Stop insulting Trump voters and their concerns, no matter how much fun it is.
Category: News & Politics
Via: hal-a-lujah • 3 years ago • 7 commentsBy: Matthew Dessem (Slate Magazine)
On Thursday, the Washington Post published an opinion piece by columnist Gary Abernathy arguing that Americans need to stop insulting Trump voters lest we fail to achieve "what's necessary for our nation to survive." Easily the greatest work on the importance of being nice to Trump supporters that the Post has published since Kathleen Parker's "Progressives' Shaming of Trump Supporters Won't Work" (Aug. 9, 2019) or James Hohmann's "Liberal Hostility Toward Trump Aides Could Galvanize the GOP Base" (June 25, 2018) or Michael Gerson's "Stop Sneering at Trump. It Won't Help" (April 20, 2017), Abernathy's essay is a timely reminder of the importance of historical amnesia, and the urgent need to treat Trump voters with civility and respect and deference and reverence and adoration, no matter what they've done.
After all, the 2020 election is over, and so is the violent attack on the Capitol Trump incited in a futile attempt to cling to power, and even if people are still dropping like flies from the deadly pandemic Trump catastrophically mismanaged, there's no reason to be rude. You wouldn't treat someone like a moral leper just because they root for the Orioles instead of the Nationals, so why would you judge someone for handing the country over to a pack of racistcrooks who promptly got more than half a million Americans killed? Trump voters would prefer not to think about whether or not they bear any responsibility for the awful things done in their name by the people they explicitly told to go do awful things in their name, and it's important for those of us on the left side of the aisle to respect their culture.
As we all come together to clean up the mess that some of us deliberately caused, it's clear that insults will get us nowhere. Calling Trump voters "dumber than a bag of hammers" only reveals that you are unserious about moving forward as a country. Going on to clarify that you meant to say that Trump voters were "to a person, dumber than the dumbest bag of hammers at a hammer store that used to specialize in selling extremely dumb hammers before the health department shut it down for selling bags of hammers that were so dumb it was against the law" will do very little to reach across the political chasm. It may feel good to insult the people whose stupidity, hatred, and fear caused untold suffering all over the world. It may feel great. It may feel like sitting on the porch and taking your first sip of an ice cold beer after a hot day, or finding a $20 bill in your coat pocket, or seeing the face of an old friend who's been gone for a long time. It may feel so, so great. But consider this: Don't?
Instead, try listening to Trump voters and their concerns as though you were plucked from the cabbage patch this very morning, fresh as the dew, with no memory of what happened when we spent several years listening to Trump voters and their concerns. While you're listening, you can show your commitment to democracy in America by murmuring things like "I see," or nodding your head in an understanding manner. Do not do that thing where you pretend like you're coughing and bark "Bullshit!" into your fist when the Trump voter you are listening to says that of course they didn't approve of everything Donald Trump did. Do not accuse them of enabling a nihilistic death cult that is steering the entire planet into a lake of fire. Do not throw pies or fruit or bricks. Do not say, "What's that? It seems like you're trying to talk, but all I can hear is a thick, clotty bubbling sound, because you're up to your eyebrows in the blood of your fellow citizens." Shaming will never work!
There's no big mystery to effectively communicating with Trump supporters. Just make it clear from the outset that you will always love them unconditionally, even when you are mad at them, and that nothing they could ever do will change that, even if they do it to you or your family or your country over a period of several years. Make sure to bring plenty of healthy snacks so you can redirect their attention if they start whining about cancel culture or wind turbines. If they're getting really fussy, try defusing the situation by asking "Does the widdle baby need its binkie?" and shoving a pacifier in their mouth. Above all, manage your expectations. We've all had plenty of time to learn who Trump supporters are and what they are and aren't capable of. Expecting them to engage in self-reflection at this point is just an insult to everyone's intelligence.
Calling Trump voters "dumber than a bag of hammers" only reveals that you are unserious about moving forward as a country. Going on to clarify that you meant to say that Trump voters were "to a person, dumber than the dumbest bag of hammers at a hammer store that used to specialize in selling extremely dumb hammers before the health department shut it down for selling bags of hammers that were so dumb it was against the law" will do very little to reach across the political chasm.
Trump and his followers deserve every thing said about them.
My grandkids visited me recently and one of them has developed an extremely rude habit of repeating everything you say if he doesn’t like what you’ve asked him to do, or to simply repeat the word “doodie” over and over when you address him. We played along for a while and pretended that it wasn’t bothering us with hopes it would discourage him from continuing. However, he was so persistent in this behavior that we eventually lost it with him. At some point you just need to deal with the reality that someone is being an asshole, whether they are a kindergartner or a Trump supporter.
People in America need to understand something. What is going on now is not the end of all this, it is much more likely closer to the beginning. Its going to take time and a lot of effort to rid the world of the plague known as Trumpism.
I think the concept / political reality of governing that ‘you can’t please all of the people all of the time’ isn’t even digestible to Trumpists. To them, it is just unacceptable to be on the losing end of government. Being directed by the biggest sleazebag in the history of US politics, any method of changing that dynamic is acceptable to them - whether it be consciously lying about the election, attacking the Capitol, or engaging in other serious domestic terrorism. It will get worse, people are going to die, and we need to be less feckless as a country in stamping out these pieces of shit.
Yep.
It has been disappointing , although hardly surprising since I predicted it, to see Donald Trump come full force back into politics and so many people, particularly in the national media, not take it seriously. They still insist that there are two sides to the story and we should all listen to what Trump cultists have to say.
No. We have to take back our country from traitors and morons.