Studies Show that Husbands Stress Women Twice as Much as Children
According to neuroscientists, the human brain is a sex-typed organ with distinct structure and function. In other words, men and women are different in every aspect.
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A 2013 study involved 7,000 women. The women were supposed to rate their stress level on a scale of 0-10. What was the average? 8.5. Well, this doesn’t come as a surprise. What’s the biggest cause of stress for all those women? Their husbands.
Here are some other sources of stress for moms:
- Lack of time to get everything done
- Responsibility for all the household duties around the home
- Lack of help from their spouses
- Single moms have the highest levels of stress because they don’t have enough support from their spouses
To be honest, moms do twice as many tasks as fathers. Moms know they can do everything right, which isn’t the case with their husbands. Women spend more time taking care of their family than men.
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From the article:
A 2015 study confirmed that fathers have higher level of avoidance and more egoistic motivations to offer help. They don’t have high ability to recognize other people’s needs. They also have lower levels of mindful parenting than moms.
We’re not trying to convince you that men care less and don’t love their kids and wives. It’s all in the way they perceive parenting. Women do it differently.
Studies in mammal genetics confirmed that the maternal instinct is pre-programmed in females in utero, and this has something to do with the predominant female sex hormones.
Moms are frustrated with the fact that their spouses act more like kids than active parents. Dads usually sit back and ignore the dirty dishes.
A study conducted by the University of Padova (Italy) confirmed that when one spouse dies after long years of marriage, widowers are depressed and unhealthy. Widows have their stress levels reduced and have lesser chance of becoming frail.
Makes sense at least for modern day America I guess.
After all, seems most women would feel stressed by a husband that supports the party and the ideology to take away the birth control. And that is just one thing.
There are dozens of other examples by the 'new conservatism.'
You think it's the husbands who support that ideology.....
That's hilarious.
That would certainly do it, but the article discusses the stress put on wives by husbands who don't do their part around the house and, more importantly, in raising the children.
For example: When she has to pick up his clothes right along with the children's clothes, it's an additional stress she shouldn't have. If he also never helps with the laundry, that too is an additional stress.
I never had that happen.
I suggest she doesn't do that.
Are you insinuating that all men are conservative and that soy boys make up Liberals?
I'm not familiar with that term. Can you enlighten me? Tia.
"According to Urban Dictionary, the term soy boy means: “Slang used to describe males who completely and utterly lack all necessary masculine qualities. This pathetic state is usually achieved by an over-indulgence of emasculating products and/or ideologies."
Wow. That's really hateful. I don't understand the need to be so hateful and insulting towards others.
Loretta, I have to tell you, that my husband was always a huge roll in raising our twin girls from day 1. He worked (so did I), and grandma's pitched in on the days that I worked, but when it came to sharing the housework and raising the girls, my hubby did his fair share. I know many men who are the same way.
The actual study that I found interesting is the number of parents who said they wouldn't have kids again if they knew what they knew now. I can see why. While I love my kids, and I am very proud of their achievements, when it comes to how they are to mom and dad, I am not sure they will be the kind of kids we are to our parents. They were also a great source of stress in the marriage.
Your hubbie sounds like a gem. So glad you have him.
I've seen the same studies. Ann Landers did a poll in 1976, asking her readers the same type of questions. She did it after a couple wrote in asking if they should forego children. Instead of answering herself, she asked her readers what they thought. She was shocked by the replies which were substantially as you stated. Of course, it wasn't a scientific survey, and those who wouldn't do it again might have been more motivated to reply.
Here's a portion of that column:
After five days of reading, counting, and sorting mail, a bleary-eyed staff of eight secretaries announced we had received over 10,000 responses, and--are you ready for this--70 percent of those who wrote said, "No. If I had it to do over again, I would not have children."
Twenty years of writing the Ann Landers column has made me positively shockproof. Or so I thought. But I was wrong. The results of that poll left me stunned, disturbed, and just plain flummoxed.
Could it be? Not only could it be, it is. The message came through loud and clear. Wake up and smell the coffee, Annie old girl. Your readers had blown the American Dream. Motherhood, which always rated right up there with apple pie, Old Glory and the U.S. Marines was due for a reassessment.
About 40 percent of those who wrote to say, "No. I would not have children if I had it to do over again," didn''t sign their names. On the other hand, nearly all the letter that said, "Yes. Our children have brought us great happiness," bore signatures. A number of those who expressed the latter view asked me to print their letters. Many said, "You can use my name if you want to."
Approximately 80 percent of the total response came from women. The average letter ran almost a page longer than the usual Landers letter. I was particularly moved by the intensity of feeling.
Dozens who wrote said, "I am weeping as I write this. It''s the first time I have ever put such thoughts about my children down on paper. It''s painful."
"Single moms have the highest levels of stress because they don’t have enough support from their spouses"
This article is very odd. Seems like the purpose is to show men how much they stress out their women, but then you point out that mothers without men have the highest levels of stress. It's a tale as old as time. Women in relationships like to blame all of their problems and shortcomings on the men in their life. Then once they convince themselves they aren't the issue and dump their men, they find out the reality that their shortcomings are their own issue and now they really have no help. I experienced this in my own life. My ex wife tried to say it was my fault she never got some good job and had a successful career. I had to laugh when she said this as I always encouraged her to get better jobs, and I helped her graduate college as her math was atrocious(she would not have passed without my tutoring and she acknowledged it herself many times). I always earned more than twice as much as her and it was not because I have different genitalia than her. I would spend my free time studying for certifications, work over time at my job to move myself up. She never did anything with her spare time that was career focused, and didn't even get a job for the degree she got. So this is why I tend to not credit women who try to blame their problems in life on the men in their life, but then will try to turn around and talk about how strong and independent they are. Maybe it's all the political and media pressure on women to be strong and independent, even if they don't have the ability to. Some women need a man even if they don't want to have to admit it. Man shaming is such a common thing. You see it on commercials, shows, movies, politics and so on. It's so predominate that I think many women actually believe all men are dumb and the source of all their problems. Very dangerous mentality.
Women complaining about housework and husbands? Why would that be odd?
You spotted that, did you? Did you catch the part where single moms supposedly have spouses?
So....is he supposed to drop by 3x a week and do the dishes? What do they expect, actually?
A dishwasher
I had a hard time finding the source of this study, still haven't found it, but your article on a article that I followed to this article does have a key factor that yours left out.
In my experience I don't see this article being a true representative of what "Duty's" Men perform. I do cleaning chores, cooking, lawn maintenance, house maintenance, car maintenance, pay for activities. And it seems like most guys I know who "stress" their wives do the same thing.
I'm guessing that the unknown source of this study is from some butt hurt feminist that currently spends all her free time telling everyone how much she hates President Trump sporting her Pussy hat and vagina costume.
I wonder if these men told their wives "good job" every once in a while.
Here's an article that says men are stepping up more with the children, but not with housework. It also brings up a bugaboo for many women: if men do the same thing a woman does, he's considered special and given more credit than his female counterpart because she's seen as doing what women are supposed to do.
This is from the article, which is well-written and explores the topic in depth:
Meanwhile, everywhere, men get special credit for the chores they do do, because their contribution gets assessed at “the going rate”, as the sociologist Arlie Hochschild put it in her 1989 book The Second Shift : if a man does a bit more than the notional average man in his community, he’s viewed as exceptionally helpful.
If that is something they're worried about, they have very easy lives.
sounds like you've got it maid
ha...it must be your fault she needs one
I was just teasing you. Couples need to work out what is best for them and their family's situation.
You use that system too? Same here; that's why I'm still married after almost 48 years.
So basically it's just hate all men for you?
If he doesn't do household chores he is a asshole, If he does do household chores he is a "he thinks he is special" asshole. Got it.
I don't expect a good boy pat on the back if I do something or flowers.
Lol while I see no reason to doubt the overall veracity of the article as a single father of two I know if I didn't do the chores the chores or at least harp on the kids to help they simply wouldn't get done.
Not equating the two but out of idle curiosity but do any of the women here or guys spouses help out with home repairs, automotive stuff, lawn mowing, snow shovelling, general lifting of heavy stuff, etc (traditional mens duties). I know that while I had a wife these sorts of things were definitely my job.
Absolutely!
Home repairs, yes. I have helped my husband hang drywall, lay porcelain tile and assisted on some mirror plumbing jobs. I do all the painting inside and out.
Automotive, yes. The basics. Change a tire or the oil.
I have even been known to mow the lawn and shovel snow (no more of that snow now that we moved) but I find it to be good exercise.
Heavy lifting... I try
She sounds a bit like me. I love doing projects, making something old look new again.
Since we relocated a few months back we do have a yard service but very much like your wife I am out there doing this or that all the time. My husband just shakes his head and says “ You know we have someone to do that”
We just moved a couple months ago also. Even though I didn’t really mind it, I won’t miss the snow shoveling. 🥶 Brrrr
I actually love to paint. I did our old house inside and out right before we sold it. I am just about to get started on changing our current doors from a brown to a nice bright orange. 😁
Best wishes in your new place. Enjoy the beautiful leaves before they fall and you have to rake.
But did you do any of those things every day ? every two days ? or even every 3 days ?
Can't really answer your question as with the exception of mowing the lawn all the other things are as required. ie snow shovelling can be every day for months and then nothing for months, just spent pretty much every day for the past month putting up a new back deck but it had been nearly a year since the last house project.
However your point is a good one and well taken, note my intent was not to bitch but just curiosity.
I think I've shared this story.
We had received significant snowfall here in the South. Significant here is anything over an inch.
Anyway, he said I couldn't shovel the driveway. Our driveway is approximately 300 feet long. I said watch me.
I shoveled it. Cobalt Blue said Mr Giggles knows how to work me. She laughs at that story every time.
I remember the story, it's a good one