Everything I Need To Know About Life, I learned From Gran Torino
By Perrie Berlin-Halpern
Theo learns from Walt the tools of the trade.
Disclaimer: This is a sociological article about human nature. There is content to this article, that some may find offensive. The article is not meant to be offensive. Please keep that in mind. Also the article contains some spoilers.
A few years ago, I went to see Clint Eastwood's movie Gran Torino. The movie's preview didn't do the film any justice, as it as it left the perception that you were getting Clint doing an older "Dirty Harry". Nothing could be further from the truth. This movie was not about revenge but a film about the human condition. It contained so many lessons about life, and was told in such a poignant way, that it left me in tears of happiness. As the movie opens, we are introduced to a grizzled Walt Kowalski, a Korean War vet that has to deal with his changing neighborhood. He is forced to deal with these changes on a more personal level, when a family of Hmong, the indigenous people of the mountainous regions of southeast Asia, move in next door, Walt does his best to show his new neighbors his dissatisfaction. The new neighbors have two teens, a boy named Thao and his sister named Sue Lor, who quickly get to know Walt and vise verse. Here is what the character of Walt Kowalski taught me:
- Words Can Hurt. The words that we use can cut like a knife. For Walt, words provide an endless way of dealing with a world that has changed and he can no longer understand. His use of ethnic slurs are endless. They are his weapon for dealing with his frustration, anger and to cover up the damage that fighting in the Korean War had done to him. He is not "politically correct", nor does he care to be, because in the world that he grew up in, few were. But were most of his contemporaries would have covered up their bias, Walt wears them proudly.
- Words Mean Nothing. The same words that Walt uses in anger, he also uses as banter. He jokes with them. Here is some dialog from the movie:
Barber Martin: There. You finally look like a human being again. You shouldn't wait so long between hair cuts, you cheap son of a bitch.
Walt Kowalski: Yeah. I'm surprised you're still around. I was always hoping you'd die off and they got someone in here that knew what the hell they were doing. Instead, you're just hanging around like the duop dego you are.
Barber Martin: That'll be ten bucks, Walt.
Walt Kowalski: Ten bucks? Jesus Christ, Marty. What are you, half Jew or somethin'? You keep raising the damn prices all the time.
Barber Martin: It's been ten bucks for the last five years, you hard-nosed pollock son of a bitch.
Walt Kowalski: Yeah, well keep the change.
Barber Martin: See you in three weeks, prick.
Walt Kowalski: Not if I see you first, dip shit.
Walt and his barber words sound full of hate but they mean no harm. In today's society, these words are highly offensive. But these two are stuck in a time warp and the words are just that, words. For these men their banter is how they show their affection for each other. Real men of their generation didn't wear their emotions, on their sleeve, they busted on each other in verbal play. They even try to mentor Walt's neighbour, Thao, on how a real man should talk and act, so that Thao could get a job in construction and fit in with the other construction workers.
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People Should Get a Sense of Humor. We live in a more socially sensitive society and for the most part, this is good. But sometimes people should just lighten up. Walt's new Hmong neighbours, the Lor's take a liking to him for sticking up for their rights and their welfare. The sister, Sue understand Walt and knows how to deal with him. She is not offended by his language, as she understands it's part of the "old man". She knows this because her grandmother is of the same generation as Walt, and says the same kind of things about the white people remaining in the neighborhood. Here is how Sue deals with Walt with humor:
Sue Lor: There's a ton of food.
Walt Kowalski: Yeah, well just keep your hands off my dog.
Sue Lor: No worries, we only eat cats.
- Actions Speak Louder Than Words. In today's society, we all know the right things to say, but very few of us actually do the right things. We don't take a moment to help people. We don't stick up for others when we witness an injustice going on right in front of us. We walk by, when we see people get mugged and avert our eyes when they are being harassed. This has been proved in many sociological tests, including ABC's new show "What Would You Do?" Walt has a unique perspective on how he deals with life. He "fixes things" . Walt, has no problem telling right from wrong and fixes any situation he sees happening. When Thao's cousin starts to harass Thao and his family, Walt takes action to help them. He gets Thao a job, so that he can go to college. He save Sue Lor from a possible rape by a gang of boys, and lectures her about the dangers of the "hood'. He watches out for the family. He even takes a moment to stop and fix a wobbling washing machine, while giving Thao pointers on how to talk to girls at the same time. If you judge Walt by his actions, he is compassionate, caring and helpful. He is an example of what all people should aspire too.
- Honoring Those We Love. Walt is not a religious man. Although he was raised a Catholic, he has his own subtle ways of showing his displeasure with the Church. When making the sign of the cross he mutters under his breath, "Spectacles, testicles, wallet, and watch." But his wife, who had recently passed, was a religious woman and wanted Walt to make confession. Walt loved his wife dearly and described her "the best woman to ever walk on the planet" As an act of love for his wife, Walt does make confession. As we get to know Walt, his gruff exterior was a cover for the love, caring and compassion he hides in his heart.
- Sacrifice is the True Indicator of Quality of Character. After a brutal attack by the local Hmong gang on the family next door Walt realizes his Hmong friends are trapped in what looks like an impossibly hopeless situation. But Walt knows how to fix things, and he contrives an amazingly clever solution so his Hmong friends can have a future here in America. We all know the meaning of sacrifice, but so few of us actually make it. Walt, despite all his flaws, truly understands what it takes to be a good person, what is good from what is evil and is willing to put it all on the line to stand up for what he believes in. If all of us would do this, what a better world this would be.
Was Walt perfect? Far from it. But Walt showed us what a man of integrity is capable of; introspection, change and listening to his heart, and that is what will stick with me. None of us are perfect. We all have our flaws. But it is the decision to take stock of ones self, to see who we are acknowledge our shortcomings, and being able to make a change, that is the real message of this film. That is what Gran Torino taught me. And as the movie closes, we see Thao driving Walt's car, as Clint sings in a gravely voice: " So tenderly your story is, nothing more than what you see, or what you've done or will become, standing strong do you belong, in your skin; just wondering?"
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I thought this would be a good companion piece to John's article. I wrote this awhile ago, but I feel it is still relevant today.
A good article, Perrie. There are other lessons to be learned in the movie, such as the expectations of Walt's granddaughter to inherit the Gran Torino (and her parents expectation to inherit ANYTHING) notwithstanding their selfishness and lifestyle, totally oblivious of Walt's feelings about it.
Anyway, the thing that REALLY changed Walt's treatment of his neighbours was their chicken dish.
It's a very good article, much better than much of the shit posted on NT.
It appears that many different opinions are voiced on the take of the movie.
Very nice article, but I think you leave something out in the end.
Walt changed. The reason he changed is because he began to see the Hmong as individuals and fellow human beings, and not stereotypes.
The movie never touches upon what Walt might have been like to other racial minorities prior to meeting the family that moved in next door to him.
I do agree Gran Torino is a great movie.
Walt really didn't change. If you are a bigot you stay a bigot. And if you remember the Hmong grandmother felt the same way about white people.
The bottom line to the movie was that Walt felt badly about what he did during the war. It wasn't about how he felt about these people in general. He used words like that for every ethnic group out there. It was his goodness that showed through once he got over his grumpy old bitterness.
He did change. In the beginning he didn't even want to talk to his next door neighbors, because they were "gooks". He didnt even differentiate between Sue and her brother and the cousin gang bangers. After the attempted car theft he saw that the Hmong family had remorse for what Thao had done, and he began to accept them and take interest in them.
He viewed the Hmong as part of his changing landscape, where he became the minority. This is not unique. He used the word "Gook" no differently than he did "Wop", "Pollock" or any of the dozens of other slurs he used. But his actions always said something better. He was a man of his time, and couldn't adjust. A lot of seniors are like that. They feel no hate, but the ever changing attitudes are hard for them to adjust to.
The movie doesn't specifically describe what he was like, in terms of how he treated minorities, prior to the beginning of the story, so anything could be true.
John,
It is implied. He doesn't even like his priest. They show him helping out an old lady he knew. They show him with his barbar. He isn't a bad person at heart. He is just a product of his generation of working class guys.
My whole point here, is that all this goes to intent.
It's what's in your heart and your actions that count.
I think, too, that Walt was a product of his times and circumstances. He fought in the Korean War, so he had the attitude that all Koreans were the enemy and you had to kill them. He learned to look beyond their appearance to see their humanity. And that, he did very well.
I think that Walt was a good man, and one that did the right thing, as he saw it. I certainly liked him a lot better than his family. Respected and admired him. He did the right thing, at enormous personal sacrifice. Even the priest recognized his basic goodness!
It was really a good movie, and a thought provoking one. Kudos to Clint Eastwood!
I agree Dowser.
If one is a bigot against one minority, they are a bigot against all minorities, that is my experience.
Walt changed when he started to see them as humans. In the end he gave his life to get the ''bad guys''.
I do take exception with ''he was a product of his times''.....To me that is just an excuse for bigotry. If it were true, why than were there people of the same age and time frame that were not bigots?
It's each person decision to be a bigot or not, excusing is as a product of their times, IMO simply isn't true.
If one is a bigot against one minority, they are a bigot against all minorities, that is my experience.
I think there are two types of bigots. Ones who were raised in bigoted homes and have taken to the indoctrination and the other is experiential. The ones that are based on experience, might be bigoted against only one minority. I can tell you that before 9/11 most New Yorkers didn't really think much about the Muslim community, but after, things changed for many.
I do take exception with ''he was a product of his times''.....To me that is just an excuse for bigotry. If it were true, why than were there people of the same age and time frame that were not bigots?
When I say he was a product of his times, I mean the way he spoke. I can look at my own dad and see that We have to constantly update his language and he doesn't get it. He feels that what's the big deal with these words? I mean no disrespect. You are making a big deal over nothing. He's 83 and I am not going to change him. He feels his own pain when people use words to describe him, but still doesn't get how his own words hurt, too. But my dad isn't a bigot and I wasn't raised to hate anyone. That is what I mean by a product of his times. Obviously, Walt didn't hate. He had baggage from the war, and he was trying to adapt to his changing world. If he had true hate, he would have never help his neighbors.
And I am not excusing bigotry. I just view the world in shades of gray. People are not black and white but rather shades of gray, and Walt is very gray.
Kavika, when I said that, I meant that he was trained to fight and kill them. I don't think that people lose that, overnight, unless they finally live next door to the people, or deal with them on a daily basis. My Daddy hated the stereotypical Japanese-- those from WWII, yet he was kind and very nice to the Japanese student in my class, and would have defended her to the death. He finally saw her as a person... But the rest, were those "sneaky Japs".
Walt didn't particularly seem to like anyone. He was an old man who didn't open up to anyone very easily whether they were minorities or whatever. But the one thing he did differentiate between was right and wrong.
Better looked at in the mirror in front of your PC. LOL
I'm just going to leave this here.......It is an echo of Walt......
LOL
If I were looking for a new avatar, that would be it.