Why we're stuck on a particular side of the bed

  
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Why we're stuck on a particular side of the bed

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Why we're stuck on a particular side of the bed

BY CHRISTIAN COTRONEO, MOTHER NATURE NETWORK, AUGUST 2 2019

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We eventually stake a claim to one side — and stick with it. (Photo: simona pilolla 2/Shutterstock)

While it's true that no one wants to live in a house divided, sleeping arrangements are an altogether different matter.

A bed divided is not just the foundation of a happy domestic union, but also our natural preference. Even if, in the interest of keeping things fresh in a relationship, we try to fight it.

After all, who wants to be like their parents, cemented in their age-old roles? Mom on the right. Dad on the left. They might cross that border for a little affection — luckily for you — but when the dust settles, it's back to their respective camps.

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Left is left and right is right. But sometimes, the twain shall meet. (Photo: Realstock/Shutterstock)

The thing is, no matter how hard you try to keep things fluid, maybe even switching sides every other night, you eventually pick a side — and stick with it.

And why not?

You've got everything just right on your side of the bed. The night lamp, for instance, has become an instinctive reach. You can turn off your alarm without opening your eyes. That half-eaten snack is still waiting patiently for a late-night nibble. And let the crumbs fall where they may — it's your side of the bed!

In time, you've tailored your side of the bed to your specific needs. Why learn new behaviors every other night? It can be jarring to reset your habits just after you've established a system of sorts.

But exactly why we choose a particular side to set up camp in for a third of our lives is a little more complicated. Like evolutionary psychology complicated.

There's surprisingly scant research on the specifics of sleep sides. One major study, however, suggests we position the entire bed based on primal fear.

The University of Munich researchers found that "people prefer sleeping places that allow them to view the entrances to the sleeping room (doors and windows) from a distance while remaining concealed from the entrances themselves."

The fear of predation, even in coddled suburban homes of the 21st century, still looms so large, participants in the study overwhelmingly positioned their bed as far from the door as possible.

But what about divisions in the bed? Do we instinctively pick the side that's farthest from the door — in hopes that intruders will murder our significant other first?

That's an even murkier research subject. Paul C. Rosenblatt, a professor at the University of Minnesota, came up with several factors in his 2012 book, called "Two in a Bed: The Social System of Couple Bed Sharing."

We may, for example, enjoy the morning sun that streams in from the window — more so than our partner who hates the light, craving only darkness. Bathroom proximity, even if it only saves a couple of steps, may also be a factor. For frequent tinklers, those steps add up. Rosenblatt suggests another, somewhat more noble reason for our choice in bed real estate. Men may sleep on the side of the bed nearest the door to guard their partners, even in sleep.

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Fear of intruders likely keeps us as far from the bedroom door as possible. (Photo: Lewis Tse Pui Lung/Shutterstock)

A 2011 poll goes so far as to suggest the left side of the bed is a happier place. For the survey — sponsored by a hotel chain — 3,000 adults were asked about their happiness at home and work, and of course, what side of the bed they slept on.

The happiest and most well-adjusted participants reported that they owned the left side of the bed. The researchers also noted that most of these "generally more cheerful" sleepers refused to swap sides with righties. There's a limit, apparently, even to love.

But it's important to note the poll doesn't make it clear that the left side of the bed made people happier, or if happier people were just drawn to that side.

Still, for the amount of time you spend in bed, why not hedge your bets?

While things are settling in on that new relationship, you might want to stake your claim early on a side of the bed. Don't be a romantic fool and give your partner first dibs. This is, after all, a lifetime commitment. And if there's any debate, you can always tell your partner you're guarding against bedroom intruders — from the door or window, depending on the side on the bed you prefer.

That way you can have your cake. And eat it in bed, too.

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Buzz of the Orient
1  seeder  Buzz of the Orient    2 weeks ago

I sleep on the left side of the bed nearest the door - well, due to  my age, my nighttime trips to the toilet take fewer steps.

What side of the bed do you sleep on, and is there a reason why?

 
 
 
Kathleen
2  Kathleen    2 weeks ago

On the right.

My husband prefers the left side. I could sleep on either side.

 
 
 
TᵢG
3  TᵢG    2 weeks ago

My wife claimed the right side (not even sure it was a conscious choice) so I am on the left side.   I do not care.   When we are on trips we do not necessarily stick with our designated sides.   So I think it is just habit and convenience for us.   My stuff is on the left, hers on the right, no reason to reshuffle our stuff (move the furniture).

 
 
 
Tacos!
4  Tacos!    2 weeks ago

I'm pretty sure we sleep the way we do because it puts my wife closer to the bathroom. Being only a man, my needs are secondary.

 
 
 
Buzz of the Orient
4.1  seeder  Buzz of the Orient  replied to  Tacos! @4    2 weeks ago

LOL.  The best way I can explain how my wife treats me like her Emperor is that she puts the toilet seat UP after she finishes with it.

 
 
 
Freefaller
5  Freefaller    2 weeks ago

Currently the left, but I'll switch to the right side when I move back upstairs after the summer.  Don't really have a favourite side just whichever is closer to the door

 
 
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