28 People Who Got The "Ick" For A Person They Dated
By: Hannah Marder (BuzzFeed)
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We all know the feeling of getting the "ick." Maybe you're dating someone you really like, and one moment makes you run the other direction. Or, maybe you seriously reconsider your crush on a friend after they make an offhand comment. Maybe the "ick" even occurs when they do something weird on the very first date.
The "ick" — aka losing any and all attraction to someone — usually comes on suddenly, and there is rarely any hope of getting past it. The reasons it comes on can range from ridiculous and arbitrary to actually harrowing — as the stories from this Reddit thread from th3dankmemer reveal. Here are 28 reasons someone got the "ick."
1."A really lovely woman telling me in a sincere voice that she loved me, three to four hours after meeting her, freaked me the fuck out in a way that I guess could reasonably be described as 'the ick.' In no way was the statement couched, either, just straight up 'I love you.' Think I responded '...no, you don't.'"
—u/jbartlettcoys
2."Went on a date with a guy I met at a party. He made me prove that I liked Lord of the Rings by answering who said what when he quoted someone. He pulled out a notebook of really poorly drawn anime characters and asked me if he could draw me. He was a lot shorter than me and asked if it bothered me. I said no, then he said, 'Good, I like Amazonian goddesses.' He kept trying to put his jewelry onto me despite my protests. He asked what I wanted to order for food, then ignored me and ordered me something else and got frustrated I didn't eat it all. He referenced being arrested, made me guess what for, and when I refused to guess for not knowing him well enough, he said GBH (grievous bodily harm)."
"He was a trainee doctor and asked if I'd ever broken any bones; when I replied yes, he said that he was going to look up my X-rays. And the icing on the cake... When I wanted to leave, he got my knee-high boots, slipped them onto my feet, zipped them up, and said, 'You should always be treated like a goddess. ... My Morticia Addams.' ALL ONE DATE."
—choccymilkaddict
3."On a second date with a guy I liked, I mentioned that before we sleep together, we should talk about birth control. He said something like, 'Well, that's totally your responsibility.' I said good night and good riddance."
—u/___o----
4."My brief GF bought me some hair care products before she came over because it was right by her house. In return, I said I would go grocery shopping and make her a nice dinner. I thought this to be an even exchange. That night, I found her looking through my trash for the receipt for the groceries to make sure that the $30 she spent on me was equal to the amount I spent on her dinner."
—u/lookssharp
5."Found out the reason he rented the house next door to his parents was so his mom would make his meals, wash his clothes, etc. Had the audacity to say 'let me call my mom' when I mentioned I was a little hungry."
—u/SpeechDistinct8793
6."First date with a guy who mentioned hooking up that night while I was talking about something else, and I continued speaking to finish my sentence. He immediately asked if I was ignoring him...because I didn't stop speaking to acknowledge his inquiry for sex?"
—u/Full-Benefit
7."Grabbed me by the face on the first date, stroked under my eyes, and said, 'You need to take better care of yourself.' Sir, I'm a divorced 37-year-old with kids, and those under-eye circles were passed down from my grandmother; they're family heirlooms. And get your hands off my face; we just met, and this is not a Nicholas Sparks movie."
—u/IgnorethisIamstupid
8."Had a guy once whose car smelled so bad I had to try not to throw up while sticking my head out the window. He couldn't smell it. I thought I was going to die. Turns out he forgot about a double cheeseburger in the back of his car for over two weeks in the hot sun. I don't know what bothered me more: the smell or the fact that it didn't bother him."
—u/yuyufan43
9."They invited me over for dinner, and to clean the table, they just slung the food off the plates across the kitchen floor for the pack of dogs they had to fight over."
—u/HalfBeatingHeart
10."She had an extensive collection of Nazi paraphernalia. She said she was interested in history, but only had Nazi shit…That's a nein from me."
—u/BluegrassEE
11."I went on a date with a girl who seemed perfectly fine. She was really nice and made interesting conversation, clearly cared and put effort in the date. But then halfway through, she gets a call on her Bluetooth headset, which I hadn't even noticed beneath her hair."
"Idk why, but it turned me off so quick. It was a coworker calling, too, and she started discussing some clearly stressful topic — planning a meeting or something. They got to near arguing, and she kept rolling her eyes and sort of half winking at me every time the coworker said something that annoyed her. She ended up saying she had just seen a car crash and she had to run (which weirdly got me back into her a bit since that's a slick move) but then immediately called another coworker to complain about the first one. And kept winking at me.
This was all on a Saturday morning BTW. One of the weirdest dates I've ever been on."
—u/dicksjshsb
12."Dated this girl for a short while (a month or so), and I visited her home once while her family was out of town. It was just a mess and smelled bad because she had a lot of pets, birds, cats, a micro pig, and some very neglected dogs. The doggies were matted up, smelly, and seeking love and attention. I inquired about the dogs, and she said, 'IDK, they're not mine.' When I said goodnight later from the car, she leaned in to kiss me. I just didn't feel connected anymore. I called her later and asked her more about the dogs. They were her father's, and he was never around. Her sisters and her didn't care for them…soooo after a couple nights, I stole the dogs and took them to a rescue shelter."
"They're currently with a new loving home, and the girl's family never even flinched at the dogs not being there anymore. I broke it off a few weeks later once I knew they were blissfully ignorant to their dogs being gone. She was a sweet girl and liked me a lot. Loads of affection. But I couldn't be with someone who could just ignore some innocent lives that way."
—u/Faithlessness138
13."[We were] talking about our interests, and after I listened to him blab about his 'lawn-scaping business,' I went to talk about my interests. ... He interrupted me to say, 'Wow, you really have nothing interesting to say, do you?'''
—u/youraveragebrat
14."He bullied someone in front of me. Instant disgust."
—u/noteveni
15."Out on a first date with a girl. Took her to a restaurant where my friend (who happened to be Black) worked. She saw him and said, 'Oh, I hope we don't end up in the [n-word]'s section.' Hard R and everything. So, I made a big show of giving him a huge hug and then asked for a seat for one at the bar. ... She could get her own ride home, too."
—u/Kahzgul
16."I went on a date with a seemingly nice guy in my early 20s. It went well, so after dinner, we cuddled in the back seat of his car in a quiet country area listening to music. He gently played with my hand and fingers and gave me a lil' massage, so relaxing. When he got to my wrist, he looked at it, flipped it around a few times, and says in a lustful voice, 'It would be so easy for me to break this little thing right now.'"
"It was maybe 2007? I don't remember in detail what happened next. I kind of just played it off like 'tee hee, you're so strong' until he took me home. Kind of tried to deescalate, so didn't acknowledge that statement too much. Just kept the conversation moving to something else and was careful to not embarrass or upset him.
I didn't keep seeing him. I was 'busy' for the next dates he asked me on, and then acted as boring as possible until he lost interest in me eventually (we went to college together and were in ROTC together so avoiding was kinda hard). He started a relationship with someone else pretty quickly after that."
—u/exeprimental_girl
17."In college, I was seeing a girl who lived in student residence with me, but on another floor. She would always talk about how another guy, Tom, on her floor was obsessed with her and would show me texts between them. She said she only talked to him because he's harmless and that they're friends. I never met him. After a week, her ex-friend from high school pulled me aside and told me not to trust her. She said that the girl I was seeing is a notorious liar and that Tom didn't exist."
"That she added her own number in her phone as 'Tom,' would text herself, and then delete the sent messages. The only reason her ex-friend knew is because she saw the text message exchange happen in the reflection of a mirror when they were in the same room.
I was close with front desk and asked if they could look up the names from that floor. They said yes, and told me that there was no guy named Tom on her floor. I noped out of that real quick."
—u/GetInMyBellybutton
18."We were driving, and they thought it would be funny to scream out the window to try and terrify a passing bicyclist. Attraction died immediately."
—u/broganisms
19."She kept asking about my 'lore.' Idk why but just her using lore over and over again just turned me off. As much as I'd like to be a mystical beast, I'm just a dude from the midwest."
—u/Nerfmatrix
20."First date, I was filling gas, and she started going through my phone. I saw her go through it and continued to fill gas as she read my text messages. … I'm a fairly open person with little to hide, but I do value trust and honesty. Soon as the pump clicked, she put it back in a hurry. I skipped the dinner plans and dropped her at home. If I can't even trust you with my phone, I can't trust you with my future."
—u/trekmadonetwo
21.When I was 16, I awkwardly ended up third wheeling a really embarrassing date. The dude turned up in a white suit, blue sunglasses, and a trilby. It was so jarring that I started cracking up in the car as we drove past the restaurant entrance. Who shows up to a date looking like a cross between Michael Jackson and Guy Fieri? If he was a nice dude or at least caring, then I guess I could have let that slip, but he absolutely would not stop talking about how he was the best at literally anything and everything. He talked so much that me and my friend had finished our food before he had even started his. The guy kept insisting that he was the best in the world at Guitar Hero and kept showing us screenshots of the leaderboard — like we cared. I know we were only 16, but it was really embarrassing. ... I'm gonna stalk him on FB to see if he ever changed."
—u/InvasionOfTheFridges
22."When I was in my senior year of high school, the son of one of my mom's work friends who was my age, was into me. I wasn't as into him, but he seemed nice enough, and I went out on a single date with him. The reason there was no second date? He kept trying to find out if I was still a virgin or not. His reasoning was that if I wasn't, then it wouldn't matter if we fucked on the first date, and if I was, he would work for it. I didn't tell him one way or another because it was none of his goddamned business, and his reasoning was utterly pathetic. Never spoke to him again after I called a cab and went home."
—u/LadyoftheHounds
23."Dude was in the bathroom for awhile clearly taking a shit. No big. He lived in a weird little apartment where the only sink was in the kitchen. He comes out and doesn't immediately go to wash his hands. I ask him about it. It starts a small argument where he then refuses to wash his hands because 'he was going to, but then I made him feel like a child so now he has to make a point.' All attraction lost in that very second. So fucking gross. Can't believe I let poop hands touch me. Wanna vomit so bad."
"Hygiene is important, folks. And the little things indicate how you go about the big things."
—u/3sp00py5me
24."She met my cousin, thought she was beautiful, then asked me if I ever had lewd thoughts about my cousin."
—u/SuvenPan
25."We were going to a movie and had some time to kill, so I suggested going to the mall across the street. She informed me she wasn't allowed back on the mall property due to the amount of merchandise they had tracked her stealing over the previous five years."
—u/JuniperandSixth
26."At first I was interested in her because she seemed really cool and funny, but then, it became apparent that literally everything out of her mouth was 'le cool and funny.' It was impossible to have a real conversation, even a casual one; instead, it was constant Arrested Development lines and sarcasm. She replaced the word 'dollars' with 'doll hairs,' which I chuckled at the first time, but she said it EVERY TIME, like she was trying to earn Reddit karma in real-life conversations. Drove me nuts."
—u/d80bn
27."Realized he was faking seizures our entire relationship to get out of helping me do chores/cook meals."
"We dated for less than a year. Found out from his friends/family he never had a seizure in front of them. Came home one night after working a double. I asked him to please try to make dinner. Found him asleep and woke him up to let him know I was home/where's dinner? He said he had a seizure. This caused an argument where he admitted he faked it. He said his seizures were caused by flashing lights. Took him to countless doctors, and no one could replicate what I saw all the time. After he admitted it, it finally clicked. He'd been faking it the whole time."
—u/helloyellowfellow1
28.And finally, let's end on one that isn't really anyone's fault, but is still super disturbing and valid: "We were having sex, and she made a face, and in that moment, she looked exactly like my mom. Instant boner killer. I made up some shit about feeling really sick all of a sudden (wasn't too far from the truth), and then afterwards, I told her it couldn't work out because of something or another."
—u/SonOfSparda1984
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I love number 7.
25. Hahaha
I can't think of an incident that would apply, but I will relate one the made my son figuratively say "ick". He had a girl friend he met at summer camp, and after the summer when they were on a date, they encountered a takeout stand where they were baking and making some kind of food (can't remember what it was). She said she really wanted it so my son bought some that was put in a bag and they walked away while she bit into one to the items, but didn't like it and threw it back half-eaten into the bag and told my son to take it back and get his money back. He had to have thought "ick", refused to do it and that was the end of that relationship.
I just remembered an "ick" experience with some similarities. I was with a friend and we encountered a similar take-out food place. I ordered something, and the server picked up a bag for our order and blew into it to open it. Seeing that, we thought "ick" and just walked away.
I just read the the list in the article and hadn't realized it was only about "dates". Sorry, because one of them reminded me about another one at a restaurant.
Number 5 is similar to an experience I had. I was seeing this guy who was a spoiled, rotten brat. We were sitting in his parents' living room and his mom said dinner was ready. I got up to go to the table. He pulled me back down and said his mom would bring our plates to us. I got up anyway and even helped after dinner.
That was the last time I saw him
my first date with my future wife was awkward. I asked her out and we went to the drive in. she was extremely quiet and shy. she didn't want anything from the snack bar, and didn't want any intoxicants. she didn't want to do anything, so I installed my 8 track car stereo while she watched the movie.
Well obviously something clicked eventually
8-track? You installed one of those? Had one of those in the....
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car back in the day.