Rudy Giuliani's Daughter: Trump Took My Dad From Me. Please Don't Let Him Take Our Country, Too
By: Conde Nast (Vanity Fair)
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"Nothing I have experienced prepared me for the very public and relentless implosion of my father's life," writes Caroline Giuliani, announcing her support for Kamala Harris.By Caroline Rose GiulianiSeptember 30, 2024New York City Mayor Rudolph Giuliani with his daughter Caroline Giuliani.By Rick Maiman/Sygma/Getty Images.Save this storySaveSave this storySave
I am constantly asking myself how America is back here, even considering the possibility of electing Donald Trump again, after all of the damage he has caused, both in office and since. While Kamala Harris has gained extraordinary momentum by infusing this election with vitality and hope, I worry that too many Americans remain disconnected from the visceral, psychologically draining memory of Trump's deeply destabilizing presidency. If enough people truly remembered what that chaos felt like, another Trump term wouldn't even be on the table. But for those open to seeing the bare and unvarnished truth, there are unmistakable reminders of Trump's destructive trail all around us, and it has broken my heart to watch my dad become one of them.
As Rudy Giuliani's daughter, I'm unfortunately well-suited to remind Americans of just how calamitous being associated with Trump can be, even for those who are convinced he's on their side. Watching my dad's life crumble since he joined forces with Trump has been extraordinarily painful, both on a personal level and because his demise feels linked to a dark force that threatens to once again consume America. Not to disregard individual accountability in the slightest, but it would be naive for us to ignore the fact that many of those closest to Trump have descended into catastrophic downward spirals. If we let Trump back into the driver's seat this fall, our country will be no exception.
My dad and I have a cartoonishly complicated relationship. But he is still my father, and despite his faults, I love him. I've seen him experience surreal heights, and, now, unfathomable lows. The last thing I want to do is hurt him, especially when he's already down. Plus we never know how much time we have left with our parents. The totality of that makes this the most difficult piece I've ever written. Yet this moment and this election are so much bigger than any of us.
From reproductive rights and the economy, to foreign and environmental policy, we need experienced, sane, and fundamentally decent leaders who will fight for us instead of against us—who will safeguard our democracy rather than dismantle it. And as a recently engaged-to-be-married, 35-year-old who hopes to feel more joyous than fearful about the potential of becoming a parent myself, I need to advocate for a future worth bringing children into, which is why I am voicing my adamant support for Kamala Harris and Tim Walz.
I'll never forget the night my dad told me he was considering becoming Trump's lawyer. I was with him at the Grand Havana Room, a cigar bar at the top of 666 Fifth Avenue, an address too fitting given the unholy alliance my father was about to enter into.
Surrounded by thick smoke and powerful men, I ugly-cried for a few minutes, then spent the next three hours making my vehement case to my father that he not go down this morally perilous path.
It was extremely rare for my dad to tell me he was going to do anything before actually doing it, so this moment of connection with him also felt like a cosmic opportunity to do my part to limit the spread of Trump's sinister shadow. I held nothing back. I voiced all of my concerns about Trump's open racism, rampant misogyny, and total lack of empathy. I even told my dad that I already felt ashamed of my last name whenever I saw headlines connecting him with Trump, and that this escalation would only deepen that feeling. For the rest of that night, I held onto hope that a daughter's emotional entreaty might actually sway a father.
That fantasy was dispelled the next morning when a news story popped onto my feed: Rudy Giuliani was going to work for Donald Trump. The pit I felt in my stomach then was a warning, but I had no idea how much destruction my father would come to face due to his one-sided fealty to a con-man. Growing up in Gracie Mansion, I always knew I had a privileged life. But a particular set of challenges came along with being Rudy Giuliani's daughter, and by that point in my life, I had mostly learned how to navigate them.
But nothing I have experienced prepared me for the very public and relentless implosion of my father's life.
As someone who overcame a deeply ingrained eating disorder and has worked through various other manifestations of anxiety and depression, I'm no stranger to processing complicated feelings. But this new albatross left me floored by a potent mix of fear, anger, confusion, and sadness that often had me crying over my dad, and for him, at the same time. I always saw flaws in my dad that people blinded by his celebrity couldn't see, but on some level, the absurd scale of his success and notoriety also made it hard to believe that anything could actually take him down. I spent a lot of my life wishing my father had less power. But I never wanted it to happen like this. And selfishly, the deeper my dad gets stuck in the quicksand of his problems, the more fleeting our opportunities to connect as father and daughter become. After months of feeling the type of sorrow that comes from the death of a loved one, it dawned on me that I've been grieving the loss of my dad to Trump. I cannot bear to lose our country to him too.
I know that some people may question whether I truly care about my father, since another Trump presidency could theoretically mitigate some of the problems he's facing. It distresses me to think that my dad might even wonder this. But if you zoom out, Trump being the president was the worst thing that ever happened to my dad, to my family, and to our nation's modern history. The consequences will only be more severe—and irreversible— a second time around. Thanks to the extremist Supreme Court he stacked, Trump would take office with full immunity: no checks on his power whatsoever. If the president isn't going to be subject to the law like every other citizen, which remains incomprehensible to me, then our president had better have a moral compass. A 34-time convicted felon who's been found liable for sexual abuse, tries to steal elections, and demeans people based on their race, sexuality, disability status, and gender falls remarkably short of the bar we must set for ourselves as a country. Fortunately, we have another choice in this election: a life-long public servant who has spent her career upholding justice and fighting for those who cannot fight for themselves.
The Supreme Court's immunity ruling was a huge blow to the structure of our democracy, and Trump has made it clear that he intends to continue ravaging our noble experiment until there is nothing left of it. The aspiring autocrat has told his supporters that this is the last time they'll ever have to vote because "it'll be fixed after that." There's no good way to spin that. Whether he means that elections will be fixed, elections will be eradicated, or that the country will be permanently "fixed" due to the demolition of institutions and policies that ensure checks and balances on power, it's clear that he's a narcissist in pursuit of authoritarian rule. A democracy by definition cannot be fixed or calcified. It must have the flexibility to change according to the wishes of its people, not the despotic dreams of one. Listening to those wishes, even when it seemed inconceivably late for President JoeBiden to pull out, is exactly what led to Kamala Harris being on the top of the ticket. Her rapid rise is a literal manifestation of citizens' voices being heard, which is exactly the type of consideration and respect all Americans will get if she is elected.
Beyond the existential importance of this election, I am also voting for Harris because she is the only candidate who cares about my rights as a woman. The reversal of Roe v Wade was a shocking and horrifying "accomplishment" of Trump's that has already resulted in the unforgivable and unnecessary deaths of innocent women like Amber Nicole Thurman. Seeing Republican state officials enact draconian abortion bans and threaten fertility care is incredibly personal for me. As a woman in my 30s struggling with long-covid-related health issues, there's a possibility that my soon-to-be husband and I will need to rely on surrogacy or fertility treatments if we want to have children of our own. Having the means to even consider surrogacy is a tremendous privilege that I do not take lightly, but it also stirs up many complex and challenging emotions. So I've spent the last couple of years talking to countless women about their fertility journeys. Witnessing their strength has been inspiring, and it has also made it clear that fertility struggles necessitate tremendous courage and grace. So the fact the Roe reversal has given states the leeway to make the IVF process even more uncertain is a disgrace. And hearing Trump flip-flop on the issues of abortion and IVF only makes me trust him less - if that's even possible - because his lies are so clearly politically motivated. He's already caused irreparable damage, and I don't believe for a second that he won't cause more.
Trump has tried to distance himself from Project 2025, which would "explicitly reject the notion that abortion is health care" and require the Department of Health and Human Services Department to preclude doctors and nurses from being trained to perform abortions, but his insincere denial so clearly stems from his growing political insecurity. Project 2025's contributors include several high-ranking officials from Trump's first administration, and one of Project 2025's authors, Russell Vought, was secretly recorded acknowledging that Trump is in fact "very supportive" of what they do. I believe it, because everything in Project 2025, from eradicating the Department of Education and FEMA, to decimating unions and reinstating schedule F so that the administration can hire and fire government employees for political reasons, is woefully in line with the malfeasance and backsliding that Trump has already proven he stands for. It is a dictator's playbook—one he didn't have before. Trump will be much more effective a second time around, and I don't see how our world can survive it.
We live at a crossroads in history, where the future of not only our democracy but our planet is at stake. Trump's first-term position on the Climate Crisis was to call it a hoax while stripping away climate regulations and giving the fossil fuel industry everything they wanted and more. His second-term agenda, which we can foresee through his grotesque Project 2025 playbook, will only accelerate the damage he's already done. My dream of becoming a mom, coupled with the difficult health journey I've been on over the last few years, has me constantly grappling with our increasingly toxic and dangerous environment. But I do feel hope. Because Kamala Harris understands the grave danger of climate change. As only the second presidential candidate in history to be endorsed by Scientific American, she'll be a champion for our children's futures by reinstating the United States as a member of the Paris Agreement and continuing to fight for renewable energy policy. We've seen remarkable progress on this issue under the Biden/Harris Inflation Reduction Act. Trump would roll it all back. Kamala Harris is our only chance for a better future.
Even though the last few years have been some of the most difficult of my life on a personal level, I'm grateful to live in a country that came together one before to fire a burgeoning tyrant. Watching Harris reignite the torch that Biden selflessly passed to her has filled me with optimism and pride. She has the experience, intelligence, and fortitude to lead us to a brighter future, and seeing her hold Trump accountable in the debate only further confirms her ability to defend us from our most dangerous enemies, domestic and foreign. But even with all the incredible momentum the Harris/Walz ticket has generated, we still have to work hard to ensure a victory for our future. We live in a two-party system, and no candidate will appeal to every voter on every issue.
If for whatever reason you choose to sit this election out or lodge a protest-vote for a third-party candidate, make no mistake: you are voting for Donald Trump.
Take it from me, Trump destroys everything he touches. I saw it happen to my family. Don't let it happen to yours, or to our country. Kamala Harris will guide us into a brighter future, but only if we unite behind her. On November 5th, I'll be voting for that future. For justice, stability, and democracy. And I sincerely hope you'll cast your ballot for Kamala Harris, too.
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Looks like Ghouliani's son is following in his footsteps. Thank goodness his daughter has a lick of common sense.
I hope those here who are voting 3rd party 'on principle' will note her comments - a 3rd party vote is a vote for the traitor. No doubt about it.
With nearly every comment, it solidifies my support for Trump.
Thanks!
Good gawd! Can I get some cheese with that whine.
JFC he is a fucking adult and makes his own decisions FFS.