American society is realigning in ways that show there is no ultimate victory for either the political left or the right in fighting over our most contentious social conflicts.

Republican losses in the midterm elections this month revealed the cool reception that far right social positions receive among many Americans, especially when prosecuting the   culture   war is the central thrust of a campaign.

That approach has been at the core of Donald Trump's style of politics for the past seven years. And it led in this month's elections to losses for many of Trump's acolytes, including House candidate Bo Hines in North Carolina, gubernatorial candidates Kari Lake in Arizona and Doug Mastriano in Pennsylvania, and Senate candidates Don Bolduc in New Hampshire and Blake Masters in Arizona.

'Don't alienate everybody'

"How do we win races?" asked conservative commentator Ben Shapiro after the election returns came in. "Baseline levels of competence and then engage in the   culture   war issues, not the other way around. And also, don't alienate everybody on earth with claims that the vast majority of Americans do not actually believe. You cannot make election 2020 the subject of your campaign in any major way in the United States and hope that things are going to turn out amazing unless your district is like a deep red district."

The point that false stolen election claims are a political loser for Republicans is important. It's also important to understand that the lingering belief in some quarters that the 2020 election was stolen in a vast conspiracy of fraud is a   culture   war issue, and perhaps the central one.

The stolen election falsehood rests upon the assumption of deep corruption in the Democratic Party, much of the Republican Party and the major institutions of our democracy, including the courts and the news media.

Even overwhelming evidence that President Joe Biden's election was in fact legitimate is rejected because many of Trump's supporters don't believe that the authorities (even Republican election officials) can be trusted.

The lack of trust in our public institutions is at the root of the voter fraud controversy. And that makes this issue a major front in the   culture   war.

Yet, as great a relief as the midterm results have proved to be for the Democratic Party, a close look at the data ought to generate cause for pause among progressives.

The credibility of the progressive social agenda rests in large part upon the perceived validity of its claim to represent the true interests and values of people of color in American society.

But in an inversion of normal political reality, it largely was white voters who turned the red wave into a sputtering faucet for Republicans. Although they underperformed in the midterms in much of the country, Republicans improved their support this month among Black and Latino voters.

That also was true in 2020, when Trump outperformed previous GOP presidential candidates among Black and brown voters, even while losing.

Democrats have lost ground in two straight elections in the percentage of votes from core constituencies even as progressive activists try to further merge ethnic and political identities.

What Obama and Chappelle said

Perhaps more Black and Latino voters are splitting from Democrats because they do not share the   culture   war pieties of many activists on the left.

Former President Barack Obama addressed the issue in offering advice for his fellow Democrats in October.

"I think where we get into trouble sometimes is where we try to suggest that some groups are more – because they historically have been victimized more – that somehow they have a status that's different than other people and we're going around scolding folks if they don't use exactly the right phrase," Obama said on Pod Save America. "Or that identity politics becomes the principal lens through which we view our various political challenges."

Comedian Dave Chappelle is highly controversial, including for comments about the transgender community. But he's also highly popular, including among Black Americans. And he could be the nation's best-known opponent of cancel   culture .

"It shouldn't be this scary to talk. About anything," Chappelle said in his opening monologue on "Saturday Night Live" following the midterms.

Comedian Gabriel Iglesias (aka "Fluffy"), perhaps America's most popular Latino comedian, raised a similar point in his recent Netflix special.

Speaking under a sign that read "Unity Through Laughter," Fluffy said: "I understand that some people need to be held accountable but, ehh. And by the way, if I'm the one telling you about cancel   culture , it's already gone way too far. Because I pride myself in the fact that I'm not a comedian who's divisive. That's why I don't talk about politics, religion or sports, because all three will divide people."

Cancel the   culture   wars

Iglesias shared a story about how he was nearly "canceled" after expressing his like for Chick-fil-A, making him complicit (in the eyes of some) in the company owner's donations to charities that oppose LGBTQ rights.

Yet the following for Chappelle and Iglesias has not diminished much, if at all, in the wake of these controversies.

In ways both social and political, Americans are finding ways to signal their resistance to a   culture   war that obstructs responsible governance on one side while the other side makes almost every personal interaction political.

Perhaps the way forward is for the great majority of us caught in the middle to insist on grappling with the complexity of most issues while demonstrating the willingness to disagree amicably whenever possible.

If that happens, then we will have gone from all of us losing the   culture   war to all of us winning it. For the better angels of our nature will have prevailed.

John Wood Jr., columnist for USA TODAY Opinion, is a national ambassador for Braver Angels, a former nominee for Congress and a former vice chairman of the Republican Party of Los Angeles County. Follow him on Twitter: @JohnRWoodJr

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