicers keep trying to chip away at the abortion issue, but if Roe v Wade gets overturned the bedrock of medical privacy can be crushed. HIPPA would be dead within months and everyone's medical and mental health issues would be big business. 

 
 
 
devangelical
5.1.1  devangelical  replied to  evilgenius @5.1    5 months ago

Planned Parenthood should claim they were hacked and anonymously release thru a 3rd party the names of all known thumpers and anti-choicers that have required their services in the past.

 
 
 
evilgenius
5.1.2  evilgenius  replied to  devangelical @5.1.1    5 months ago

As interesting as that would be, I'd have to say no. 

 
 
 
MUVA
5.1.3  MUVA  replied to  devangelical @5.1.1    5 months ago

They should put everyone’s name out then so you can also see women that use abortion as birth control.

 
 
 
Snuffy
5.1.4  Snuffy  replied to  MUVA @5.1.3    5 months ago

I disagree completely. Someone's medical history should always remain private between the patient and the doctor. As soon as you allow one piece of information out some other group will come along asking for another "small" piece of info, and before you know it personal privacy is gone and people are being blackmailed for their history. I don't want to see any part of that.

 
 
 
MAGA
5.2  MAGA  replied to  bbl-1 @5    5 months ago

We want the government to protect the sanctity of all human life which in the case of all of us began at conception.   https://www.instagram.com/tv/B9a5kb2nRjS/?igshid=1bh4jcuo3mi6d

 
 
 
lady in black
5.2.1  lady in black  replied to  MAGA @5.2    5 months ago

And we want to protect a woman's right to choose what she wants to do with an unplanned pregnancy...not your uterus, not your medical choice.

 
 
 
CB
5.2.2  CB   replied to  lady in black @5.2.1    5 months ago

Hi Lady. I id not particularly wish to watch a video this morning, but I did watch the Instagram link @5.2. It is a different style of argument not for the life of the unborn per se, but for the life of the girl or woman having the abortion. Apparently, it is a new tactic or is it a new reality concern? I don't knwo much about it. Girls and women dying during abortion proceedings?  Spurring a call to court action?

 
 
 
Gordy327
5.2.3  Gordy327  replied to  lady in black @5.2.1    5 months ago
not your uterus, not your medical choice.

Unfortunately, some people just don't seem to get that.

 
 
 
lady in black
5.2.4  lady in black  replied to  CB @5.2.2    5 months ago

It is utter bullshit...it's the new "silent scream", (which was fake) that's all, more anti choicer propaganda.  

Sure let's make abortion illegal and then more women will die having back alley abortions....circular logic stupidity

 
 
 
CB
5.2.5  CB   replied to  lady in black @5.2.4    5 months ago

Ah. Thank you for sharing a new way of looking at the 'problem.'

 
 
 
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6      5 months ago

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Gordy327
6.1  Gordy327  replied to  @6    5 months ago

Yes, that would be accurate of everyone. Your point?

 
 
 
user image
6.1.1    replied to  Gordy327 @6.1    5 months ago

You are no better than the fetus you are aborting. Thats the point 

 
 
 
Gordy327
6.1.2  Gordy327  replied to  @6.1.1    5 months ago

I never said I was and I have no delusions about being "special" or something emotionally satisfying like that. An embryo/fetus essentially is a "clump of cells," literally in early development too. That's simple fact and reality. I have no need to sugar coat it.

 
 
 
user image
6.1.3    replied to  Gordy327 @6.1.2    5 months ago

And you as a full grown adult are nothing but a clump of cells. So what is your point?

 
 
 
Gordy327
6.1.4  Gordy327  replied to  @6.1.3    5 months ago

As are we all. That was the point, as I indicated in my post 6.1.

 
 
 
user image
6.1.5    replied to  Gordy327 @6.1.4    5 months ago

So then if somebody aborts a full grown adult then it shouldnt matter since they are a clump of cells?

 
 
 
Gordy327
6.1.6  Gordy327  replied to  @6.1.5    5 months ago
So then if somebody aborts a full grown adult then it shouldnt matter since they are a clump of cells?

I think that would be considered murder and there are laws against it.

 
 
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