It's not about.... An exercise in Perception.
After watching this video, please describe what you think it's about.
The Chinese version found here:
http://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XNTc5MjM1Njcy.html
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I personally have no idea, however that's not to say some one from NT will nail it on the head,.....
LOL... I'm not to sure... but you did make me giggle.
Stevie sez it best - no cure for the snagged sweaters though.
It's about... ... ... NEWSTALKERS!!
OK guys... glad you are having fun, but that isn't what this is about. Now use your great minds and find a point of discussion.
Pretty close John... but not quite... Is it about agreement? What does the guy want?
Duh, she wants a "poor baby".....NOT a solution. Didn't ask for a solution, don't give her a solution!
The fella wants to help in the best way he can see how, which doesn't agree with her sense of what she needs. You can lead a horse to water, but if they're too stupid to know how to drink, it don't matter.
It's about control.
Control of the discussion.
Control of the narrative.
Control of what is factual, and to discount completely what you do not feel is relevant to the facts.
Always a joy.
That is one interpretation. Sometimes a person just wants to be heard.
Do you think it has anything to do with how different sexes deal with problems?
Larry,
Is it more like men are fixers and woman are communicators?
Jon,
A very enlightened perspective.
Robert,
Good to know that how you would handle the situation... but not quite the point of this.
I definitely see it as a sex difference as does my husband. He watched the video and his immediate response was "I get it!", which is why we'll be married 34 years in 2015
The first husband didn't get it.
Wondering what the response(s) would be in a same sex relationship. Perhaps I'll ask my niece.
It's about gender differences in perception . Men like to come up with solutions . Women like to give & receive empathy . But it is a sarcastic view of the latter . Richly deserved at times ...
The four most terrifying words spoken to a man by a women...''We need to talk''.
What I see, is both sides want to fix the other, the issue is in how the sides perceive what needs to be fixed.
They see it individually, from their own perspectives. They are both reaching out to the other but not in the way either really wants to receive the approach.
The biggest question, is how to resolve the problem mutually, is it her problem or his? it is neither. From the outside it appears to be her problem, from the inside it appears to be his problem.
In reality, it is not a problem.
Hence, it is not about the nail.
The whole bumping heads thing at the end is absolutely illustrative of the concept. we must be aware of our issues and differences and account for them, but we cannot allow them to rule.
Ummm... We have a person who wants to talk, but doesn't know what she is talking about.
We have a browbeaten conversation partner who doesn't dare say what he thinks...
That sounds like an allegory for Newstalkers!
NWman - certainly Perrie's call but I'd move you to the front of the classroom!
Are you sure it isn't "Honey, How do I look in this?"
Actually it's, ''do I look fat in this dress''....That is a no win, no matter how you answer.
First answer....No, you look great.
Response...You're lying
Second answer...No, you look fat it it.
Response...I do not, you lying
Third response....I'm a born liar, so anything I say, I'm not responsible for.
Forth response....Written in a note, ''I've lost my voice and eye sight''.
It's not the dress that makes you look fat.
It's your fat that makes you look fat.
And we have a winner!
You are 100% correct NWman ( I keep thinking I see.... )
Perception is the name of the game.
Go to the head of the class Newman!
Does the term ''in the doghouse'' ring a bell Jonathan?....LOL
Of course you could go all out and tell her...You ass is two ax handles wide.
Jonathan,
You like living on the edge!
Confused Feelings?
One always had to wonder why Seinfield allowed Newman to stick around.
Looks like he wants to deal with the obvious; she wants to deal with everything but!
Denial an inability or reluctance to acknowledge reality neuroses, character disorders "my way or the highway" don't try and confuse me with the facts
By whom ?
Ladies,
It's not that I disagree with you... in fact, most people would treat this issue exactly that way. But it's in the subtext that we gain a greater understanding of how each of us operators, which is different for each individual.
I had a subtext once . But then autocorrect ran amok and ruined it ...
My dear Perrie, are you doing exactly what that woman is doing? Going to the deeper level when solving the surface problem might actually save a good deal of that damage to the deeper self?
It simply implies that men are pragmatists, and women are whiney drama queens that can't see the root of a problem even if it is staring them right in the face.
You don't see this guy complaining, and he's wearing a turtleneck:
Yes, of course she is. And the same follow-up question applies: why are we sometimes compelled to such misdirection?
Charming Hal. Bet you're not married and if you are, my condolences to your wife.
jennilee,
It only hurts putting it on and taking it off. Other than that... just a dull ache.
Neetu, Look at this explanation: The point of the exercise it to look beyond the obvious... In most human relationships, what we are relaying to someone, is not the real issue.
OK.... I won't tell her that you pretend to be progressive, but in reality, you're a caveman, LOL!
He wants to help her fix her problem, but she doesn't really want the problem fixed. She would rather continue complaining about the problem in an effort to gain sympathy for her 'plight'.
(Reminds me of someone I used to be married to)
The bottom line is, it is about the nail.
You cannot fix a problem until you understand the cause of the problem.
For instance; the American people have a problem with the lack of productivity from the members of Congress, but the Congress is not the nail, the nail is the people that but the members of congress in office.