What is 'emotional intelligence?' How to improve your EQ
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If you work in a corporate environment (and even if you don’t) you’ve likely heard someone extol the virtues of ‘emotional intelligence.’ You may have even taken an emotional intelligence test at work (like DiSC , for example), to assess how you interact with others and gauge your strengths.
It’s no wonder: A study , published by the American Psychological Association, suggests that self-reported emotional intelligence predicts job performance beyond cognitive ability and personality traits .
“We know from research (and common sense) that people who understand and manage their own and others’ emotions make better leaders. They are able to deal with stress , overcome obstacles and inspire others to work toward collective goals. They manage conflict with less fallout and build stronger teams. And they are generally happier at work , too,” according to a 2016 article on the topic in the “ Harvard Business Review .”
WHAT IS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE?
Though it sounds like corporate mumbo jumbo, emotional intelligence was first established by psychologists as a way to understand if there were different types of intelligence, other than what’s known as "general intelligence."
A paper , co-authored by John D. Mayer, a leading emotional intelligence researcher and professor of psychology at University of New Hampshire, claims that emotional intelligence suggests solid social functioning because people have an easier time tuning into the feelings of others, understanding their perspectives, and are better at communicating and regulating their behavior.
“I was very interested in how emotions were important to problem solving,” says Mayer. “What if there was an intelligence that gave credence to people’s emotions?” Mayer says, though emotional intelligence is related to general intelligence, it’s not “a lockstep connection.” “The jury is out if emotional intelligence is one ability or actually several,” he says. “People with general intelligence seem to be able to reason socially. People with emotional intelligence seem to have better relationships with people and fewer issues with problematic and aggressive behaviors. Most researchers would say that social intelligence should exist, but as of now there’s no way to measure it successfully.”
Justin Bariso, author of “ EQ Applied: The Real-World Guide to Emotional Intelligence ,” defines emotional intelligence as a process of learning to understand and manage emotions in order to make decisions that are more in harmony with your true beliefs and values. “Emotions are a big part of what makes us human. The problem is when we let temporary feelings and moods rule our decision-making, leading us to say or do things we later regret ,” he explains.
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE CAN HELP YOU MAKE WISER DECISIONS
Knowing how we feel about things — and having an idea of how others might feel — can be socially and intrinsically empowering. “Our emotions influence our decisions on everything — from what career path to follow, to where we will live, to who we choose to spend our lives with,” Bariso says. “Emotional intelligence, when combined with other factors, can help you make wiser decisions, leading to a happier, more purposeful life.”
Emotional intelligence can also help you harness negative emotions like anger, fear and sadness, explains Bariso. “For example, if we’re sad or angry there’s a reason for it. Identifying those emotions and their root causes can help motivate us to make changes for the better,” he says.
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Emotional Intelligence (EQ), is taken very seriously by corporations and might determine whether or not you get a job or your promotion. So, it's worth knowing about.
yes, it is worth knowing about.
but in today's world, the way things are, im not sure much can be done about it without big changes made.
I do not think any one thing has caused this unless that one thing is called our current society.
I reckon this is what happens when parents depend on the state, institutions and devices to raise their kids and those institutions/devices do not teach kids real life lesson.
all these runaway childish emotions should have been dealt with when these people were kids. but, as long as kids get things like participation ribbons for losing... the real world is going to crush their fragile hearts when they grow up. this is obviously not the best plan to create strong-minded adults.
time for "tough love" to make a comeback, or most everyone will simply pop a pill everytime they feel sad, lonely, or left out. we are almost there now.
the most important lesson any person must learn in this world is how to be disappointed/lose gracefully
- the sooner they learn that the better -
it is like we are playing a sick joke on the kids.... as a society we tell them they are all winners, no one ever loses. and then kick them out into the real world and wonder why they can not handle it...
honestly, at this point, some people are so far gone, they ain't gonna make it back.
it is important to love our kids... it is also important to spank them.
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cheers