I was sexually assaulted. Here’s why I don’t remember many of the details.
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Roughly 40 years ago, I showed up at a prominent music executive’s office for an appointment that had been scheduled suspiciously late in the workday. But I wasn’t suspicious. I was instead eager to try to place some of my original songs with artists he represented. One of my songs had appeared on the Eagles album “One of These Nights,” and I was hoping to turn songwriting into a career.
I brought along a cassette tape of my material, but I don’t remember what the executive said about the songs. Nor do I recall what we talked about. I remember the sky turning dark outside the window behind his desk. I remember sensing that people had left the building and we were there alone. I remember his face, his hair and what he was wearing.
When he pulled a vial of cocaine out of his desk drawer and started chopping up lines on a small mirror, I’m 90 percent sure I declined his offer to do some with him, not because I didn’t do drugs — I definitely did in those years — but because I was starting to feel uncomfortable. My memory of the discomfort is sharp and clear, but my memory of declining the coke is, as I said, about 90 percent.
Why didn’t I get out of there? Why didn’t I push him off? Why did I freeze?
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Most ridicules thumbs up to Ford article I have ever seen.
"I brought along a cassette tape of my material, but I don’t remember what the executive said about the songs."
Then WTF were you there for ?
"When he pulled a vial of cocaine out of his desk drawer and started chopping up lines on a small mirror, I’m 90 percent sure I declined his offer to do some with him, not because I didn’t do drugs — I definitely did in those years — but because I was starting to feel uncomfortable."
That's when you Fucking walk out the door....no matter how many Disney Dreams of being successful you've had !
Disney Dreams? This was Ronald Reagan's daughter, ffs. The fat, smelly coked-up music executive either didn't know, or didn't care, which was demonstrated by his confident, and seemingly entitled, actions. As long as that kind of immersed-in-teflon mindset remains status quo, we'll be at this exact spot time and time and time and time and time again. And as long as we have a president who not only supports that kind of behavior, but who has also been a past and present participant in that kind of behavior, then we're in trouble.
Wealth and privilege can't buy a moral compass, no matter how much people like Brett Kavanaugh and Donald Trump think it can.
Neither can claiming "Poor".
Claiming "Ignorance of the event", butt then claim it definitely happened anyway.....doesn't hold up in a court of law !
Sounds to me like Miss Ford needed time for her attorneys to prep her on what she should remember, or she would have accepted Monday as the day.....since she was soooooo sure that is.
Weird How Attorneys actually think themselves psychologists now !
If I were a lisc. psychologist, I'd sue their ass for practicing without a lisc.. You know damn well that the attorney would sue a psychologist toot sweet, if they tried to practice law without a lisc..
Ah yes, more blame the victim for not doing more to get away from a sexual predator. Why do you feel the need to do this? Is it because you're covering for some men you know who are predators or you have some implicit bias against women who come forward with accusations?
"Requesting an investigation into the incident isn’t a big ask. Unless they just want her to go away. Which is, by the way, one reason that women are scared to speak up."
Those blaming the victim obviously just want them "to go away". In this case, conservatives want the victims to continue to suffer in silence because it's too inconvenient when the accusations target a conservative hero. But when it's a liberal, progressive or supposed "Hollywood" elite being accused, the attacker is automatically assumed to be guilty (even when it's just 'he said, she said') and the victim is put on a pedestal where all conservatives come out and fawn over them.
I supposed the lesson conservatives are trying to teach the rest of us is that if you're ever accused, never ever apologize for any part of your actions, don't even say you're sorry for how that person misinterpreted your actions. Deny, deny, deny. Kevin Spacey, Al Franken, Asia Argento, Les Moonves, Louis C.K. and several others, all accused with no actual physical evidence, but because they all apologized in one way or another, they lost their job as a fake President, as a comedian, as a Senator, as an actor, and so they should if they did any of the things they are accused of. The only difference between them and Donald Trump or Bret Kavanagh is that they stepped forward and apologized while conservatives just deny, deny, deny.
They way things have been going willy nilly these days....it's time to call some of these forgetful folks to task.
Why do you think our own government has a fund to placate some of these "Accusations" ?
Ever seen one of those payouts go to court ?
When "Money Talks"....it's all hokum !
By the way.....ALL people still think the symbol # means pound. Think about it when you go to the hashtag sites. They sure didn't...…#metoo.
No one is trying to "convict" Kavanaugh or Trump, these accusations against them go to their character and whether patriotic Americans should support them. Now I know conservatives don't give a crap about character, they don't care about morals or honor, they simply want their conservative guy to win. They have ignored at least 19 credible accusations against Trump that go to his character, the character of a small minded, narcissistic, petty, misogynistic sexual predator. Conservatives don't care about his character flaws because he's promised them what they desperately want, an America moving closer to white Christian nationalism. And in Bret Kavanaughs case, he has given conservatives the "wink and nod" effectively promising to rule against Roe v Wade if it ever comes before the Supreme Court. Conservatives couldn't care less about the character showing a judge who likely, in the past, got drunk and tried to rape a classmate, conservatives just want their guy on the court who might rule in their favor someday.
"that you would accuse another member with aiding and abetting sexual assault"
I made no such accusation. I asked a question about why someone might blame the victim in a sexual assault accusation.
So according to you, if some one makes a false accusation on someone without proof or evidence if any kind, it is the accused character that is flawed.
Did you ask that question if those that blamed Paula Jones, Juanita Broadrick, Kathleen Wiley and others or was that OK because it was the lefties doing the blaming .
Personally, I believed those women even though it was just their word against his. I did not vote for Bill Clinton back in the '90's. And even if I had, it wouldn't make the accusers of Trump any less important or credible, of which there are FIVE times as many as Bill Clinton had nearly 30 years ago.
During the 2016 campaign, I believed the 19 women who came forward with their stories of sexual assault at the small hands of Donald Trump. I also believed Donald Trumps own words, "I moved on her, and I failed. I'll admit it. I did try and fuck her. She was married. And I moved on her very heavily. In fact, I took her out furniture shopping. She wanted to get some furniture. I said, "I'll show you where they have some nice furniture." I took her out furniture—I moved on her like a bitch." "I better use some Tic Tacs just in case I start kissing her. You know I'm automatically attracted to beautiful—I just start kissing them. It's like a magnet. Just kiss. I don't even wait. And when you're a star, they let you do it. You can do anything. Grab 'em by the pussy. You can do anything."
I'm sure if conservatives had a tape of Bill Clinton saying those EXACT same words they would totally give him a pass and dismiss it as "locker room talk", right?
"according to you, if some one makes a false accusation on someone without proof or evidence if any kind, it is the accused character that is flawed."
Nonsense, I make no such claim. I do believe that if a person comes forward with an accusation it should be investigated, witnesses should be interviewed, hopefully under oath if it's for a life time appointment to the supreme court.
And "character" is never apparent with just one accusation, it comes from the totality of what you know about a person. In this case we have to look at what his friends admitted to back in school, what they remember of Bret, what his yearbook can tell us about what was important to him at the time and what those accusing him of possible character flaws like turning from Dr. Jekyll into Mr. Hyde when he gets drunk. All those things along with the last 30 years of his career and what rulings or decisions he made when working as a public servant in the Bush white house should go into making this decision. What shouldn't be used to determine whether he's fit for the Supreme Court? Partisan desires such as hoping he will be an activist conservative judge pushing a conservative agenda of dismantling Roe v Wade, reaffirming citizens united and pushing America closer towards a theocracy by placing Christians on a pedestal and always ruling for Christian religious freedom while ruling against other faiths.
Ms. Davis' story is conspicuously absent of any effort at all to resist this man's advances. She does not even claim to have told him "no".
So I guess to a conservative, as long as she's too drunk to say no, it's a green light all the way...
Do you have any reason to believe that the remaining SCOTUS candidates on Trump's short list are anything other than conservatives?
Didn't read the article, did you? She wasn't drunk. But please...continue your political tantrum. Don't let me interrupt with anything as troublesome as factual information.
From experience, I know some of this to be true .. but not where it happened, I do not believe that can be blocked from ones memory if one went to said location voluntarily (a party or job interview etc) the reason I say that, is because one of the things that one tortures themselves over is .. 'I put myself in that location, thus I played a part in what happened by putting myself at risk'.. even the individual writing this recalls where she was, and the events leading up to the 'traumatic event'.. I personally did not suffer from shame and felt no need to hide what happened, but I know that I put myself at risk by my actions that night.. it is under my skin so to speak...
This is what I have been asking from the beginning and at least this author admits that the FBI investigation is nothing more than an attempt to fill in the accusers blanks..
Interesting how all these memories return to those that had no memory until someone else steps forward .. wonder how many of Weinstein's accuser cannot remember where their assault took place? Even Cosby's accusers knew where their assaults took place.... and most of them were drugged.....
Her Attorneys have already been filling her in on that. That would make for a tainted FBI investigation...….AGAIN !
Why else would they keep postponing the little "Reality TV" thingy they so somewhat crave.
Any investigation at this point would be tainted .. in 2012 Ford via her counselors notes recalled 4 men and never mentioned Kavanaugh .. it is her husband that claims Ford (in 2012 / 2013) named Kavanaugh by his last name and she [Ford]was concerned he would be nominated to the Supreme Court - yet not concerned enough to step up to the plate .. I know it is difficult, yet one does not heal by hiding .. one only seeks revenge [my opinion] by not coming forward about Kavanaugh when he was nominated - she wrote a letter and expected anonymity ..
P.s... what is happening to Ford at this time is beyond wrong - she should be able to feel safe and her family feel safe regardless of what her accusations are - it is sad to read about the threats...
Agreed...."politics" has the wackos coming out of the woodwork. It's like they have nothing else to do. Kavanaugh has the same thing going on, and all he's done is claim to be a conservative type.
As well as denying allegations, I have spoken with individuals that are angry with Kavanaugh for not admitting guilt and stepping aside .. he is a powerful man that would appear to be the big bad wolf as well … (whatever you do, do not express concern for the Kavanaugh girls ..)
Sounds like they EXPECT any one being accused of anything should step aside no matter what. A very Slippery slope I'd say.
Morning..
I agree that there is a thought process that assumes a great deal and that creates a slippery slope - The accusers of Brett Kavanaugh need to be heard .. yet there is nothing saying that they must be believed..
I have been told that these accusers have nothing to gain by coming forward, yet they do, they will be the ones that took down Judge Kavanaugh and stopped the 'evil bastard' from doing damage to Roe v Wade .. etc etc..
There are headline this morning regarding the 'Lawyer that took down Bill Cosby' …… I exacted 'revenge' on the man that brutally attacked me, but I did not celebrate it .. I moved forward with my life!
I have a friend that I went all the way through high school with in the early 80's and she still speaks to me : ) she tells me what is happening is the 'feminists dream' to have women moved to the front of the line' … she never comes out and says it, but when we talk, I feel like it is 'truth be damn'd' these men deserve what they get.. my friend is not a man hater .. she just truly feels that the ends justify the means.. 'if so and so did not actually assault so and so - ya know they must have assaulted some other woman' ……………………… everything at this point is speculation and innuendo - I am looking forward to testimony tomorrow... (she is also the friend that was there the night I had a dick stuck in my face …. LOL .. I should not laugh, but a drunk waving his semi limp dick around is humorous to me)
Mornin' !
"The accusers of Brett Kavanaugh need to be heard"
The ONE accuser should have been heard back in July, if she wanted to be heard. Seems to me, she didn't according to what we are told, but a "Politician" thought for her and said she will be heard.
That alone tells me something else is going on.
Hell, Avenatti is now twitting that his client wants to remain behind the scenes, yet puts out a picture of her. When are "Left" loving folks going to understand.....it isn't about them, it's about the so-called "Fighting for the good" folks ONLY !
Those types don't give two shits about YOU !
Oooo I agree, Ford should have come forward at the same time she sent the letter - I know I would be looking at things differently .. the timing, deteriorates credibility in my eyes...
Avenatti makes me laugh - I cannot wait for him to 'run for president' …
the comments here are going to be off the charts!!! : )
Actually her affidavit has already been made public.
Actually....that has nothing to do with my comment, but thanks for sharing.
It's not a good comparison. Davis gives us a lot more to go on. She can identify the place. Unlike Kavanaugh's accusers. She can actually describe details of the room. Unlike Kavanaugh's accusers.
It's possible there would actually be a written record somewhere of her appointment. Unlike Kavanaugh's accusers. And though she doesn't remember if the executive's assistant was there, it's likely that person could do something to confirm that the meeting itself took place, and it's also likely that that person wasn't drunk.
Therefore naming the executive and placing him in that office with her is a lot easier. Unlike Kavanaugh's accusers.
She says she was sober! Unlike Kavanaugh's accusers who admit they were drunk - one was so drunk she had fallen to the floor. Also, since it wasn't a party, it's reasonable to accept her claim that she was sober.
That's huge for the accuracy of her recollection.
There is zero reason to contemplate a case of mistaken identity in Davis's case and ample reason to suspect that with the Kavanaugh accusations.
Also the crime is so much worse. They actually had intercourse! She may actually be able to accurately describe his junk or some other physical feature or behavior.
It's reasonable that people will remember some details and not others, but you still need to be able to support the stuff you claim to remember in some way. We can't just take people's word for it or assume that "no one would ever make up a story like that."
It's not reasonable to claim, without support, that everything the victim claims to remember is 100% accurate, particularly when you have already admitted to being under the influence of a substance like alcohol that can radically impact cognition and memory.
"I agree 100%" says Fat Albert.
of course...
my gut says today's democrat party is getting near to being declared domestic terrorists.