By: randy • 4 years ago • 29 comments
I just want my old friends on here to know that my wife of 26 years, Joan Luise, passed away peacefully in her sleep last night of heart disease after being home for the past 5 months on Hospice Care.
Sorry to hear that Randy. I remember how many times you spoke here so lovingly of your wife. You must have had a very special relationship. May she sleep well through eternity.
I am so sorry to hear about Joan, my old friend. I know how much you loved her and there are not enough words to express how badly I feel for you. Be well my friend.. and we, your friends are here for you always.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Randy. I hope time can bring you peace, and that you can soon look back to the time you had with her and take joy from those memories.
Thank you all. She had been on Fentanyl patches the past few days so she was in no pain. Last night when I checked on her she was sleeping and this morning she looked just the same so like the Hospice nurse who came here this morning said she must have just slipped away with no suffering, so at least I have that to be thankful for. Even though I have known for months that it was coming this morning I have been swinging back and forth between numbness and complete grief. I have been talking to her kids and her Rabbi on the phone all morning and they have all been wonderful too.
Dearest Randy - I am so sorry to hear about your wife's passing. I cannot even begin to understand what you are going through right now, but I would like to offer my prayers and condolences to you and your family.
I am very sorry to hear that, Randy. There are few words for the void I know she leaves behind, but I wish you strength to fill it with beautiful memories of her.
Randy, my Mariner, We know that Joan is in peace now - no more pain, no more worries. Hopefully our outpouring of strength and support will help you stay focused and on the right path.
We love you man - and we mean it - Semper Fi - always loyal and faithful.
It is with heartfelt sorrow to hear that your beloved wife and life's partner has walked on. But, it is a true Blessing that she was able to do so peacefully.
May she find peace as she moves on to the next steps of her own eternal journey. While her human form will no longer be by your side, her loving Spirit will be with you.
Thanks again to all of you for your love and support. It's so nice to be able to come back after so long and to still feel such warmth. After taking care of Joan pretty much 24 hours a day, 7 days a week I am sort of lost as to what to do with myself, so I have found myself just wandering around the house, except into her room. I still haven't been able to go back into there since the Forest Lawn people left this morning.
Since she is getting a traditional Orthodox Jewish Funeral, at her request, she won't be embalmed and she requested no visitations or viewings, so there is a good chance that when they took her this morning it was going to be the last time I ever saw her again (though Rabbi Kreiman said that I might be able to request to see her again when I go to the Funeral Home tomorrow) and they were really wonderful about letting me sit with her as long as I wanted to say goodbye. I did have a very long conversation with one of her sons this afternoon who was upset because Joan had refused to tell any of her family or friends that she was sick, for her own reasons that I never understood, so it was left up to me to break the news to all of them today, which was really hard.
Tomorrow I have to go to Forest Lawn and approve the Obituary and set the funeral date and that's not going to be good, because after talking to all of her family members who all live back East, it looks like the only people who are going to be there are the Rabbi and myself because none of them seem to have the funds to come out here for it. And that's just plain heartbreaking to me. Having no one else there but me is just going to be crushing. They all kept asking why she didn't want to be transported back East and be buried in the Family Plot (apparently they have one with several empty plots) and I didn't have an answer. She just didn't.
Maybe you were the most valuable to her, Randy. If she didn't want to be buried in the Family Plot, she must have good reasons. Just be there for her as she wanted. I know it's hard, but just be all there for her as she wished.
Randy, I'm sorry to hear of your loss. There's nothing I can think of saying I feel can relieve your pain. I wish I could. The only thing I can say is I'm sorry this has come to pass. Take care of yourself and know many of us will be thinking of you.
Randy, I'm so very sorry to hear this. Unfortunately, I know that pain all too well. My thoughts are and will be with you. Please reach out if you need someone...you have many friends here that love you, me included. When I lost my husband five years ago, this place and these people were an unending source of comfort and support that I will never forget and always treasure.
Sorry to hear that Randy. I remember how many times you spoke here so lovingly of your wife. You must have had a very special relationship. May she sleep well through eternity.
Hi Randy,
I am so sorry to hear about Joan, my old friend. I know how much you loved her and there are not enough words to express how badly I feel for you. Be well my friend.. and we, your friends are here for you always.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Randy. I hope time can bring you peace, and that you can soon look back to the time you had with her and take joy from those memories.
My most sincere condolences regarding the loss of your wife.
Sincerest condolences old friend. I hope time will heal the pain and leave only good memories.
Thank you all. She had been on Fentanyl patches the past few days so she was in no pain. Last night when I checked on her she was sleeping and this morning she looked just the same so like the Hospice nurse who came here this morning said she must have just slipped away with no suffering, so at least I have that to be thankful for. Even though I have known for months that it was coming this morning I have been swinging back and forth between numbness and complete grief. I have been talking to her kids and her Rabbi on the phone all morning and they have all been wonderful too.
Dearest Randy - I am so sorry to hear about your wife's passing. I cannot even begin to understand what you are going through right now, but I would like to offer my prayers and condolences to you and your family.
So sorry to hear this Randy. I hope you come back to NT. Take care, we're thinking of you.
I'm so sorry to hear about that Randy.
It always seems to work that way. Even when you know that it's imminent, it's still a surprise and a shock. Best of good wishes to you.
Randy, so sorry to hear about your wife. 😢
I am very sorry to hear that, Randy. There are few words for the void I know she leaves behind, but I wish you strength to fill it with beautiful memories of her.
Dear Friend Randy: When and as needed and wanted, I am but a site private note, and private emails away anytime.
P&AB.
Enoch.
My sympathies.
Sorry to hear this news
Randy, I’m so very sorry and can’t put that into the right words. You are loved here and I have your back however you need it.
Randy, my Mariner, We know that Joan is in peace now - no more pain, no more worries. Hopefully our outpouring of strength and support will help you stay focused and on the right path.
We love you man - and we mean it - Semper Fi - always loyal and faithful.
So sorry to hear of your loss, Randy. Warm thoughts for comfort.
Dear Friend Randy,
It is with heartfelt sorrow to hear that your beloved wife and life's partner has walked on. But, it is a true Blessing that she was able to do so peacefully.
May she find peace as she moves on to the next steps of her own eternal journey. While her human form will no longer be by your side, her loving Spirit will be with you.
nv-wa-do-hi-ya-dv (Peace)
Thanks again to all of you for your love and support. It's so nice to be able to come back after so long and to still feel such warmth. After taking care of Joan pretty much 24 hours a day, 7 days a week I am sort of lost as to what to do with myself, so I have found myself just wandering around the house, except into her room. I still haven't been able to go back into there since the Forest Lawn people left this morning.
Since she is getting a traditional Orthodox Jewish Funeral, at her request, she won't be embalmed and she requested no visitations or viewings, so there is a good chance that when they took her this morning it was going to be the last time I ever saw her again (though Rabbi Kreiman said that I might be able to request to see her again when I go to the Funeral Home tomorrow) and they were really wonderful about letting me sit with her as long as I wanted to say goodbye. I did have a very long conversation with one of her sons this afternoon who was upset because Joan had refused to tell any of her family or friends that she was sick, for her own reasons that I never understood, so it was left up to me to break the news to all of them today, which was really hard.
Tomorrow I have to go to Forest Lawn and approve the Obituary and set the funeral date and that's not going to be good, because after talking to all of her family members who all live back East, it looks like the only people who are going to be there are the Rabbi and myself because none of them seem to have the funds to come out here for it. And that's just plain heartbreaking to me. Having no one else there but me is just going to be crushing. They all kept asking why she didn't want to be transported back East and be buried in the Family Plot (apparently they have one with several empty plots) and I didn't have an answer. She just didn't.
Sounds like an awful lot to bear right now Randy. I’m sending much good Karma, vibes, and peace for you in the following days buddy.
Maybe you were the most valuable to her, Randy. If she didn't want to be buried in the Family Plot, she must have good reasons. Just be there for her as she wanted. I know it's hard, but just be all there for her as she wished.
I'm so sorry to hear that Joan has walked on. My deepest condolences to you my friend.
Oh Randy, I am so sorry. I was just thinking about you a few days ago. Please know that you are very much loved on NT, and we're here for you.
PS: You have been missed.
I know the pain of losing a loved one. Allow me to offer my Condolences.
My deepest condolences
Randy, I'm sorry to hear of your loss. There's nothing I can think of saying I feel can relieve your pain. I wish I could. The only thing I can say is I'm sorry this has come to pass. Take care of yourself and know many of us will be thinking of you.
Randy, I'm so very sorry to hear this. Unfortunately, I know that pain all too well. My thoughts are and will be with you. Please reach out if you need someone...you have many friends here that love you, me included. When I lost my husband five years ago, this place and these people were an unending source of comfort and support that I will never forget and always treasure.
Dear Randy: I am so sorry to hear about your wife's passing, stay strong and just take one day at a time..Blessings CM..