34 Non-Sexual Turn-Ons People Love
By: Hannah Dobrogosz (BuzzFeed)
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We asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the non-sexual things that they consider to be turn-ons. Here are the spicy results:
1."Hands — any kind of hands. They don't even have to be veiny. I like long fingers. To me, that's really hot."
—charthestarr
2."When someone uses their teeth to tear tape or a package. Lordy..."
—funkmistress
3."It's hot when someone knows how to chop veggies really fast and well."
—tarah4515
4."A professional speaking voice always gets me. I love sharp pronunciation and clear vocals. No matter how you look, if your voice sounds like it's straight from an insurance commercial, I'd lick your bum."
—kaa
5."I love a guy who is charitable. Whether he gives time, his money, or both, it's a major turn-on!"
—brentus86
6."Hearing someone whisper 'fuck' under their breath. AHH!"
—setter44
7."People who love theater! It's a must for anyone I'm going to date, and it's a nice bonus with friends."
—charlottehoogenboom
8."Hugs from behind where he nuzzles his face into the crook of your neck. That's so hot."
—heavenleecintron
9."Morning voice!"
—needsleep123
10."It's such a turn-on when someone texts you to make sure you got home safely."
—pleasebenicetome
11."Someone who actually holds eye contact with you while speaking and genuinely looks interested in what you are saying."
—writerhannah31
12."It's such a turn-on when someone talks about something they're passionate about. Their eyes light up and they get genuinely excited to share their knowledge. It gives me butterflies every time."
—samanthah45178ee47
13."Humor. There's nothing sexier than someone making me laugh."
—avbabsy
14."For me, I'm always attracted to men with a strong sense of justice and an excellent moral compass. It's so sexy when someone shows compassion and will fight for justice."
—khaulaf
15."Men in jogging pants, especially with the cuff at the end."
—jessh42f4b03f2
16."When they run their hands through their hair."
—melonette000
17."Witty banter is such a turn-on. The sexual tension there is always astronomical."
—viribavi
18."It's so hot when someone readjusts their glasses in natural, 'not trying to be sexy' way."
—ashkoe
19."I love a really good smile. Hot damn, I will get all hot and tingly if someone has a really nice smile."
—yukioaqualinekirko
20."It's such a turn-on when people send you songs, memes, pictures, or anything that made them think of you."
—dannalgx1802
21."Consistency is sexy. It's nice when people regularly show up for you when they say they will."
—amye3
22."Good singers. A good voice is a great turn-on."
—misaamaneyagami
23."It's attractive when someone laughs super hard, accidentally snorts, and then catches themselves in embarrassment."
—howzitguy96815
24."A man eating an apple. Don't know why — just mmmmmm."
—jjrajjra
25."I really love seeing someone be patient with kids, especially if it just comes naturally to them."
—feeneyb
26."For some reason, I think it's kind of sexy to watch someone drive a stick shift car."
—wildfyrezz04
27."Wrists and forearms are such a turn-on, especially if someone touches MY wrists and forearms in a tender way."
—annabethmalfoy
28."I love when someone knows what they want and they go for it. Not in an aggressive way, but in an assertive and positive way."
—sparklyoctopus81
29."There is something so freakin' sexy about someone who has mastered an instrument and can play beautiful music."
—thatweirdoontheinternet
30."Forehead kisses. There's something so intimate about them. Even if I see someone else get one in public, I can't get it out of my mind."
—kats469b4463f
31."It's so attractive when someone is laughing or smiling and their nose wrinkles."
—mercedesd4b0cc1907
32."Intelligence is sexy. Not the pushy kind of intelligence where a person tries to act superior, but the kind where someone is just casually knowledgable about something."
—mercedesd4b0cc1907
33."When a guy has good oral hygiene! It goes beyond just having a nice smile. It shows a level of attention and care that really appeals to me."
—strangerthanitseems
34.Finally: "It's so hot when men drive in reverse and put their arm on the passenger seat headrest. Damn."
—dgj467
What's something non-sexual that really gets you going? Tell us in the comments!
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
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I am guessing number 16 wouldn't date bald men.
God made only so many perfect heads. The rest he covered with hair.
Well, flip my braided hair.
Well, flip what's left of my braided hair.
This place is worse than crack cocaine and you guys are great dealers , who says all hair is on TOP of the head ? BEARDS, parting things since moses 's biblical times ....
Something a little different for the day...
I always thought it was kind of a turn on for a woman to wear a t-shirt of mine to bed.
yeah,... I miss the last century too...
For me, a man who wears red socks to bed.
There are some interesting things on that list.
A stick shift, well that is Freud all the way.
When I read that and the arm across the seat when reversing, it made me think of the Seinfeld stop short move.
ya think?
Watching Mr Giggles weed eat...and cooking
how very rural. meh, I was so clueless when I was single, a woman wearing an explicit sandwich board directed towards me I probably would have missed. I was in my 50's before I knew what "do you want to come in for a cup of coffee" really meant. stupid.
Wait, What!!!! Mr. Giggles eats weeds?
Why do you think he has to do most of the cooking?
Somebody's gotta take care of the garden, eh? Them weeds gotta go.
I worked with this ultra hip, fashion conscious madonna clone back in the 80's that was outright belligerent towards me. she sees me in my pole climbing gear and I almost literally had to push her off of me. wtf? I permanently cured that impulse by asking her if earl sheib did her hair. that worked.
LMAO, too funny.
... and I waited until I had a big audience too. that really set her off.
When did you get outta the hospital?
Ha. I just got a picture in my head of Madonna chasing him down the road swinging an umbrella.
being assertive...
not wearing makeup...
an aversion towards shopping...
picking up the check...
wearing skirts and high heels... ha ha ha, just kidding. I'm shorts, tee shirts, and sneakers/flops all day every day.
gee, that picture bears a striking resemblance to a person on NT that really likes skirts and heels...
dammit , i wsnt going to sign in today.
THAT is definitely NOT a camel toe , moose knuckle or buffalo hump showing in that picture ......
shit! I just noticed that!
Oh crap you made me look...
H A ! Dirty Boy Productions.
Some things can't be unseen.
Too bad I'm already married. I don't even mind picking up the check...but you have to drive
meh, I'm old school. get them so shit faced, you never make it out of the parking lot. bartender? 2 more panty droppers over here please. thanks, nothing for me... /s
1. I regret what I am about to share before I do it. . . now, here goes: Everybody got a seat and a ticket?
My eye doctor has this male assistant who calls every so often to tell me to come in for my examinations - and I tell you - this young dude's voice is dreamy. It is low, dark, and sexy and by now I can tell that it is his normal speaking voice. Most young males have 'elevated' light tonal qualities speaking voice through a phone - this dude has the proverbial "million dollar voice." You want to inquire about it, ask questions about it, and just keep him on the line. All of which is inappropriate-it's a business call!
You see him in person and he is a regular, working 'stiff' going through his routine. . . but when he speaks. . . I am mentally transported to a place where I know him and we are the best of . . . friends.
Aside: I think about what it is like for a girl and women client he calls in for their appointments. It denotes why some marital relationships 'get in trouble' over a deep voice over a phone!
I met a guy like that when I went to Taco Bell once. I then went back through the drive thru 3 times. The third time he asked me me why the multiple orders. I fessed up and told him it was just to hear him speak. Then one day he was no longer there and I was crestfallen until I learned where he went.....Army.
I know the feeling. You can so get away with it better than me, being of the opposite sex. I have to fight back (down) the urge to just launch into a discussion about it (with all the question marks 'popping' around). Chuckles.
That is why I like "Mr. Charm shop" Justin Timberlake, he even has worn a leotard (imitating Beyoncé on SNL) and make it male sexy. Watch the video below and tell me that man is not a 'charmer.'
By the way, Paula, thank you for being open about it! I can imagine girls and women see, hear, and experience these types of 'situations' more than they can spend time remembering or caring to comment on. Peace, Lady! (Smile.)
Justin Timberlake saying: "fatty," "doozy" and "Hot like and oven." Oh, and those dance moves! (See for yourself. a real man comfortable in his own skin.)
Justin Timberlake - Suit & Tie (Official) ft. JAY Z
If you watch the video: Non-sexual turn-on: "Nuff Said."
When a man eats an apple? Yeah, I can see that. (A 'chiseled jawline' is a beautiful thing.)
And this is exactly what I think Senator Joe Biden was alluding to when he was accused of in-artfully characterizing Senator Barack Obama as "an articulate, . . ., African-American."
Barack Obama to this day has one of the most precise speaking voices I have ever had the privilege of listening to.
1. I can not detect a dialect.
2. He does not 'lisp.' Good control over words where "s" is sounded.
3. His words are each crisp; and phrasing exacting. That is, there is no superfluous sounds 'clouding' or crowding his word choices.
One time there was about four of us sitting in a diner (in my younger days). The girl I had a crush on was right across from me. As we were all talking I looked down and back up, when I did she gently reached over and moved the hair out of my eyes.
Made me swoon right there. Added bonus that the other guys looked jealous.
That would make my day too! Crush + Touch = Rapture!
#24 was pulled out of the line-up for quoting. That's interesting, Ender! (Smile.) Great pic, too!
Nobody mentioned feet (manicured and 'tidy) in the survey (yet)?
Gianpiero Galdi & Lorena Tarantino - Krakus Aires Tango Festival 2019 4/5
For me, to see a man "turn on" watch him dance with a woman (he loves). It can be the most beautiful 'time' of day. Near the end I got chills.
Some people feel the Tango is one of the "sexiest" dances.
It is, in fact it's very sexy, especially when danced by professionals. There was a tango sung by Tony Martin many years ago the words of which indicate sexiness - I Get Ideas....
When we are dancing
And you're dangerously near me
I get ideas, I get ideas
I want to hold you
So much closer than I dare to
I want to scold you
'Cause I care more than I care to
And when you touch me
And there's fire in every finger
I get ideas, I get ideas
And after we have kissed goodnight
And still you linger
I kinda think you get ideas too
Your eyes are always saying
The things you're never saying
I only hope they're saying
That you could love me too
For that's the whole idea, it's true
The lovely idea that
I'm falling in love with you
Half the ones on the list were at least SEMI-sexual if not more so. Personally, what turns me on is a really delicious meal. A good night's sleep WOULD turn me on if I could ever get one.
Allan Tornsberg & Carmen - Paso Doble @ World Super Stars Dance Festival 1998
Little hard to see, it does light better as it goes on. As I am a dance devotee, I love to turn on to a 'hot' dance - first thing in the morning! (Chuckles.)
How about the Lambada?
That is so 'hot.' Love the story-line too!
Question: Do you find this a turn-on (as far as dance goes)?
Flamenco in Sevilla, Spain - Superb Male Dancer at Plaza de España
Midway the video it's PHAT! (Maybe the wrong though processes in play for you.) What (else) can I say? A-yee!
3."It's Hot When Someone Knows How To Chop Veggies Really Fast And Well."
Doesn't turn me on-- but a YUGE percentage of Tik -Tok videos are just that...some truly amazing fast veggie chopping skills but gets to be over done after a while.
Also on Tik Tok--lots of rather juvenile "practical jokes".
Young womenhard dancing (& trying to be sexy)...
Many fairly poorly done "magic" tricks....
Lots of fairly tall, very long legged, attractive Chinese girls.(There is also a fair use of "filters"--- they allow the user to make various "effects".)
Too many tatoos IMO....
That being said, while I don't find most of it a "turn on", there's something strangely addictive about watching these very short videos-- one after the other-- for hours on end!