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How to Raise our Sons and Daughters

  

Category:  History & Sociology

Via:  ambivalent  •  11 years ago  •  43 comments

How to Raise our Sons and Daughters


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Petey Coober
Freshman Silent
link   Petey Coober    11 years ago

I expect that mentioning feminism in Nigeria without mentioning the dangers of Islam would be avoiding the real issue .

 
 
 
Kavika
Professor Principal
link   Kavika     11 years ago

Brillant....Should add that she has a lot of courage, considering what is going on in Nigeria right now.

 
 
 
Kavika
Professor Principal
link   Kavika     11 years ago

I agree ambiv. I wasn't attributing the behavior to Islam. I was simply adding that it takes a lot of courage to both discuss what she discussed and knowing that she could be killed for stating andfollowingher beliefs about gender equality.

Sorry if I wasn't clear in my post.

 
 
 
Kavika
Professor Principal
link   Kavika     11 years ago

Oh, OK...

My reading comprehension is a bit off today. I've only had 2 cups of coffee...Smile.gif

 
 
 
Petey Coober
Freshman Silent
link   Petey Coober    11 years ago

For example: gender equality in this country is still being denied

You mean for things like pay equity ?

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
Professor Expert
link   Perrie Halpern R.A.    11 years ago

OMG I have twin daughters... Good thing they were born here.

My daughter's boyfriend is watching this video. His family is from Nigeria but he was raised in England. From what I saw, he is a very modern fellow and very domesticated. I know that he has some traditional Nigerian values, but sexism doesn't seem to be one of them. I am sure he will have something to say about this.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
Professor Expert
link   Perrie Halpern R.A.    11 years ago

Petey,

In Nigeria, 50% of the population is Muslim and 40% is Christian, leaving 10% "traditional". So their sexism isn't solely based on Islam but tradition, too.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
Professor Expert
link   Perrie Halpern R.A.    11 years ago

BF,

It's not like they are encouraging this kind of behavior:

And problems don't have to be handled one at a time.

 
 
 
Aeonpax
Freshman Silent
link   Aeonpax    11 years ago

Having spent a month in Nigeria, among neo-traditional Yorba people, yes, their customs dictate a female in a submissive role.

 
 
 
Petey Coober
Freshman Silent
link   Petey Coober    11 years ago

I doubt it requires as much submission as Islam which actually means submission ...

 
 
 
Aeonpax
Freshman Silent
link   Aeonpax    11 years ago

My friend, who has also been my boss for over 8 years, is from Nigeria and he was educated in both England and France. His family is...how shall I say, into petroleum.

 
 
 
Petey Coober
Freshman Silent
link   Petey Coober    11 years ago

into petroleum

Tarred & feathered ?Grin.gif

 
 
 
Aeonpax
Freshman Silent
link   Aeonpax    11 years ago

 
 
 
Aeonpax
Freshman Silent
link   Aeonpax    11 years ago

Just so you know, urban and educated Africans, regardless of their country, do NOT practice that.

 
 
 
Petey Coober
Freshman Silent
link   Petey Coober    11 years ago

Of course . How foolish of me to think they would share a US cultural practice .

 
 
 
Nigel Dogberry
Freshman Silent
link   Nigel Dogberry    11 years ago

To paraphrase:

"Was I worried that men would be intimidated by me? I was not worried at all, because a man who would be intimidated by be is exactly the kind of man I would have no interest in...."

I love that statement.

 
 
 
Nigel Dogberry
Freshman Silent
link   Nigel Dogberry    11 years ago

Thank you, ambi.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
Professor Expert
link   Perrie Halpern R.A.    11 years ago

That is a given Aeon. I just felt that it should be addressed.

 
 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
Professor Expert
link   Perrie Halpern R.A.    11 years ago

Happy Birthday Grump!

 
 
 
Kavika
Professor Principal
link   Kavika     11 years ago

Happy Birthday Grump.

 
 
 
Nigel Dogberry
Freshman Silent
link   Nigel Dogberry    11 years ago

Bah humbug. But, thanks.

 
 
 
sixpick
Professor Quiet
link   sixpick    11 years ago

Very good video from Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. I agree with everything she said.

One of my favorite women in the world was Margaret Thatcher, called the "Iron Lady" by a Soviet journalist, was Prime Minister of the United Kingdom and leader of the Conservative Party.

Being a conservative female it is much more difficult to obtain respect as the media and their followers condemn these ladies even though they may have many more accomplishments in their lives.

It kind of reminds me of the statement I've heard. "You can't be a racist if you are black."

 
 
 
Chloe
Freshman Silent
link   Chloe    11 years ago

Being a conservative female it is much more difficult to obtain respect as the media and their followers condemn these ladies even though they may have many more accomplishments in their lives.

I think you've made a very good point, as does the video. Bias and preconceptions, no matter the origin or basis - gender, political or what have you - should not affect our goals and aspirations for the betterment of our Human Race. It's a travesty when opportunity is limited for a qualified person based on an inferior view by those that feel they are 'better' - not in performance - but as a human being.

 
 
 
Chloe
Freshman Silent
link   Chloe    11 years ago

Yes..

 
 
 
sixpick
Professor Quiet
link   sixpick    11 years ago

I would say the conservative woman has a much more difficult time than a liberal woman in today's society as the media always comes down on the conservative woman and is much more forgiving to the liberal woman in our society.

The media is super bias and the average American voter is quite uninformed due to this bias.

Worse yet, is when they are perceived by others to be the betterhuman being, especially when a job is at stake.

I disagree with this statement. I don't think it is any worse but just as bad either way.

I just find the liberal media vets the conservative person and forgives the liberal person.

You see, I see person. I don't see female or male. I don't see black or white. I see person. I feel equality should be allotted equally to all. And starting at that point, then it is up to the person to make the difference in their life.

 
 
 
Petey Coober
Freshman Silent
link   Petey Coober    11 years ago

I was talking about pay equality, more money that a man will automatically receive, just for being male, than a woman in the same position in the same place of work.

To those who actually consider this subject a serious study instead of a political slogan that conclusion is flawed at best . When one takes other factors besides gender into account there is no pay inequity . Feel free to ask what those other factors are ...

 
 
 
Petey Coober
Freshman Silent
link   Petey Coober    11 years ago

How would you know?

I have advanced training in statistics . And I have looked into this particular issue in detail . What you have is an attitude and little else . That is clearly demonstrated by your lack of interest in pursuing the details involved in this issue .

Clearly, you come on to my pages to be negative and contradictory, to disrupt.

Clearly your defensiveness outweighs your interest in furthering understanding . If this is your example of your civility it shows a lack of same .

many consider you to be ridiculous.

Very "mature" . It is nice to see you reverting to infantile perjoratives when your pet theories are challenged .

 
 
 
Petey Coober
Freshman Silent
link   Petey Coober    11 years ago

I agree you are usually quite agreeable . I don't see any need for you to apologize however . You have stated your opinion and your motivations . Most commenters leave out their motivations which allows room for nefarious hidden agendas . You don't . I respect that .

 
 

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