Change including changing how we interact with each other, how we change our views on issues and how we look for ways to agree rather than cling to ways to disagree. A noble goal
I agree there can an should b push back (a lot of folks call it debate, social intercourse, conversation, discussion, etc) when there is disagreement on issues. That is indeed reality.
That push back, should be the presentation of one's own views and opinions and it can be done in a manner that is assertive, aggressive and declarative while at the same time civil and respectful in content and manner.
Disagreement without being disagreeable!
No one asked for or suggested congeniality - disagreement and divergent opinions on key issues (all issues really) is desirable and healthy in our society - but civility and respectful disagreementis more likely lead to actual information exchange than angry name calling, labeling and summary dismissal of opposing views and opinions.
I value your perspective and feedback and thank you for the encouraging words.
It just seems that discussion of an issue rather than screaming back and forth at each other (actually, symbolically or through intermediaries) is more likely to lead to commonality of understanding
It just seems that discussion of an issue rather than screaming back and forth at each other (actually, symbolically or through intermediaries) is more likely to lead to commonality of understanding
Well, obviously, the timing of this article couldn't be better, since I some other mods have been trying to put an end to the discussion devolving into discussing each other. No good comes from that and it only brings down the quality of the discussion. Part of the problem is that we make assumptions about a person's position on a subject based on past interactions with them, which is bad. And often it's more about the person we are talking to and not about the subject at all. This is never good.
We should try to engage each other in a way that is productive at getting to how each of us come to the conclusions that we do. Most often the issue is black and white thinking... when in reality, most things are shades of gray.
We should try to engage each other in a way that is productive at getting to how each of us come to the conclusions that we do. Most often the issue is black and white thinking... when in reality, most things are shades of gray.
I couldn't agree more, though I must admit that I have been as remiss as many others in engaging and firing back when confronted with unproductive personal attacking discussions rather than discussion of the issues.
Will I again, probably but I pledge to try and remember that both 5 +4 and 6+3 equal 9
The time wasted in attacking the individual would be much better invested in attacking the issue, and who knows maybe in doing so a solution may be found.
The time wasted in attacking the individual would be much better invested in attacking the issue, and who knows maybe in doing so a solution may be found
In my view you can aggressively and directly shoot down their arguments, refute their conclusions and present your view of what is the truth of the matter.
You can be civil to someone that you do not respect or you can lower yourself and your standards of behavior by disparaging the person rather than the position.
The two words 'information' and 'communication' are often used interchangeably, but they signify quite different things. Information is giving out; communication is getting through.
Seems simple - something we could all do more of every day.
B A V A
I think we all make that demand time to time
Change including changing how we interact with each other, how we change our views on issues and how we look for ways to agree rather than cling to ways to disagree. A noble goal
I agree there can an should b push back (a lot of folks call it debate, social intercourse, conversation, discussion, etc) when there is disagreement on issues. That is indeed reality.
That push back, should be the presentation of one's own views and opinions and it can be done in a manner that is assertive, aggressive and declarative while at the same time civil and respectful in content and manner.
Disagreement without being disagreeable!
No one asked for or suggested congeniality - disagreement and divergent opinions on key issues (all issues really) is desirable and healthy in our society - but civility and respectful disagreementis more likely lead to actual information exchange than angry name calling, labeling and summary dismissal of opposing views and opinions.
Of course that is only my opinion
Discrediting a stupid remark doesn't mean that you have to be rude.
Exactly!
There is a form of therapy called DBT that states what Robert expressed here:
6+3=9 but so does 4+5
There can be two truths even if it seems to defy common sense.
Good article Robert!
Perrie
I value your perspective and feedback and thank you for the encouraging words.
It just seems that discussion of an issue rather than screaming back and forth at each other (actually, symbolically or through intermediaries) is more likely to lead to commonality of understanding
Well, obviously, the timing of this article couldn't be better, since I some other mods have been trying to put an end to the discussion devolving into discussing each other. No good comes from that and it only brings down the quality of the discussion. Part of the problem is that we make assumptions about a person's position on a subject based on past interactions with them, which is bad. And often it's more about the person we are talking to and not about the subject at all. This is never good.
We should try to engage each other in a way that is productive at getting to how each of us come to the conclusions that we do. Most often the issue is black and white thinking... when in reality, most things are shades of gray.
Perrie
I couldn't agree more, though I must admit that I have been as remiss as many others in engaging and firing back when confronted with unproductive personal attacking discussions rather than discussion of the issues.
Will I again, probably but I pledge to try and remember that both 5 +4 and 6+3 equal 9
The time wasted in attacking the individual would be much better invested in attacking the issue, and who knows maybe in doing so a solution may be found.
Absolutely true
A great example of how things can be viewed differently by people with different perspectives
B A V A
Indeed and the metaphor becomes even more clear in meaning
B A V A
Very true!
People seeing the same thing differently and both are right!
Souls Prison
In my view you can aggressively and directly shoot down their arguments, refute their conclusions and present your view of what is the truth of the matter.
You can be civil to someone that you do not respect or you can lower yourself and your standards of behavior by disparaging the person rather than the position.
At least that is the way I look at it
B A V A
A very good point for all of us to remember