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Is watching porn "cheating" on your significant other ?

  

Category:  History & Sociology

Via:  petey-coober  •  9 years ago  •  23 comments

Is watching porn "cheating" on your significant other ?

Things have changed a lot in da age of teh interwebs . How about fidelity ?
I am probably the worst person to be dealing with this topic since I am basically an insensitive pig . However , maybe that gives me an objective perspective many others don't have ? Your assignment , should you choose to accept it is to answer from your perspective the question posed in the title . In order to not bias the results I will delay revealing my position on this . Or maybe you can persuade me to your POV ...
In any case here is some music to help you mull over your answers :


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Petey Coober
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link   seeder  Petey Coober    9 years ago

Semantics can be such a drag ... I was hoping to get into the moral issues here , whatever that means to whoever reads it . Personal points of view are welcome to discuss this topic even if the POV is from their knees .

 
 
 
pat wilson
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link   pat wilson    9 years ago

I suppose it depends on how much time is spent viewing the porn. In the early days of the internet there was a young couple I knew, the husband was addicted and watched constantly. They ended up divorced.

 
 
 
Petey Coober
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Excellent point . Addiction is an important issue no matter what the addiction is . I wonder if others would be as open minded as you appear to be on non-addictive porn use ...

 
 
 
Petey Coober
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Does morality and immorality change on this particular issue with your status...married or unmarried?

That's part of the reason I posted this thread , to explore other opinions . Those with wives may be on a lot shorter leashes than those without . But that might be mistaken . That's why I am delaying my opinion so as not to bias the results ...

 
 
 
LynneA
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This is a big lift of a question! OK, first and foremost its a topic that requires discussion between the watcher and significant other. Assuming honesty and no addiction, I don't have a moral objection. I know right, me the professed Christian woman! Relax all, my faith and being a woman isn't mutually exclusive. We continue to find ways to improve and prolongthe sexuality of our beings be it through visually explicit material,"trashy"novels, erotic art/literature, Viagra, etc.

If one feels threated by porn in a relationship, again no addiction,perhaps there are problems in the relationship where porn is but a symptom.

 
 
 
Nowhere Man
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link   Nowhere Man    9 years ago

I absolutely agree, My sexuality isn't bound to anyone but me. My Wife really doesn't believe that a flat screen compares to what she offers, so she could care less. Me I have no problem leaving a flat screen behind when it comes to real life.

My problem? is in understanding how others can put that screen over and feel that it is more important than real life.

And it doesn't just happen with pornography either.

 
 
 
Petey Coober
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If one feels threated by porn in a relationship, again no addiction,perhaps there are problems in the relationship where porn is but a symptom.

Excellent point ... I am strongly inclined to agree with that . {big smile of thanks}

 
 
 
Nona62
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link   Nona62    9 years ago

OMG....BAD BADFISH!!!24.gif 24.gif 24.gif 24.gif

 
 
 
Petey Coober
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This gets more complicated in the age of teh interwebs . There are interactive chatrooms where one can go to watch live shows AND be watched . Is that cheating ?

More music to help you mull it over [in 5 part harmony !] :

 
 
 
LynneA
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If your significant other views monogamy as a relationshiprequirement,chances are once you've crossed into interactive porn, without partner consent, you're doomed.Now there are those who have no relationship/sexual issues with multiple participants, personally not for me or my guy.

When considering a change to what would be a relationship norm, discussion is paramount! No different than actions between couples....thelet's it you might like it is a better approach than I want this and I'll have it.

 
 
 
Petey Coober
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monogamy as a relationshiprequirement,chances are once you've crossed into interactive porn, without partner consent, you're doomed.

Yup , I'm inclined to agree . The internet has all sorts of line straddling aspects to it . Thanks for your perspective .

And I'm glad that's close to settled . I was running out of relevant Beach Boys music ...

 
 
 
LynneA
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link   LynneA    9 years ago

Alas, responder seek your perspective. What say you?

 
 
 
Petey Coober
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What say you?

Was this due to server delay ? I thought I responded . If not please specify what issue ...

thelet's it you might like it is a better approach than I want this and I'll have it.

I am in full agreement with your approach .

 
 
 
LynneA
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link   LynneA    9 years ago

Sorry for the miscommunication....I'm asking about your POV as in general, overall to your thread Grin.gif

 
 
 
Petey Coober
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I hate to sound like a wimp but I find myself agreeing with pretty much all of what you said . That said , I'm not sure how I would respond if a woman I was serious about decided to put on webcam shows ...

 
 
 
pat wilson
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link   pat wilson    9 years ago

I don't see a moral issue with people who watch on occasion. Personally I find filming that suggests hot sex way more appealing than porn with everybody's hoo-ha's bouncing and flapping around. I don't think that business is ever ready for a close-up.

 
 
 
Petey Coober
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I find filming that suggests hot sex way more appealing than porn with everybody's hoo-ha's bouncing and flapping around.

Thanks for your perspective . I'm thinking that a lot of women share your POV on that . Suggestion is certainly a lot more subtle than visuals . I suspect that a lot of males have the opposite perspective . They prefer the visuals ...

 
 
 
Petey Coober
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Yes exactly . The net has made straddling lines too easy . In the past it would have been very difficult to cross those lines . Thanks for your perspective . I concur .

 
 
 
pat wilson
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link   pat wilson    9 years ago

First, porn. Looking at porn has never been a problem between my bride and me. As a sailor at sea for months at a time, porn was almost a requirement. (Unfortunately for our male sailors today, that's changing on a big scale now that women are serving on all ships).

(where do I start ? )

porn was almost a requirement.

What ?

chat rooms, and private messaging. With this issue, I'm sure my bride would consider this a no-nochat rooms, and private messaging. With this issue, I'm sure my bride would consider this a no-no.

You keep saying "what your bride would consider". Have you asked your "bride" what she would consider ?

(***facepalms***)

 
 
 
pat wilson
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link   pat wilson    9 years ago

porn was almost a requirement. (Unfortunately for our male sailors today, that's changing on a big scale now that women are serving on all ships).

Oh you poor baby!!! You can't beat off when and where ever you want because women are serving ?

 
 
 
Krishna
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link   Krishna    9 years ago
Is watching porn "cheating" on your significant other ?

No-- not if she's starring in the movie!15.gif

 
 
 
Petey Coober
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Lighten up pat . This is not a thread for you take take out your personal disagreements .

 
 
 
Petey Coober
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That would be some real acting !

 
 

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