Woman's obituary takes a dark turn: 'World is a better place without her'

By:  freefaller  •  6 months ago  •  70 comments

Woman's obituary takes a dark turn: 'World is a better place without her'

An 80-year-old woman’s seemingly straightforward obituary took a dark turn that no one could have predicted.

The obituary for Kathleen Dehmlow (Schunk) first appeared in the Redwood Gazette this week. It stated she was born on March 19, 1938, and resided in Springfield, Minn. She married Dennis Dehmlow in 1957 and had two children with him -- Gina and Jay.

The next sentence is where the obituary’s tone appeared to change.

“In 1962 she became pregnant by her husband’s brother Lyle Dehmlow and moved to California. She abandoned her children, Gina and Jay who were raised by her parents in Clements, Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Schunk,” the obituary reads.

The next two sentences were particularly crushing.

“She passed away on May 31, 2018, in Springfield and will now face judgment. She will not be missed by Gina and Jay, and they understand that this world is a better place without her,” the obituary concluded.

Despite the harsh words, a few people shared condolences on an online version of her obituary.

“The good Lord loves you more than anyone else ever could. You are in heaven now with our savior. R.I.P.,” one person wrote.

“What a life she lived. Hope you find peace,” another added.

http://www.msn.com/en-ca/news/world/womans-obituary-takes-a-dark-turn-world-is-a-better-place-without-her/ar-AAyfCbq?li=AAggNb9&ocid=ASUDHP

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Freefaller
1  author  Freefaller    6 months ago

Lol apparently someone couldn't let go of their bitterness

 
 
321steve
1.1  321steve  replied to  Freefaller @1    6 months ago
apparently someone couldn't let go of their bitterness

Yep a shame cause it's still tearing their own world apart apparently because reaching out to try to harm a person who is dead is insane. 

 
 
Spikegary
1.1.1  Spikegary  replied to  321steve @1.1    6 months ago

Pain is a strange animal.........it's governed by emotions, not logic.

 
 
Thrawn 31
1.2  Thrawn 31  replied to  Freefaller @1    6 months ago

I hear ya, being abandoned by your mother after she ran of with your father's brother (after fucking him and getting pregnant) and then acting as if you didn't exist for the rest of her life. To the point of flat out ignoring you while you are in the room. Get over it already!

 
 
sandy-2021492
2  sandy-2021492    6 months ago

stunned

 
 
BeastOfTheEast
3  BeastOfTheEast    6 months ago

“In 1962 she became pregnant by her husband’s brother Lyle Dehmlow and moved to California."

Maybe Lyle will miss her.

 
 
sandy-2021492
3.1  sandy-2021492  replied to  BeastOfTheEast @3    6 months ago

Maybe so.  I figure his family, especially his brother, probably didn't have much to do with him after he knocked up his SIL.  He may be lonely.

Poor guy.

 
 
GaJenn78
4  GaJenn78    6 months ago

Wow! Thats rough....stunned

 
 
Freefaller
4.1  author  Freefaller  replied to  GaJenn78 @4    6 months ago

Agreed, life is too short to hold onto that kind of hatred.

 
 
Paula Bartholomew
4.1.1  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  Freefaller @4.1    6 months ago

Them getting it out there may be the first step to letting go of the hate.

 
 
JohnRussell
5  JohnRussell    6 months ago

Karma is a bitch, not only for the dead woman (who is presumably beyond caring right now) but it also will be for the ones who placed the obituary. Don't be cruel. 

 
 
Explorerdog
5.1  Explorerdog  replied to  JohnRussell @5    6 months ago

Everyone that dies suddenly becomes a wonderful and caring person, what is wrong with honesty? If you are a terrible person while alive why should you get sugar coated.

 
 
321steve
5.1.1  321steve  replied to  Explorerdog @5.1    6 months ago
what is wrong with honesty? If you are a terrible person while alive why should you get sugar coated.

What is wrong with being civil. You sure dont have to lie anymore that you have to attack the character of a dead person. There is a civel middle ground. 

 
 
MonsterMash
5.1.2  MonsterMash  replied to  Explorerdog @5.1    6 months ago
what is wrong with honesty?

I agree, I wish more obituaries were honest. If I could have a hand in writing my sisters obituary I would include:

Joan's death was contributed to years of alcoholism and drug abuse. She leaves five children fathered by four men none to whom she was married. All of her children were raised by her brothers and sisters because Joan didn't a give shit about them and viewed them as a financial burden.

 
 
CometRider
5.1.3  CometRider  replied to  MonsterMash @5.1.2    6 months ago

Dude that's cold LOL

 
 
Old School Marine
5.1.4  Old School Marine  replied to  MonsterMash @5.1.2    6 months ago
Joan's death was contributed to years of alcoholism and drug abuse. She leaves five children fathered by four men none to whom she was married. All of her children were raised by her brothers and sisters because Joan didn't a give shit about them and viewed them as a financial burden.

Why don't you show all of us how you walk on water and shit.............

 
 
MonsterMash
5.1.5  MonsterMash  replied to  Old School Marine @5.1.4    6 months ago

Of course, I've done things I'm not proud of, who hasn't? But, my wife and I did raise 2 two of Joan's children along with our four sons. My other sister raised the other two.

All of her kids grow up to be responsible adults with children of their own that they were good parents too.

 
 
Spikegary
5.1.6  Spikegary  replied to  321steve @5.1.1    6 months ago
What is wrong with being civil.

Amazing anyone would ask that question here on Newstalkers.......

 
 
321steve
5.1.7  321steve  replied to  Spikegary @5.1.6    6 months ago
Amazing anyone would ask that question here on Newstalkers.......

Sorry

 
 
Paula Bartholomew
5.2  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  JohnRussell @5    6 months ago
beyond caring right now

I don't think she cared about anything except herself when she was still alive.

 
 
Peter Loves the Real Tea Party.
6  Peter Loves the Real Tea Party.    6 months ago

Ouch

 
 
Buzz of the Orient
7  Buzz of the Orient    6 months ago

That's not so bad. I once saw an obituary written by the daughter of a deceased that asked that donations be sent to HER.

 
 
r.t..b...
7.1  r.t..b...  replied to  Buzz of the Orient @7    6 months ago
I once saw an obituary

...or the long-suffering Cleveland native who requested six Browns players act as pallbearers so they could let him down one last time.

 
 
CometRider
7.1.1  CometRider  replied to  r.t..b... @7.1    6 months ago

LOL Funny and true  goooooooo Browns

 
 
Spikegary
7.1.2  Spikegary  replied to  r.t..b... @7.1    6 months ago

We say that about the Bills and the Sabers....

 
 
Enoch
7.2  Enoch  replied to  Buzz of the Orient @7    6 months ago

Dear Friends Buzz, r.t.b. and PJ: All had me splitting my sides.

There is a Borsch Belt joke that goes as follows.

A widow comes to her Rabbi in his study.

She admits that her late husband who just passed was no Tzaddik (Righteous One).

He was neglectful of the children, abusive to her.

He cheated at business.

Nasty to the neighbors.

All that said, he was her husband, and fathered her children.

She pleaded with her Rabbi to make a nice eulogy for him.

The Rabbi assured her that he has done this before.

He does know not to speak ill of the deceased.

All night long the Rabbi ponders how to say something that is positive, without being a liar.

The next day in the Sanctuary he steps up to the podium.

Looking at the widow, he softly says, "I have been asked to say something nice about the late Mr. So and So.

His brother was worse"! 

Enoch, Heading Off to the Catskills for a Mountain Shabbat Retreat.  

 
 
Sunshine
7.2.1  Sunshine  replied to  Enoch @7.2    6 months ago

laughing dude

 
 
CometRider
7.2.2  CometRider  replied to  Enoch @7.2    6 months ago

The Rabbi ( you?) reminds me of my grandmother a devote Christian that never uttered a bad word about anyone. My uncle made a bet with my dad saying he could get my grandmother to say something bad about someone, my dad took the bet.

My uncle asked her what she thought about Satan, grandma replied "Well, he is good at what he does" LOL my dad won the $ 5 bet.

 
 
Enoch
7.2.3  Enoch  replied to  CometRider @7.2.2    6 months ago

Dear Friend PJ: My eight grade geography teacher told us this story in class.

President Calvin Coolidge was know for being thrifty with his words.

A journalist told Mr. Coolidge that a fellow reported bet him $5 (a lot of money in those days) that he could not get the President to say three words.

Replied Mr. Coolidge, "You lost"! 

Smiles.

Enoch.

 
 
Paula Bartholomew
7.3  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  Buzz of the Orient @7    6 months ago

I don't know if you have ever watched WKRP, but one episode had a video will from one of Jennifer's old rich boyfriends.  He promised to leave the Hari Krishnas all his money provided that they stay out of the airports.

 
 
Sunshine
8  Sunshine    6 months ago

Wow.  Perhaps they are bitter over a will?

Shouldn't talk bad about the dead.  They have no way to defend themselves and no one even knows if this is all true.

Surprised the paper let them print this....no standards-?

 
 
MonsterMash
8.1  MonsterMash  replied to  Sunshine @8    6 months ago

I read an article this morning saying one of the deceased relatives confirmed the obituary was accurate but demanded it be taken out of the paper because it tarnished the deceased. The obituary was paid for to run for three days, but the newspaper said they wouldn't publish it again.

   

 
 
Sunshine
8.1.1  Sunshine  replied to  MonsterMash @8.1    6 months ago

my relatives would come back and haunt me.  Laugh

 
 
CometRider
8.2  CometRider  replied to  Sunshine @8    6 months ago
Perhaps they are bitter over a will?

They're bitter because the deceased was a slut that abandoned her children. The two kids she abandoned probably wrote the obituary. If they did all I can say is Clapping 

 
 
Sunshine
8.2.1  Sunshine  replied to  CometRider @8.2    6 months ago
They're bitter because the deceased was a slut that

You don't know the whole story, so it is rather judgemental of you.

 
 
MonsterMash
8.2.2  MonsterMash  replied to  Sunshine @8.2.1    6 months ago

I seeded an article today explaining why the deceased kids wrote her obituary they way they did. They had good reason to be spiteful.  

 
 
Sunshine
8.2.3  Sunshine  replied to  MonsterMash @8.2.2    6 months ago
They had good reason to be spiteful.

A lot of people do.  I don't see the benefit of just being nasty about a deceased person.

 
 
321steve
8.2.4  321steve  replied to  MonsterMash @8.2.2    6 months ago
They had good reason to be spiteful.

Hopefully this "last word" will allow them to move on and heal. 

Because, from my experience, really Spiteful people aren't usually a barrel of laughs nor do they generally lead very happy or fulfilled, or healthy, or long lives.

We reap what we sew.

 
 
CometRider
8.2.5  CometRider  replied to  Sunshine @8.2.3    6 months ago
I don't see the benefit of just being nasty about a deceased person.

Now that their bitch mother is dead they had the opportunity to express their bitterness in her obituary. Doing so is good therapy allowing the kids to move on with their lives without caring the burden of hate and it brings closure. 

 
 
Blissful Arrogance
9  Blissful Arrogance    6 months ago

Left wingers?

 
 
Freefaller
9.1  author  Freefaller  replied to  Blissful Arrogance @9    6 months ago

This article is not political in nature, plse don't take it there (even in fun)

 
 
Tacos!
10  Tacos!    6 months ago

That's some hard core, long-term grudge holdin' right there. 

 
 
Perrie Halpern R.A.
11  Perrie Halpern R.A.    6 months ago

Egads.. some people just love to stew in their own bad feelings.

 
 
Blissful Arrogance
12  Blissful Arrogance    6 months ago

That's what is known as putting the "bitch" back in Obitchuary.

 
 
Jasper2529
13  Jasper2529    6 months ago

This seems to be a "thing" with some people.

The posthumous pillorying of the dead – or the "revenge obituary" – is part of a growing trend that has family members digging up dirt on the deceased and getting the final word.

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2018/06/06/survivors-penning-revenge-obituaries-to-settle-scores-with-departed.html

 
 
Sunshine
13.1  Sunshine  replied to  Jasper2529 @13    6 months ago

good grief....do they think they are hurting the dead?

 
 
Jasper2529
13.1.1  Jasper2529  replied to  Sunshine @13.1    6 months ago
good grief....do they think they are hurting the dead?

According to the grief counselor in the article I linked, it seems like it could be "last-word-itis" or revenge. It's a strange thing to do, IMO.

 
 
CometRider
13.1.2  CometRider  replied to  Sunshine @13.1    6 months ago

Nope, it's their way of letting people know what a terrible person the deceased was.

 
 
Freefaller
13.1.3  author  Freefaller  replied to  Jasper2529 @13.1.1    6 months ago
it seems like it could be "last-word-itis"

Jasper wins, I just read a follow up article and the above reason is exactly why the son wrote that obit. 

 
 
Thrawn 31
13.1.4  Thrawn 31  replied to  Sunshine @13.1    6 months ago

If you are religious then yes.

 
 
Sunshine
14  Sunshine    6 months ago
She abandoned her children, Gina and Jay who were raised by her parents in Clements, Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Schunk,” the obituary reads.

Where was the dad?

 
 
CometRider
14.1  CometRider  replied to  Sunshine @14    6 months ago
Where was the dad?

Probably raising the kids. we know mama wasn't

 
 
Sunshine
14.1.1  Sunshine  replied to  CometRider @14.1    6 months ago

Did you not read?  Apparently her parents raised the children.

So where was the dad?

 
 
sandy-2021492
14.1.2  sandy-2021492  replied to  Sunshine @14.1.1    6 months ago

I read an article that stated that neither of their parents were "adequate" as parents, and the kids were shuffled around quite a bit until their grandparents took them in.

 
 
badfish hαηd ⊕ƒ †hε Ωuεεη
15  badfish hαηd ⊕ƒ †hε Ωuεεη    6 months ago

I want to be buried naked and have an open casket so people can see my tattoos. The tattoo on my junk says RMMCBC. One person will know the answer but the rest of my family will wonder for ever.

 
 
CometRider
15.1  CometRider  replied to  badfish hαηd ⊕ƒ †hε Ωuεεη @15    6 months ago

Who would the hell want to see a dead penis? In your obituary just include:

 He wanted it to be known he had a Tattoo on his penis with the letters RMM. He wanted the letters to be RMMCBC but there wasn't enough room.

 
 
MonsterMash
15.1.1  MonsterMash  replied to  CometRider @15.1    6 months ago
He wanted the letters to be RMMCBC but there wasn't enough room.

laughing dudelaughing dude

 
 
Enoch
15.2  Enoch  replied to  badfish hαηd ⊕ƒ †hε Ωuεεη @15    6 months ago

Dear Friend Badfish: RMMCBC.

Isn't that Latin for "The People's Fish"?

Enoch, A Pieces working for scale, just for the Halibut.

 
 
Thrawn 31
15.3  Thrawn 31  replied to  badfish hαηd ⊕ƒ †hε Ωuεεη @15    6 months ago

I've told my wife to go just go ahead and dump my body out in the backyard, I ain't using it. 

 
 
Paula Bartholomew
15.4  Paula Bartholomew  replied to  badfish hαηd ⊕ƒ †hε Ωuεεη @15    6 months ago

"I want to be buried naked and face down so that people have a place to park their bikes when they visit me." (Robin Williams)

 
 
CometRider
16  CometRider    6 months ago

I think her obituary should be inscribed on her tombstone.

 
 
Sunshine
17  Sunshine    6 months ago

My mother would say that is "airing your dirty laundry" and nobody wants to smell it!

 
 
Explorerdog
17.1  Explorerdog  replied to  Sunshine @17    6 months ago

It's called telling the truth, good people should have praise for leading a good life and being a good person, why should nasty vicious people be treated the same, you earn it suck it up even if you are dead.

 
 
Sunshine
17.1.1  Sunshine  replied to  Explorerdog @17.1    6 months ago

I think her son who apparently wrote this is probably at least 50 years of age.  At what point does one grow up?

 
 
Thrawn 31
17.1.2  Thrawn 31  replied to  Sunshine @17.1.1    6 months ago

I know, what a fuckin baby. I mean, she only abandoned him and his sister, fucked their father's brother and had kids with him, and ignored them for her entire life (like they didn't exist). Come one dude, grow up and get over it!

 
 
MonsterMash
17.1.3  MonsterMash  replied to  Sunshine @17.1.1    6 months ago
I think her son who apparently wrote this is probably at least 50 years of age. At what point does one grow up?
The vast majority of people that are mentally, physically, or sexual abused when their children don't just get "over it"
In your opinion at what age should they "grow up"  and get over the past?

 
 
Sunshine
17.1.4  Sunshine  replied to  MonsterMash @17.1.3    6 months ago
In your opinion at what age should they "grow up"

Well if you haven't grown up by 50, then when will you?  I see this as a childish act not a healing one.

 
 
Trout Giggles
17.1.5  Trout Giggles  replied to  Thrawn 31 @17.1.2    6 months ago

Is one required to forgive a bad person when the bad person is gone?

 
 
sandy-2021492
17.1.6  sandy-2021492  replied to  Trout Giggles @17.1.5    6 months ago

I don't know about "required".  I think it's probably healthier to let it go.  Holding on to anger at someone who's not even on the planet anymore does nobody any good.

Channel that energy into being better people than the ones who hurt you (generic you, not you personally, TG).

 
 
Freefaller
17.1.7  author  Freefaller  replied to  sandy-2021492 @17.1.6    6 months ago

That's an excellent philosophy

 
 
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